Relationship – A word from Dr S K Sharma
Relationship – ETHOS HEALTH CARE
Since 1994 I have been working on human psychology. A big part of that is focused on human relationships. I have been always fascinated by human relationships and its impact on our life. The growth of human civilization and culture owe most to these. These relations form core of our life. Most successful people have credited success of their lives to their loved ones and close relations. People have termed relations as the biggest asset and beauty of their life. It is said that life and world looks beautiful if you have positive relations
Relationship is a dynamic process between two personalities. No relation can exist in isolation. It is always in close interaction with circumstances and even other relations of the two. Relations are anchors of life also called as shock absorbers of life. And why not, they give you stability, identity and hold you through rough patches of life. Relations are strong to support but delicate if taken for granted. Every relationship goes through highs and lows. It depends on how you they nurture the relationship.
Types of relationships
- Family relationships
- Marital relationship
- Friendship relationship
- Romantic relationship
- Live in relationship
- Ex relationship
- Distance relationship
- Cyber / Online / Internet / Chat relationship
- Sexual relationship
- Homosexual gay or lesbian relationship
- Workplace relationship
- Official or Business relationship
- Social relationship
- Spiritual relationship
Every relationship has unique chemistry depending on type of relationship and personalities of the persons involved. They further become complex by overlapping. Therefore, they require sensitive and mature nurturing. Biggest mistakes I have seen that people make in relationships and spoil them are:
- Taking relations for granted
- Stereotype role-play
- Unrealistic expectations
- Poor communication
- Poor prioritization
It is not impossible to have positive relations. But yes, it requires desire and initiative on your part set things in order. Rest all is just a matter of Learn and Do.
Family Counselin
Family is not just living under one roof. Family is the social unit of society. It is about oneness, about one’s identity, about one’s core beliefs & values, about one’s meaning & purpose of life, about one’s personality and about one’s happiness. It is closest to one’s being and has profound impact. It has mainly following relationships:
- Parent parent relationship
- Parent child relationship
- Sibling relationship between brothers and sisters
- Grand parents relationships
- Extended family relationships
- In-laws relationships
- Step mother step father step children relationships
These relations overlap and influence each other. To add to complexities intra family dynamics are affected by interaction of family with other units. These dynamics are:
- Intra family dynamics – within the family
- Inter family dynamics – between one family and other
- Family school dynamics – between family and school
- Family society dynamics – between family and society
Common causes of family discords are:
- Rights versus responsibilities
- Role play discord
- Power disbalance
- Money matters
- Autonomy discords
- Eccentric behavior & habits
- Family culture & discipline
- Family norms & boundaries
- Addictions
- In-laws and extended family
- Interference from outside
Process of Family Counseling
- Multiple focus therapy
- Single focus therapy
- Issue based therapy
- Structure therapy
- System therapy
