Improve Relationship

Good relationship can help in having good sex. Here are some tips to improve relationship.

Normal relationship – Some people get too concerned about being in ‘normal relationship’. They develop rigid ideas about how a relationship should be. Anything different from that is unacceptable. Remember that even ‘normal’ has some variations. Do not compare with others. If the basics of your relationship like trust and sense of belongingness are fine then be happy, your relationship is good.

Perfect partner or relationship – Just like ‘normal’ some people get too rigid about ‘perfect’ partner or relationship. In such a state either they remain frustrated or try too hard to mould the other person. In both cases there are conflicts and disappointments. Focus on goodness of what you have instead of what you do not have. And the differences can be resolved through mutual cooperation.

Resolve conflicts – Conflicts are often common in relationships. Mostly these happen due to lack of skill to handle conflicts. Accept the conflict and develop openness to resolve it. Look for the cause of it. Then see how much each of you can help to make it better. Do not force solution on other person. If some of it remains then accept as part of life.

Communication – Communication should not be aimed at hurting your partner or proving your point but it should be directed to express your complaints properly and expected behavior.

Arguments – Arguments and blame game will lead to nowhere. They will only increase negativity. Instead of these develop conflict resolving skills and resolve the real disturbing issue.

Abusive relationship – If you are caught in an abusive relationship then avoid feelings like guilt or helplessness. Look carefully what is causing it. Do you have any contribution like not giving due respect to yourself. Work on the core issues. Help your partner to understand that it is detrimental for relationship. Gather courage and enhance your own position. Learn to keep yourself safe physically and emotionally.

Time – If you want to have a good relationship then it is necessary that you invest quality time into it.  Such time helps in creating better understanding and stronger bond. Both quantity and quality matters.

Intimacy – Do not equate intimacy with sex.  Being intimate is the feeling of closeness, oneness and deep affection.

Feel loved – Do not have any hesitation or guilt in your desire to feel loved. Keep your mind open to everyday small stimuli from your partner that makes you feel loved. It can be as simple as glance of eyes.

The romance – Not many people know the meaning of romance. Even less have the ability developed. It is a very fine subtle combination of emotions and activity that takes love to high spheres.

Togetherness – Togetherness is not just being physically together. It ranges from spiritual to intellectual to emotional and yes physical togetherness. The connect is the basis of meaningful togetherness.

Manage changes – Nothing is forever. Same is true for relationships. There can be changes due to work pressure, age, health, changing priorities. Love partners should be able to assess the changes and act sensibly to keep the relationship intact.

Why doesn’t he/she understand me? – This feeling can affect and spoil any relationship. It is not necessary that your partner is having any lack of interest in you. There can be other reason. Your communication may not be effective.

Affair – This can be the real test. If one partner is having an affair elsewhere. Very natural to feel hurt and insecure. Even then it is not necessary to end relationship bluntly. It may not be what you are thinking it to be or there may be some reason that can be rectified.

Dispel Relationship Myths – Get rid of common relationship myths.

• Argument is bad
• Opposite personalities attract
• We must do everything together
• There is no relationship without romance
• Sex is must
• We should agree on everything
• I will mould my partner to my choice
• Possessiveness proves depth of relationship

Work/Life Balance – Some forget work when in love and some forget love when too much occupied in work. A good life demands fine balance of two. In fact when in balance, both work and love can enhance each other.

Free time – Keep some free time for two of you which is free time, doing nothing. Spending free time together with no specific task in mind and away from TV phone and computer improves relationship. Like cuddling each other in bed can be a very satisfying moment.

Money – Be practical and sensible. True money should not be the criteria for love but money is crucial. Good money management has proved to be one major factor in having satisfying relationship.

Housework – Do not make it burden. On the contrary this can become a great way to show that you care and to have moments of togetherness and sharing.

The In-Laws – In-laws and other relations after marriage need to be managed in a way that they do not become interfering concerns.

Difference of opinion – One common mistake is to assume difference in opinion as an indicator of poor relationship. No two human beings can be exactly similar. Learn to accept and honor the difference in opinion.

Low self-esteem – Poor self esteem can be hindrance in having a good relationship. It affects ability to express and feel love.

Jealousy and Possessiveness – A sure way to kill the soul of relationship. Your partner will only feel suffocated and used.

Commitment – It is better felt than verbalized. Lip service assuring love, sincerity, commitment will fail to keep relationship going if not matched by gestures and attitude.

Illness – We all fall sick sometime or the other. It can be physical or psychological. And such are the times to show true love. Genuine support and care during such phase can create the strongest possible relationship.

Fertility issues and Children – Discuss the individual need when to welcome kids. In case of infertility look for various alternative options including adoption. Children need time and attention. Special caution is required to let the relationship active and alive during this time. Do not forget each other.

When the kids have gone – On one hand there will be void and at the same time there is opportunity to rediscover each other.

Old age – Do not make it the end. This is the time to show gratitude towards each other. And when one partner departs, relationship doesn’t end. It continues in feelings, thoughts and memories.