Sex : Good or Bad?

Is sex Good or Bad?
How much sex should be there in life?
Why sex causes addiction?
Can sex spoil our life?
Is open sex good or bad?
What is healthy sexuality?

There can be many more questions related to sex. And these questions are important because of the fact that sex is one of the most used, misused and abused thing today. It occupies prominent position in today’s world. Media, internet, movies are full of it. The cultures around the world differ widely. Some societies are very open and some against. There are no clear cut answers and this leads to sexual anarchy where kids are left to learn everything on their own and face consequences.

Is sex beneficial or harmful?

Sex is a very strong force like fire. It can be very beneficial as well as very harmful. It all depends on how it is used. When used sensibly with discipline in right manner, it is beneficial. It has many beneficial effects at physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual level. For understanding one may compare it with hunger. Eating food is not harmful but is necessary. Those who knows what to eat, how much to eat, when to eat and when not to eat, they are able to have good health and enjoy life. But world today is full of poor eaters who because of bad eating habits are suffering from obesity and many physical & psychological disorders including food addictions. Similarly if you are wise, have the ability of self control and know dos and don’ts of sex then you will enjoy sex, have good life and remain free from disorders & addictions. Those who do not develop self control fall for temptations and ultimately develop a sexual behavior which proves harmful at physical, psychological, social and spiritual level.

How can sex be harmful? It is natural activity. Here is the real catch. True it is natural, true it is pleasurable and true it has beneficial effects. But it is also a learned behavior. Mental appetite for sex can be increased to any levels but body has its limitations. This leads to sexual incapability and frustration. Sale of sexual drugs is a proof. Socially inappropriate behavior & sexual crimes another. Human beings have the capacity to fantasize and dwell long on sexual matters. No one can have sex with anyone whenever required. Media add to the fire. Sex sells so people are happy earning money using sex but turning themselves like sexual workers and pimps. The combination of sexual pleasure, sexual fantasy, media, lack of sex education and commercialization of sex is leading to sexual anarchy which is wrongly at times termed as sexual freedom. The ill effects of this are seen directly as well as indirectly.

The result is:

– Physical sexual disorders

– Psychological sexual disorders

– Relationship discords

– Family discords

– Disordered personalities

– Poor professional performance

– Poor social behavior

– Sex and pornography addiction

– Sexual crimes

How much sex should be there in life?

It should be in correct proportion depending on age, health status, life circumstances and other aspects of life. Person should be sexually groomed during teenage through correct sex education. There should be no rush at premature age. Teenage sex must be avoided. With rising age one should be able to restrict to proportional level and still better sublime. There must be good balance between mental stimulation and physical satisfaction. One should avoid artificial stimulation like watching pornography. It should not affect your physical or mental health, relationships, socialization, professional growth etc. It should not affect your time management. It should not become your only driving force in life. It should not make you do things what you otherwise would not like to do or what others abhor. It should not become the only topic your mind dwells on. You should be able to distribute your time to various aspects of life in right proportion. You should be able to indulge or avoid keeping in mind your health.

Why sex cause addiction?

Sex is a strong force. It is pleasurable, naturally driven and it is a learned behavior too. But the biggest factor in causing addiction is artificial mental stimulation like watching pornography and dwelling on sexual thoughts in addition to some risk factors like dysfunctional families or childhood abuse. Repeated mental stimulation, internal or external leads to dependence. Since thoughts are available to any one any time any where, there is no check on it. In absence of sex education & sex discipline, the sex addiction lurks in mind unabated. To add fire, media & internet serves sex in all forms and quantity unrestricted. It is left to individual to learn and enjoy healthy sexuality.

Can sex spoil our life?

Read the possible harms of misused & abused sex. Read in everyday media about sexual harassment & sexual crimes. And this is only tip of the iceberg. A lot many harmful effects of sexual indiscipline go unnoticed. A broken relationship or family or a patient of depression may not reveal that real cause was inappropriate sexual behavior of one of the partner. Sexual inadequacy & frustration can spill over to other aspects of life. Inner discontentment and irritability may be due to sexual frustration. Kids may fall to the world of anti social elements due to pre mature sexual behavior and sex addiction. Sex can also act like distraction and can lead to lesser achievements & deviation from our wholesome growth in life. Excess sex may lead to lack of will power, self control and wisdom. And for those who are on spiritual journey, sex can be a real spoiler.