Since 1994 I have been working on human psychology. A big part of that is focused on human relationships. I have been always fascinated by human relationships and its impact on our life. The growth of human civilization and culture owe most to these. These relations form core of our life. Most successful people have credited success of their lives to their loved ones and close relations. People have termed relations as the biggest asset and beauty of their life. It is said that life and world looks beautiful if you have positive relations

Relationship is a dynamic process between two personalities. No relation can exist in isolation. It is always in close interaction with circumstances and even other relations of the two. Relations are anchors of life also called as shock absorbers of life. And why not, they give you stability, identity and hold you through rough patches of life. Relations are strong to support but delicate if taken for granted. Every relationship goes through highs and lows. It depends on how you they nurture the relationship.

 Types of relationships

• Family relationships
• Marital relationship
• Friendship relationship
• Romantic relationship
• Live in relationship
• Ex relationship
• Distance relationship
• Cyber / Online / Internet / Chat relationship
• Sexual relationship
• Homosexual gay or lesbian relationship
• Workplace relationship
• Official or Business relationship
• Social relationship
• Spiritual relationship

Every relationship has unique chemistry depending on type of relationship and personalities of the persons involved. They further become complex by overlapping. Therefore, they require sensitive and mature nurturing.  Biggest mistakes I have seen that people make in relationships and spoil them are:

• Taking relations for granted
• Stereotype role-play
• Unrealistic expectations
• Poor communication
• Poor prioritization

It is not impossible to have positive relations. But yes, it requires desire and initiative on your part set things in order. Rest all is just a matter of Learn and Do. 

Family Counselin

Family is not just living under one roof. Family is the social unit of society. It is about oneness, about one’s identity, about one’s core beliefs & values, about one’s meaning & purpose of life, about one’s personality and about one’s happiness. It is closest to one’s being and has profound impact. It has mainly following relationships:

• Parent parent relationship
• Parent child relationship
• Sibling relationship between brothers and sisters
• Grand parents relationships
• Extended family relationships
• In-laws relationships
• Step mother step father step children relationships

These relations overlap and influence each other. To add to complexities intra family dynamics are affected by interaction of family with other units. These dynamics are:

• Intra family dynamics – within the family
• Inter family dynamics – between one family and other
• Family school dynamics – between family and school
• Family society dynamics – between family and society

Common causes of family discords are: 

• Rights versus responsibilities
• Role play discord
• Power disbalance
• Money matters
• Autonomy discords
• Eccentric behavior & habits
• Family culture & discipline
• Family norms & boundaries
• Addictions
• In-laws and extended family
• Interference from outside 

Process of Family Counseling 

• Multiple focus therapy
• Single focus therapy
• Issue based therapy
• Structure therapy
• System therapy

The basic concept of marriage counseling and couple counseling are same.But couple counseling and couple therapy goes further and has some unique aspects. And this unique nature is due the fact that this counseling or therapy has in focus a relationship which is the more diverse and complicated. Married people too make a couple but every couple is not necessarily married.

Salient features of couple counseling:

• Understanding the expectations
• Roles played by individuals
• Level of commitment
• Spacing and privacy
• Contribution in relationship
• Decision making in relationship
• Problem solving in relationship
• Trust and fidelity
• Time and money
• Extensions of relations

Couples therapy focuses on issues and problems existing in the relationship between two people – a couple. These issues can be due to common factors or individual factors. One may feel following symptoms indicative of relationship hitting rocks:

• Feeling of let down
• Feeling of ignored or unwanted
• Feeling of cheated
• Feeling of being used or abused
• Feeling of taken for granted
• Emotions like insecurity, anxiety, sadness or anger

In couples therapy, the therapist will help you in getting better understanding of the conflict issues and will help in deciding what changes are needed in you, your partner and in the chemistry between two of you. Therapist may use various psychological techniques including cognitive, behavior, rational emotive, transactional analysis etc to reach the desired goal of happy and vibrant relationship.

Cyber / Online / Internet / Chat / Phone relationship

Internet or chat relationships are common to turn into long distance relationships. You can broaden your horizons and get in touch with people from different locations. Sharing ideas, views and sometimes personal experience can be quite enriching and exciting. Since you do not have the option of meeting up daily to spend time together, you need to talk every day. If you do not talk often, the relationship will automatically begin to die slowly.

Steps to maintain online relationship

• Try to talk every day for at least an hour or longer.
• Enforce the sense of closeness by asking him to play music for you over Voice Conversation, or using Voice Clips
• Introduce your partner to your friends. Have conference calls with your friends and his. The point is to try to make your relationship as normal as possible.
• Play games together online. This will give you a feeling of closeness despite not being physically together.
• Be romantic and send the other person random cards or gifts, which can work even if the couple lives in different countries.
• To keep the spice in the relationship, send each other random playful emails at unusual or unexpected times of the day.

It is very common to see difficulties in such relationships. Some common reasons are:

• Change in priorities
• Preoccupation
• Lack of physical presence
• Mismatch of timing
• Difficulty in communication

Counseling will help you in understanding your own involvement in such relationship and in resolving issues to prevent any misunderstanding. One can join counseling sessions together or single.

Live in relationship is different. It has its own characteristics, benefits and difficulties. Societies around the world are still not very clear on how to react to such relationships. Reactions range from acceptance to rejection. Fortunately courts are more considerate. Women and children get almost same protection as that given under laws related to marriage.

Psychology of Live in

Why do people opt for live in relationship? Common reasons are:

• Not ready for marriage. Those who are in love or like each other but not yet ready for marriage. This includes those who are in relationship but not sure about depth of commitment.
• No marriage. Those who are not keen on marriage. Some people are averse to idea of marriage.
• Marriage yes but elsewhere. Those who love or like someone but due to certain factors know that they can not get married to each other and will marry someone else.
• Married elsewhere. Some times those already married but unhappy opt for live in with partner of choice.
• Just convenience. Sometimes it is based more on convenience as this relationship satisfies mutual needs. This may or may not include sexual need. Working people may find it difficult to find accommodation in hostel or as single and go for live in as if they are married couple.
• Mutual support. Sometimes necessity and compulsion bring two together. Many senior citizens too are using this option to spend evening of their life.
• Lets try. Some find it new and exciting to try once.

Whatever is the reason, this has become part of society. Like any other relationship this too has its share of good and bad times. This relationship has some factors which can further complicate the issues. Some are:

• No well defined structure or roles in relationship
• No well defined laws related to this
• Diverse social reaction to live in relationship
• Diverse expectations of live in partners

Some of the common issues that can cause conflicts and how counseling can help in this are:

Commitment – What should be the level of commitment? For some this should be as deep as in marriage for others the very purpose of live in is freedom. Counseling can help in understanding and resolving the expectation of commitment.

 Money – Who will spend and how much? Is it ok if one bears all expenses? Money is one of the most important factors that can damage live in relationship. Ideally two must share equally the common expenses and must not expect charity.  But there can be variation. Counseling will help you in resolving the matter with fairness.

Roles – Who will do what? There are daily chores and other works. Is it typically female for house work and male outside or equal share? How much one should help? Counseling will help you in understanding roles and how not to feel used by others.

 Sex – Not every live in relationship has sex in it. Will it be there or not and how much? Does it mean no sex elsewhere? Such issues can be resolved in counseling to avoid any feeling of breach of trust.

Space – It takes two to tango. But how much? How much time we should spend together? Do we have our private space? These issues can be resolved in counseling.

Trust – How much one should trust? How should one deal with breach in trust? Is this a breakup or just over expectation? Counseling will help you in understanding the trust levels.

Relationship can be a beautiful asset or a deadly poison. It is you who will give it shape and color. Counseling can be of great help in giving it right shape and color.

Relationship counseling is the process of counseling the parties of a relationship in an effort to recognize and to better manage or reconcile troublesome differences and repeating patterns of distress. The relationship involved may be between members of a family or a couple, employees or employers in a workplace, or between a professional and a client.

It is a great way for couples to learn to communicate when they are in discord or on the edge of breaking up, or getting a divorce. Since people affected by relationship problems are likely to be under heavy emotional stress, they are not likely to think rationally. Under the influence of emotions, they may do things that will only exacerbate the problem. Here is where counseling can help. He or she just helps you to see things which you may not be able to see when your vision is blurred by emotional effects.

It can help improve the way we relate to the people around us and break free of old patterns to realize our potential. It is usually an integral part of personal or individual work. It can offer the chance to examine our patterns of interacting with those around us to allow us to lead healthier and happier lives. We can improve our relationships with work colleagues, friends or an intimate partner when we make conscious choices and learn new skills.

Common relationship concerns include financial difficulties, barriers to communication, routine conflict, emotional distance, sexual intimacy issues, and lack of trust. Relationship issues can contribute to mental health conditions, like depression or anxiety, for one or both partners. Relationship problems can also affect one’s self-esteem and physical health or lead to feelings of guilt, shame, or anger.  Relationship problems can also adversely affect family members, such as children, who may repeatedly witness relationship conflict between their parents.

Relationship counseling is about learning how to communicate better and learn how to balance each other in order to become happier and more loving individuals. Each session usually lasts 45 minutes to an hour, and your counselor will ask you questions so that you can talk about what’s going on and how you feel. They may offer you advice or ideas to try at home.

Several therapy approaches have been designed for couples in particular, such as Imago Relationship Therapy, but any type of therapy can help with relationship issues. In fact, many people address their relationship problems through individual therapy, and then they apply that learning in context with their partners. In addition, family therapy can benefit families whose children are affected by the tension in their parents’ relationship.

Relationships require a great deal of work. if your relationship is having problems, you shouldn’t wait too long to seek professional help. Relationship counseling is one of the most popular forms of counseling today. For many couples, this decision not only saved their relationship but helped them to become happier individuals as well.

Counselors can’t perform miracles and magically make your relationship perfect. They can only act as a liaison between both partners and listen to what you each have to say, and based on what you have both told them (separately and as a couple), suggest a course of action that may help mend the relationship.

There are different types of relationship counseling to help you and your partner resolve issues and get back to enjoying each other. Through relationship counseling, you will be able to learn tools and tricks that help to keep your relationship strong and moving in the right direction. It will help facilitate open and honest communication between partners. Communication is a vital element in a relationship so learning how to effectively tell what is on one’s mind is essential to success.

One of the biggest challenges for most couples is learning how to stop blaming each other so that they can work through the troubled times without the power struggles. Relationship counseling offers a safe haven for couples to express their needs and fears and effectively resolve anger and conflict.

Depending on the situation, your counselor might also talk to you both individually for portions of the appointment, or in separate appointments altogether. It’s hard to say exactly how a counselor is going to handle the situation, so make sure you ask plenty of questions before that first appointment so you’re not surprised by anything.

Relationship counseling is the process of counseling the parties of a relationship in an effort to recognize and to better manage or reconcile troublesome differences and repeating patterns of distress. The relationship involved may be between members of a family or a couple (see also family therapy), employees or employers in a workplace, or between a professional and a client.

Counseling can take place in a number of ways at a time to fit in with your life, Face-to-face counseling and counseling services via telephone and online. Each session usually lasts 45 minutes to an hour, and your counselor will ask you questions so that you can talk about what’s going on and how you feel. They may offer you advice or ideas to try at home. It has the following benefits:

• Learning ways to communicate better
• Learn how to argue in a healthier way
• You will learn to process and work through unresolved issues
• Learn appropriate expression, disclosure and resolution of painful emotions
• Learn how to state your needs clearly and openly within your relationship
• A deeper understanding of who your spouse is and what his/her needs are
• Learn how to work through unresolved issues
• Learn how to negotiate for change within your relationship
• Helps you to make the decision that’s right for you to move forward
• Relationships can be more successful
• Abusive relationships and domestic violence can be acknowledged.
• Destructive patterns of relating can be recognised and addressed
• Conflict and communication can be improved
• New relationship skills can be learned
• The effect of change can be examined

The most important unit of a person’s life is his family. So it is important to keep family relationships healthy. Counseling for family relationships helps people with relationship difficulties better manage the personal or interpersonal issues to do with children and family during marriage, separation and divorce. Families can be a source of support, encouragement and love but sometimes relationships within families are put under strain and family members feel isolated or overlooked.

Families of all sizes and backgrounds are bound to encounter the occasional argument and household difficulty, though some incidents can be more destructive or challenging than others. Whether involving young children or siblings, or incorporating extended family members, family counseling often offers families a way to discuss their thoughts and feelings in an unbiased and safe environment, encouraging the fostering of stronger family bonds and deeper mutual understanding.

Family counseling is a type of psychotherapy that helps family members improve communication and resolve conflicts. It may include all family members or just those most able to participate. A family member who suffers from alcoholism or drug addiction might not attend sessions, and might actually be the reason why other family members seek out family counseling.

Family counseling may not take a long time to complete. Often families benefit from four to five sessions. The number of sessions required varies, depending on the severity of the problems and the willingness of the members to participate in therapy. Family counseling can be useful in any family situation that causes stress, grief, anger or conflict. It can help you and your family members understand one another better and bring you closer together.

Benefits of counseling for family relationships

A family counselor will listen to your worries and problems and help you find your own answers. Counseling helps in the following ways:

• It helps them identify the issues and concerns leading to strained family relationships
• It can help the whole family to communicate better, and to understand and resolve differences.
• It improves the interaction and attitude between family members and help them cope with specific home situations.
• It can help family members to support one another through the difficult times
• It helps families to address not only their immediate concerns, but to approach future issues with skill and strength.
• Teaches family members about how families function in general and, in particular, how their own functions.
• Teaches you skills to deepen family connections and get through stressful times, even after you’re done going to therapy sessions.
• Helps the family focus less on the member who has been identified as ill and focus more on the family as a whole.
• Assists in identifying conflicts and anxieties and helps the family develop strategies to resolve them.
• It help you improve troubled relationships with your spouse, children, or other family members
• Strengthens all family members so they can work on their problems together.
• Teaches ways to handle conflicts and changes within the family differently. Sometimes the way family members handle problems makes them more likely to develop symptoms.

Love is the most beautiful thing of life. We all agree that one can live without money but not without love. The very basis of every relationship is love. No wonder we all eagerly wait for love of our life and wish to cherish the moments we spend together.  But why then we face problems and reach a state where one feel as if love is dead or atleast in deep coma.

Love itself is a therapy. It has capacity to heal and do wonders. On the other hand if love goes sour, it can damage deep and destroy our entire existence. Such is the power of love. A little bit of carefulness and some good love counseling can help us in having the spark again.

Some common issues that need our attention for great love are:

1. Attention
2. Care
3. Commitment
4. Communication
5. Compatibility
6. Expectations
7. Fidelity
8. Identity
9. Money
10. Priorities
11. Respect
12. Responsibility
13. Sex
14. Space
15. Spontaneity
16. Thoughtfulness
17. Time
18. Trust
19. Understanding
20. Value system

There can be others. These aspects are not in order of priority as every person and every couple will have different priorities.  The chemistry of love will depend on how partners manage interplay of these aspects mutually. Remember sub conscious mind play a big role in this and a lot happens with no control.  This is where love counseling and love therapy can help us.

Love therapist will generate a safe platform on which all these aspects can be assessed and difficulties resolved by one or both partners. The therapy in itself will become a great learning and loving experience. One gets the opportunity to resolve past, redo present and replan a loving future.

The most important gain of love therapy is how one regains a loving self, an ability to love and receive love without prejudice, preconditions and blocks.

Counseling for marriage relationship is a type of psychotherapy. It typically includes both partners, but sometimes one partner chooses to work with a therapist alone.

Signs you have relationship problems

Every relationship undergoes rough patch. Here are some of the sings that show that you have relationship problems

• Communication breaks down
• Sex has ended or causes problems
• Arguments continue without resolution
• Feel frustrated
• Violence erupts
• Money or financial problems
• Depression or other health problems recur
• The bond of trust is eroded or broken.

Those people who would like to save their relationship undergo couple or marriage counseling. Counselor serves as your coach and is going to tell you about how you could possibly see the real issues in your marital relationship. He or she will also assist you through the full discovery process. Your therapist can act as mediator or referee and help you cope with the resulting emotions and turmoil.

Benefits of marital counseling

• Destructive patterns of relating can be recognized and addressed.
• Relationships can be more successful.
• Conflict and communication can be improved.
• New relationship skills can be learned.
• The impact of change and loss can be examined.
• Abusive relationships and domestic violence can be acknowledged.

Making the decision to go to marriage counseling can be tough. If you have a troubled relationship, however, seeking help is more effective than ignoring your problems or hoping they get better on their own.

Premarital counseling is a type of therapy that helps couples prepare for marriage.  It is often provided by licensed therapists known as marriage and family therapists. Premarital counseling might be offered through religious institutions as well.  Premarital counseling can help ensure that you and your partner have a strong, healthy relationship giving you a better chance for a stable and satisfying marriage. It is designed to offer a preventative, educational approach to marriage. Good premarital counseling helps couples build healthier marriages.

There are as many reasons to seek pre-marital counseling as there are engaged couples. Sometimes one party or the other might feel that there is a serious issue that needs to be worked through before it is too late. Others may have the counseling recommended to them by a friend or perhaps it is a second marriage for the bride or groom, and they just want to make sure that this time around the marriage will stick.

The counselor listens carefully to both parties and helps them discuss their expectations, disagreements, communication issues and other problems that might crop up after marriage. The counselor allows the couple to explore different areas of the relationship. He makes them introspect on their fitness, maturity and readiness to make a commitment to each other.

Benefits of counseling for premarital relationship

• It helps couples improve their relationships before marriage
• It helps partners improve their ability to communicate, set realistic expectations for marriage and develop conflict-resolution skills.
• It define and discuss expectations for marriage, finances, work and children
• It can help couples establish a positive attitude about seeking help with their marriages down the road.

Premarital counseling can provide this guidance so that each person can mature to their fullest potential within the boundaries of a vital, fulfilling relationship. Through premarital counseling, couple can explore their dreams, their fears, their differences, and come to a greater understanding of what is sourcing their choices and behaviors.

Sexual relationships are some of the most significant in our lives. Sexual counseling can help you if you’re experiencing difficulties in your love life and can help you to improve physical intimacy.

Counseling has a very high success record and allows individuals to open up and understand themselves. it offers a way for patients to help themselves with their disorders. It gives patients an option to be honest and deal with his own insecurities. It attempts to capture a broad picture by researching origins of a patients stress and anxiety which may stem from non-sexual occurrences.

Why counseling is needed

Counseling for sexual relationship is needed when you are feeling….

• Confused about the more intimate aspects of a relationship?
• Unsure about if you want to take things “to the next level” or to maintain your commitment to abstinence?
• Worried or anxious about something that happened (or didn’t happen) during a sexual experience?
• Concerned that something might be wrong due to painful intercourse or lack of enjoyment from sex?

Sexual counseling helps to reveal the wide and complex range of psychological causes and to resolve them if possible. It can sometimes even help to control or reduce the symptoms of purely physical symptoms.

One of the hardest jobs in the world is to be a single parent.  And usually that job falls to the mother. Acting as both mother and father causes undue stress. In normal married circumstances when the kids drive you insane you yell for help from your spouse. Single parents often don’t have anyone to fall back on, and ‘role overload’ becomes one of the occupational hazards of this kind of life.

Children need the guidance and role models from both parents in order to develop in a normal way.  Unfortunately though, when a divorce has happened, it is a strong indication that one or both of the parents were not good role models to begin with.

Possible adverse effects of single parenting include poor behavior and performance at school, an increased chance of becoming involved in destructive behavior such as drugs and criminal acts, and also an increased chance of becoming pregnant or being sexually active at a young age. Parenting in a one-parent family means that you must take responsibility for many decisions alone and at times this can be very stressful. Family or new relationships, parenting alone or working at shared parenting, an absent parent, answering your child’s difficult questions, making major choices – these are just some of the issues that can arise for one-parent families. Counseling and parental involvement are essential to ensure that single parenting does not have these negative effects on a child.

Counseling provides confidential, personal time to talk and be really listened to by a non-judgmental counselor. The counselor won’t tell you what to do. He or she knows that you are the person best qualified to live your life and will support you towards your own solutions.

Addiction is a huge barrier in relationships. It causes a lot of pain and hurt in relationship. Couples in which a partner abuses drugs or alcohol are often very unhappy. They have a very difficult time getting out of this downward spiral. People who are rooted in addiction are commonly involved in unhealthy relationships. In the case of a partner who addicts, the effect is felt by his or her children, relatives, friends, and co-workers.

How addiction is Harming the Relationship

There are several signs that addictions causing harm to the relationship.

• Talking to the addict about addictive behavior can lead to domestic violence
• Isolation from friends and relatives to hide the drinking or drug problem
• Not taking care of responsibilities in the home
• The children of addicts in these relationships are also negatively affected and may become enablers as co-dependents

When you recognize these patterns in yourself or your partner, it is time to get help from a professional that specializes in addiction so that recovery can be made possible for your addictions and/or your relationships.  If the issues in the relationship are not treated, they can set the stage for continued conflict. There are many different treatments available that can be effective in reducing or eliminating problems. Some treatments involve individual counseling, o group counseling, and self-help meetings and support groups.

All relationship problems stem from poor communication. One of the most important aspects of a successful relationship is effective communication between both parties. By developing your communication skills, you and your partner will be able to establish and preserve a loving, respectful relationship between two people who love each other.

Communication is a person’s way of expressing ideas and feelings. It involves the collaboration of two people as they share and examine all of their perceptions, feelings, ideas and thoughts to come to an accurate understanding of what is happening. Honest, direct communication is a key part of any relationship. When both people feel comfortable expressing their needs, fears, and desires, trust and bonds are strengthened.

Communication will help you to comprehend a complicated issue. It will help to deal with probably the most confusing and or complicated circumstances. Communication should bring you and your partner closer to each other.  It should be used to break down the barriers that keep you apart, not to build up fortifications between you.

In relationships a high level of communication is one of the most important things you can share with your partner. Sharing what happened at work, what the kids did at school, if you are having a bad day, what you love most about each other, and even talking politics! Building communication and what you have in common is a great way to build a stronger relationship.

You can improve your relationship today, right now, by putting into practice some of these tips for improving the communication in your relationship.

• Stop and listen
• Force yourself to hear
• Try to minimize emotion when talking about important, big decisions
• Be ready to cede an argument
• Be open and honest with your partner

In relationships a high level of communication is one of the most important things you can share with your partner. Sharing what happened at work, what the kids did at school, if you are having a bad day, what you love most about each other, and even talking politics! Building communication and what you have in common is a great way to build a stronger relationship.

The worst feeling is being with someone in a romantic partnership and feeling alone. Being with someone and feeling alone is a terrible feeling.  Loneliness in marriages often happens slowly, as the disconnection we feel from our spouse gradually increases over years. It is the feeling we get in our heart and soul when we want to be connected with someone, and someone is not available to connect with

There are many reasons people experience this kind of loneliness. You might feel unable to like yourself or to be liked by others, or you may lack self-confidence. This may come from having been unloved as a child so that, as an adult, you continue to feel unlovable in all relationships. Or sometimes, consciously or unconsciously, people isolate themselves within their relationships because they are afraid of being hurt.

Loneliness can have a significant impact on your mental health. It can contribute to mental health problems, such as anxiety and depression.

What Creates Loneliness in a Relationship?

• You may feel lonely with your partner when your partner is closed and angry, or withdrawn and uncommunicative.
• You may feel lonely when you are trying to have control over your partner’s feelings by giving yourself up.
• You may feel lonely with your partner when one or both of you are closed to learning when a conflict arises.
• You will feel lonely if you or your partner stays up in your mind rather than being together with open hearts.
• You may feel lonely if your partner judges you regarding your thoughts, feelings, looks or actions. Judgment creates disconnection, and disconnection can be very lonely.
• You may feel lonely when you or your partner can’t connect due to being overly tired, frazzled and overwhelmed, or ill.

How to overcome Loneliness in relationships

• Ask yourself if you really want this relationship. Sometimes we become lonely when we long for someone or something else.
• Talk to your partner about how you feel, it will help bridge the distance you feel.
• Make time for your relationships

Relationships are built on trust and a degree of freedom and space is expected by both the partners, and if this trust and freedom is threatened, relationships start going down the drain. Possessiveness has no place in a healthy relationship because extra possessive nature in due course pushes love to backseat. Usually, an over possessive partner has a huge ego, and doesn’t have regard for the feelings and freedom of other person.

There are many reasons why possessiveness may exist and a causing your marriage to move backwards rather than forward.

• Lack of trust between partners
• Insecurity issues within the marriage
• Lack of self control

Being a possessive, controlling partner can and will ruin a potentially great relationship. If you would like to save your relationship and improve your connection with your partner, you must understand why you are being possessive and controlling. You must also change the nature of your relationship choices. Counseling can be an excellent way to put things in perspective but if you do not feel comfortable with that then changing your view of relationships is essential. Some of the things are:

• You have to stop seeing every person as a threat to your relationship.
• Building your self-esteem is another thing you need to work on.
• You could try talking things through with your partner calmly without creating a huge issue over it.
• Give space to your partner
• Communicate your feelings honestly to your loved one.

Violence in relationship is when one person in a relationship is abusive or controlling toward the other person especially when they disagree about something. Sometimes a person that seems like a kind and loving partner can turn into someone who hurts controls or scares you.  It happens to people of all races, genders, sexual orientations, classes, ages and abilities.

Relationship violence can include:

• Physical violence, like pushing, hitting, hair pulling or throwing things
• Sexual violence, like unwanted touching, sexual accusations, unwanted sexual acts
• Emotional abuse, like embarrassing the other partner or keeping that person away from family and friends

Health effects of relationship violence

• Eating disorders and anxiety disorders
• Stress or Depression
• Mental health problems – like panic attacks or trouble sleeping
• Trouble trusting people and building other relationships

Violence in an intimate or family relationship is a sign that the relationship is in crisis. It should be taken seriously and assistance should be sought. Victims of relationship violence must decide what action is appropriate for them to take. If you are a victim of relationship violence, consider telling someone you trust about your situation. If you know someone who is a victim of relationship violence it is important to listen to them, believe them, maintain confidentiality, provide options and let them know they are not alone.