• Homeopathic Treatment of Bacterial vaginosis
• Acupuncture & Acupressure Treatment of Bacterial vaginosis
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Bacterial vaginosis
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Bacterial vaginosis
• Surgical Treatment of Bacterial vaginosis
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Bacterial vaginosis
• Other Treatment of Bacterial vaginosis

What is Bacterial vaginosis

Symptoms of Bacterial vaginosis

Causes of Bacterial vaginosis

Risk factors of Bacterial vaginosis

Complications of Bacterial vaginosis

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Bacterial vaginosis

Precautions & Prevention of Bacterial vaginosis

Treatment of Bacterial vaginosis

Homeopathic Treatment of Bacterial vaginosis

Homeopathic treatment of bacterial vaginosis helps to reduce the pain and intense itching in the vagina. Homeopathy treats the person as a whole. Treatment is constitutional. It means that homeopathic treatment focuses on the patient as a person, as well as his pathological condition. It balances the energy system, improves immunity and body functions. It naturally cures the root cause of disorder. Some of the homeopathic remedies for Bacterial vaginosis are:

• Calcarea carbonica
• Sepia
• Borax
• Arsenicum album

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Bacterial vaginosis

In the allopathic treatment of bacterial vaginosis, your doctor may prescribe medications such as Metronidazole, Tinidazole and Clindamycin. Metronidazole and Tinidazole may be taken orally. Clindamycin is available as a cream that you insert into your vagina.

Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Bacterial vaginosis

• Avoid caffeine and alcohol
• Avoid fermented foods and processed foods
• Avoid high in carbohydrate
• Eat whole grains food

Other Treatment of Bacterial vaginosis

Tea tree oil can help to kill off the harmful bacteria which cause Bacterial Vaginosis.  Try using a few drops in the bath or use it in pessary form.

What is Bacterial vaginosis

Bacterial vaginosis is vaginal condition that can produce vaginal discharge and results from an overgrowth of normal bacteria in the vagina.

Symptoms of Bacterial vaginosis

• Vaginal discharge that’s thin and grayish white
• Smelly vaginal discharge
• Vaginal itching or irritation
• Pain during intercourse
• Burning during urination
• Light vaginal bleeding

Causes of Bacterial vaginosis

The exact cause is not known

Risk factors of Bacterial vaginosis

• Multiple sex partners or a new sex partner
• Women who use an intrauterine device (IUD) for birth control
• Black, non-Hispanic women
• A natural lack of lactobacilli bacteria
• The practice of rinsing out your vagina with water or a cleansing agent

Complications of Bacterial vaginosis

• Premature deliveries and low birth weight babies
• Sexually transmitted infections
• Infection risk after gynecologic surgery

Diagnosis of Bacterial vaginosis

To diagnose bacterial vaginosis, your doctor may:

• Ask questions about your medical history
• Perform a pelvic exam
• Take a sample of vaginal secretions

Precautions & Prevention of Bacterial vaginosis

• Limit your number of sex partners
• Rinse soap from your outer genital area after a shower, and dry the area well to prevent irritation
• Avoid douching

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• Homeopathic Treatment of Compulsive Sexual Behavior
• Acupuncture & Acupressure Treatment of Compulsive Sexual Behavior
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Compulsive Sexual Behavior
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Compulsive Sexual Behavior
• Surgical Treatment of Compulsive Sexual Behavior
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Compulsive Sexual Behavior
• Other Treatment of Compulsive Sexual Behavior

What is Compulsive Sexual Behavior

Symptoms of Compulsive Sexual Behavior

Causes of Compulsive Sexual Behavior

Risk factors of Compulsive Sexual Behavior

Complications of Compulsive Sexual Behavior

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Compulsive Sexual Behavior

Precautions & Prevention of Compulsive Sexual Behavior

Treatment of Compulsive Sexual Behavior

Homeopathic Treatment of Compulsive Sexual Behavior

Excellent results with homeopathy. Homeopathy naturally balances the sexual desire and function of the person. Homeopathy treats the person as a whole. Treatment is constitutional. It means that homeopathic treatment focuses on the patient as a person, as well as his pathological condition. It balances the energy system, emotions, personality disorder and helps in developing healthy sexuality. It naturally cures the root cause of disorder. Some of the homeopathic medicines for treatment of are:

• Canth
• Phos
• Stram
• Kali br
• Hyos
• Plat

Acupuncture and Acupressure Treatment of Compulsive Sexual Behavior

Acupuncture has profound effect on human sexuality. It balances sexuality both at the level of mind and body. Therapist will select certain acupoints chosen individually to treat compulsive sexual behavior.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Treatment of Compulsive Sexual Behavior

Several forms of psychotherapy that may help compulsive sexual behavior are Cognitive behavioral therapy, Group therapy and Family therapy or marriage counseling. It helps in identifying unhealthy, negative beliefs and behaviors and replaces them with healthy, positive ones. It also helps to explore your emotions and relationships. Hypnotherapy is quick and effective treatment as it works on the deep subconscious mind and deep psychological issues.

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Compulsive Sexual Behavior

In allopathic treatment of compulsive sexual behavior, Antidepressants such as fluoxetine (Prozac), paroxetine (Paxil), sertraline (Zoloft) are prescribed. Anti-androgens are also used to reduce the biological effects of sex hormones (androgens) in men. Another medication named Luteinizing hormone-releasing hormone (LHRH) is used to reduce obsessive sexual thoughts by reducing the production of testosterone.

What is Compulsive Sexual Behavior

Compulsive sexual behavior refers to the phenomenon in which people cannot manage their sexual behavior. It is an obsession with sexual thoughts, feelings or behaviors that affects your health, job, relationships or other parts of your life.

Symptoms of Compulsive Sexual Behavior

• Sexual impulses that cannot be controlled
• Continue do risky sexual behaviors
• Trouble in establishing and maintaining emotional closeness
• Compulsive self-stimulation

Causes of Compulsive Sexual Behavior

• Conditions that affect the brain
• Changes in brain pathways
• Sex hormone levels
• An imbalance of natural brain chemicals

Risk factors of Compulsive Sexual Behavior

• Having multiple sexual partners or extramarital affairs
• Engaging in excessive masturbation
• A history of physical or sexual abuse
• Alcohol or drug abuse problems
• Visiting sexually explicit Internet sites or services
• Avoiding emotional involvement in sexual relationships

Complications of Compulsive Sexual Behavior

• Neglect or lie to your partner and family
• Contract HIV, hepatitis or another sexually transmitted infection
• Engage in drug or substance abuse
• Face an unwanted pregnancy
• Struggle with feelings of guilt

Diagnosis of Compulsive Sexual Behavior

Psychiatrist or other mental health provider will do a psychological evaluation, which involves answering a number of questions about sexual thoughts, behaviors, drug abuse, family relationships etc. Currently, mental health providers use the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) — a manual published by the American Psychiatric Association — as a guide for diagnosing mental health problems.

Precautions & Prevention of Compulsive Sexual Behavior

• Seek treatment early for mental health disorders
• Identify and seek help for alcohol and drug abuse problems
• Get help early for problems with sexual behavior
• Avoid risky behaviors
• Seek treatment for childhood sexual abuse

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• Homeopathic Treatment of Female sexual dysfunction
• Acupuncture & Acupressure Treatment of Female sexual dysfunction
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Female sexual dysfunction
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Female sexual dysfunction
• Surgical Treatment of Female sexual dysfunction
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Female sexual dysfunction
• Other Treatment of Female sexual dysfunction

What is Female sexual dysfunction

Symptoms of Female sexual dysfunction

Causes of Female sexual dysfunction

Risk factors of Female sexual dysfunction

Complications of Female sexual dysfunction

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Female sexual dysfunction

Precautions & Prevention of Female sexual dysfunction

Treatment of Female sexual dysfunction

Homeopathic Treatment of Female sexual dysfunction

Homeopathic treatment of female sexual dysfunction has helped multitudes of women to overcome their suffering and lead a normal sexual life once again. Lack of libido and inability to become aroused show good response to treatment with homeopathy. Some of the homeopathic medicines for female sexual dysfunction are:

• Caust
• Helon
• Lyco
• Nat M
• Sulph
• Sepia

Acupuncture & Acupressure Treatment of Female sexual dysfunction

Acupuncture involves the insertion of extremely thin needles in your skin at strategic points on your body. By inserting needles into specific points along these meridians, acupuncture practitioners believe that your energy flow will rebalance. It may have positive effects on women with sexual pain disorders. It also helps to improve libido in women with low desire.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Treatment of Female sexual dysfunction

Psychotherapy treatment includes education about normal sexual response, ways to enhance intimacy with your partner, and recommendations for reading materials or couples exercises. It may helps you gain a better understanding of your sexual identity, beliefs and attitudes, relationship with your partner, communication and your overall emotional health. Hypnotherapy quickly resolves deep psychological issues and help in regaining normal sexual function. Sex therapy is very helpful in having a good sex life.

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Female sexual dysfunction

The allopathic treatment of female sexual dysfunction involves treating thyroid problems or other hormonal conditions, optimizing treatment for depression or anxiety. Treatment also includes estrogen therapy and Androgen therapy.

Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Female sexual dysfunction

• Avoid excessive alcohol
• Eat foods like nut, cereals, milk, honey etc.
• Eat fruits and vegetables
• Avoid tea and coffee

Other Treatment of Female sexual dysfunction

• Pelvic floor exercises can help with some arousal and orgasm problems.
• Perform a series of postures and controlled breathing exercises to promote a more flexible body and a calm mind

What is Female sexual dysfunction

Female sexual dysfunction occurs when a woman is not able to fully, healthily, and pleasurably experience some or all of the various physical stages the body normally experiences during sexual activity.

Symptoms of Female sexual dysfunction

• You cannot experience an orgasm
• Pain during sexual contact
• Lack of sexual desire
• Feelings of fear or anger towards their partners

Causes of Female sexual dysfunction

• Lower estrogen levels
• Arthritis
• Urinary or Bowel difficulties
• Pelvic surgery
• Fatigue and Headaches
• Untreated anxiety or depression

Risk factors of Female sexual dysfunction

• A history of sexual abuse
• Depression or anxiety
• Cardiovascular disease
• spinal cord injury or multiple sclerosis
• Certain medications, such as antidepressants or high blood pressure medications
• Emotional or psychological stress
• Liver or kidney failure
• Alcoholism or drug abuse

Diagnosis of Female sexual dysfunction

Diagnosis of Female sexual dysfunction involves the following tests:

• Sexual history
• Pelvic exam

Your doctor may also refer you to a counselor or therapist specializing in sexual and relationship problems.

Precautions & Prevention of Female sexual dysfunction

• Avoid excessive alcohol
• Quit smoking

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• Homeopathic Treatment of Genital Herpes
• Acupuncture & Acupressure Treatment of Genital Herpes
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Genital Herpes
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Genital Herpes
• Surgical Treatment of Genital Herpes
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Genital Herpes
• Other Treatment of Genital Herpes

What is Genital Herpes  

Symptoms of Genital Herpes  

Causes of Genital Herpes  

Risk factors of Genital Herpes  

Complications of Genital Herpes  

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Genital Herpes  

Precautions & Prevention of Genital Herpes  

Treatment of Genital Herpes  

Homeopathic Treatment of Genital Herpes

Homeopathic medicines take care of the acute symptoms and prevent recurrence of the infection. It helps in alleviating the lesions, the pain and the discomfort associated with genital Herpes. Some of the homeopathic remedies for treatment of genital herpes are:

• Natrum mur
• Petroleum
• Dulcamara
• Graphites
• Hepar-sulph
• Medorrhinum
• Anancardium

Acupuncture & Acupressure Treatment of Genital Herpes  

Acupuncture treatment of genital herpes put down outbreaks, lengthens the remission period between outbreaks and prevents recurrences. It works by causing the release of endorphins to relieve pain or influencing neurotransmitters.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Treatment of Genital Herpes  

Hypnotherapy is psychotherapy techniques that may be useful for dealing with the emotional pain sometimes associated with having genital herpes. Sex therapy may be required to manage sex life.

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Genital Herpes  

Allopathic treatment for herpes simplex is, topical applications of the drug, acyclovir (Zovirax).

Surgical Treatment of Genital Herpes  

There is no need for surgical treatment for genital herpes.

Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Genital Herpes  

• Avoid chocolates
• Diet for genital herpes is a protein named lysine, which is found in potatoes, beans, chicken, fish, and milk.

Other Treatment of Genital Herpes  

When an outbreak of blisters occurs, a warm sitz bath can soothe the pain and irritation.

What is Genital Herpes  

Genital herpes is a common infectious disease caused by a virus that infects genital areas. It is a common sexually transmitted infection that affects both men and women.

Symptoms of Genital Herpes  

• Fever, headache, and muscle aches
• Painful, itchy blisters in the genital region
• Painful urination
• Swollen and tender lymph nodes in the groin
• Tingling, burning, itching, and redness at the site where an outbreak is about to occur
• Depressed state or irritability

Causes of Genital Herpes  

Genital herpes is caused by a virus known as Herpes Simplex Virus-1 and Herpes Simplex Virus-2

Risk factors of Genital Herpes  

• Having many sexual partners
• Women are more likely to have genital herpes than are men

Complications of Genital Herpes  

• Bladder problems
• Meningitis
• Newborn infection
• Other sexually transmitted infections
• Rectal inflammation (proctitis)

Diagnosis of Genital Herpes  

Diagnosis of genital herpes includes the following:

• Physical exam
• DNA test
• Blood test
• Viral culture

Precautions & Prevention of Genital Herpes  

• Avoid sexual contact if you have genital herpes
• Avoid sexual contact with many partners
• Limit the number of sex partners
• Use a latex condom during each sexual contact

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• Homeopathic Treatment of Genital warts
• Acupuncture & Acupressure Treatment of Genital warts
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Genital warts
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Genital warts
• Surgical Treatment of Genital warts
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Genital warts
• Other Treatment of Genital warts

What is Genital warts

Symptoms of Genital warts

Causes of Genital warts

Risk factors of Genital warts

Complications of Genital warts

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Genital warts

Precautions & Prevention of Genital warts

Treatment of Genital warts

Homeopathic Treatment of Genital warts

The homeopathic remedies can work well with your body’s immune system to help get rid of this virus. It acts by triggering a response of the immune system against the warts to kill them. Some of the homeopathic remedies used for treatment of genital warts are:

• Calcarea
• Nitric ac
• Hepar
• Nat S
• Sepia
• Thuja

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Genital warts

Conventional or Allopathic Treatment of Genital warts include the following medications:

• Trichloroacetic acid (TCA) – This chemical treatment burns off genital warts.
• Imiquimod (Aldara, Zyclara) – This cream appears to boost your immune system’s ability to fight genital warts
• Podophyllin and podofilox (Condylox) – Podophyllin is a plant-based resin that destroys genital wart tissue.

Surgical Treatment of Genital warts

Surgical Treatment of Genital warts includes the following surgeries:

• Freezing with liquid nitrogen (cryotherapy)
• Electrocautery
• Surgical excision
• Laser treatments

Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Genital warts

• Eat Foods high in antioxidants such as broccoli, strawberries, oranges, lemons, spinach and almonds
• Eat food rich in folic acid such as nuts, whole grains and bananas

What is Genital warts

Genital warts are one of the most common types of sexually transmitted infections. They are caused by a virus known as the human papilloma virus (HPV).

Symptoms of Genital warts

• Small, flesh-colored or gray swellings in your genital area
• Bleeding from the warts during sex
• Several warts close together that takes on a cauliflower shape
• Itchiness and irritation

Causez of Genital warts

• Genital warts can be passed from one person to another during sex
• It can be transmitted by skin-to-skin contact with someone who has the wart virus

Risk factors of Genital warts

• Becoming sexually active at a young age
• Having unprotected sex with multiple partners
• Having had another sexually transmitted infection
• Having sex with a partner whose sexual history you don’t know

Complications of Genital warts

• Cervical cancer
• Problems during pregnancy

Diagnosis of Genital warts

Diagnosis of Genital warts includes the following tests:

• Viewing warts through a special microscope
• Pap tests
• HPV test

Precautions & Prevention of Genital warts

• Avoid Sharing of towels and undergarments
• Using a condom every time you have sex reduces the risk
• Vaccination prevents further complications

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• Homeopathic Treatment of Gonorrhea
• Acupuncture & Acupressure Treatment of Gonorrhea
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Gonorrhea
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Gonorrhea
• Surgical Treatment of Gonorrhea
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Gonorrhea
• Other Treatment of Gonorrhea

What is Gonorrhea

Symptoms of Gonorrhea

Causes of Gonorrhea

Risk factors of Gonorrhea

Complications of Gonorrhea

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Gonorrhea

Precautions & Prevention of Gonorrhea

Treatment of Gonorrhea

Homeopathic Treatment of Gonorrhea

Homeopathy improves immunity and relieves complaints. It treats the person as a whole. Treatment is constitutional. It means that homeopathic treatment focuses on the patient as a person, as well as his pathological condition. It balances the energy system, improves immunity and body functions. It naturally cures the root cause of disorder. Some of the homeopathic medicines for treatment of gonorrhea are:

• Can S
• Canth
• Kali Chl
• Merc
• Puls
• Thuja
• Sepia

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Gonorrhea

In the allopathic Treatment of Gonorrhea, adults and babies both are treated by antibiotics.

Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Gonorrhea

• Suma is a helpful herbal remedy in the treatment of gonorrhea and other sexually transmitted infections

What is Gonorrhea

Gonorrhea is an infection caused by a sexually transmitted bacterium that can infect both males and females. The bacteria that cause gonorrhea can infect the genital tract, mouth or anus. Babies can be infected during childbirth if their mothers are infected. In babies, gonorrhea most commonly affects the eyes

Symptoms of Gonorrhea

• Painful urination
• Pus-like discharge from the tip of the penis
• Pain or swelling in one testicle
• Increased vaginal discharge
• Abdominal pain
• Pelvic pain
• Vaginal bleeding
• Eye pain
• Sensitivity to light
• Sore throat and swollen lymph nodes
• The affected joints may be warm, red, swollen and extremely painful

Causes of Gonorrhea

It is caused by the bacterium Neisseria gonorrhoeae. It is spread by vaginal and anal intercourse and oral sex.

Risk factors of Gonorrhea

• Young age
• A new sex partner
• Multiple sex partners
• Previous gonorrhea diagnosis

Complications of Gonorrhea

• Infertility in both men and women
• Infection that spreads to the joints and other areas of your body
• Increased risk of HIV/AIDS
• Babies who contract gonorrhea from their mothers during birth can develop blindness, sores on the scalp and infections.

Diagnosis of Gonorrhea

Diagnosis of Gonorrhea involves the following tests

• Urine test
• Swab of affected area
• Test for other sexually transmitted infections

Precautions & Prevention of Gonorrhea

• Ask your partner to be tested for sexually transmitted infections
• Use a condom if you choose to have sex
• Don’t have sex with someone who has any unusual symptoms
• Consider regular gonorrhea screening if you have an increased risk.

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• Homeopathic Treatment of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)
• Acupuncture Treatment of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)
• Surgical Treatment of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)
• Other Treatment of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

What is Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

Symptoms of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

Causes of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

Risk factors of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

Complications of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

Precautions & Prevention of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

Treatment of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

Homeopathic Treatment of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

Homeopathic treatment addressed both mental as well as physical component of the disorder. Homeopathy doctors treat patients suffering from anxiety, fear of failure to do sex, erectile dysfunction (ED) or impotence associated with stress, diabetes, and high blood pressure. Below are some of the homeopathic remedies for treatment of impotence (erectile dysfunction).

• Agnus c
• Calad
• Conium
• Lycopodium
• Acid Phos
• Baryta-carb
• Nux vomica
• Selenium

Acupuncture and Acupressure Treatment of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

Acupuncture is one natural way to cure impotence. It is helpful in treating erectile dysfunction caused by both psychological factors and physical factors, as the treatment tends to ease symptoms of stress and anxiety and physical sexual function.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Treatment of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

Psychotherapy and hypnotherapy has excellent results in treatment of impotence. It may be best achieved by inclusion of both partners in treatment plans. It may be useful for patients with erectile dysfunction with deep psychological cause. Hypnotherapy works on deep subconscious mind and gives quick results.

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

Conventional or Allopathic medications work by increasing tissue sensitivity to the blood-vessel-dilating substance nitric oxide (NO) in the penis.

Surgical Treatment of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

Surgery is generally used to increase the blood supply to the penis or implanting a prosthetic device within the penis.

Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

• Avoid fatty foods
• Eat leafy green vegetables and whole grain cereals

Other Treatment of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

• Yoga reduces stress, so it helps prevent and treat Erectile Dysfunction.
• Daily Exercise increases the level of male hormones

What is Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

Erectile dysfunction or male impotence is defined as the inability of a man to achieve and maintain an erection sufficient for mutually satisfactory intercourse with his partner.

Symptoms of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

• Incapability to achieve erection
• Incapable to have good erection with partner
• Unable to uphold strong erection for a pleasant sexual intercourse

Causes of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

• Depression
• Stress
• Performance anxiety
• Alcohol consumption
• Excess smoking
• Hypertension

Risk factors of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

• Increases with age
• Less education
• Heart disease
• Diabetes
• Obesity

Complications of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

• An unsatisfactory sex life
• Stress or anxiety
• Low self-esteem
• Marital or relationship problems
• The inability to get your partner pregnant

Diagnosis of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

Impotence can be diagnosed by patient history, physical examination, laboratory tests and a psychosocial examination.

Precautions & Prevention of Impotence (Erectile Dysfunction)

• Avoiding cigarette smoking
• Maintaining normal blood pressure and cholesterol levels
• Keep blood sugar levels under control
• Exercise regularly

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• Homeopathic Treatment of Male hypogonadism
• Acupuncture & Acupressure Treatment of Male hypogonadism
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Male hypogonadism
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Male hypogonadism
• Surgical Treatment of Male hypogonadism
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Male hypogonadism
• Other Treatment of Male hypogonadism

What is Male hypogonadism

Symptoms of Male hypogonadism

Causes of Male hypogonadism

Risk factors of Male hypogonadism

Complications of Male hypogonadism

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Male hypogonadism

Precautions & Prevention of Male hypogonadism

Treatment of Male hypogonadism

Homeopathic Treatment of Male Hypogonadism

Homeopathy relieves physical and sexual complaints. It stimulates normal and healthy sexuality. It treats the person as a whole. Treatment is constitutional. It means that homeopathic treatment focuses on the patient as a person, as well as his pathological condition. It balances the energy system, improves immunity and body functions. It naturally cures the root cause of disorder. Some of the homeopathic medicines that can be used for treatment of male hypogonadism are:

• Kali iod
• Rhodo
• Aur
• Gels
• Con
• Caps
• Bufo
• Staph

Acupuncture and Acupressure Treatment of Male Hypogonadism

Acupuncture relieves by improving the physiological function of the organs and organ system. In acupuncture therapist will first diagnose the case on the basis of energy system or chi blockage as well as on the basis of status of five elements. On this basis certain disease specific acupoints are selected and stimulated.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Treatment of Male Hypogonadism

Psychotherapy and hypnotherapy can help in stress relief. They can help in better coping and early relief.

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Male hypogonadism

For hypogonadism caused by testicular failure, doctors use male hormone replacement. Testosterone injections are given in a muscle about every two weeks. You rub testosterone gel (AndroGel, Testim) into your skin on your lower abdomen, upper arm or shoulder.

Surgical Treatment of Male hypogonadism

Doctors may use surgical procedures to treat some of the problems associated with hypogonadism

• One of those problems occurs when primary hypogonadism causes infertility
• Other includes those of male infants in whom hypogonadism is associated with cryptorchidism, the medical term for failure of one or both of the testes to descend.

What is Male hypogonadism

Male hypogonadism is an underproduction of the male sex hormone testosterone, the hormone that plays a key role in masculine growth and development during puberty.

Symptoms of Male hypogonadism

• Erectile dysfunction
• Infertility
• Decreased sex drive
• Decrease in beard and body hair growth
• Decrease in muscle mass
• Gynecomastia
• Loss of bone mass
• Fatigue
• Hot flashes

Causes of Male hypogonadism

• Klinefelter syndrome
• Undescended testicles
• Mumps orchitis
• Hemochromatosis
• Injury to the testicles
• Cancer treatment
• Kallmann syndrome
• Pituitary disorders
• Inflammatory disease
• HIV/AIDS
• Obesity
• Certain drugs, such as opiate pain medications

Risk factors of Male hypogonadism

• Injury to your testicles
• Hemochromatosis
• Kallmann syndrome
• Undescended testicles as an infant
• Mumps infection affecting your testicles
• Pituitary tumors
• HIV/AIDS
• Klinefelter syndrome
• Previous chemotherapy or radiation therapy

Diagnosis of Male hypogonadism

Diagnosis of Male hypogonadism includes the following tests:

• Physical exam
• Blood tests that measure testosterone levels

If tests confirm you have low testosterone, further testing can determine if a testicular disorder or a pituitary abnormality is the cause. These tests includes

Precautions & Prevention of Male hypogonadism

• Maintain normal body weight
• Have healthy eating habits

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• Homeopathic Treatment of Painful Sex Coition
• Acupuncture Treatment of Painful Sex Coition
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Painful Sex Coition
• Conventional Allopathic Treatment of Painful Sex  Coition
• Surgical Treatment of Painful Sex Coition
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Painful Sex Coition
• Other Treatment of Painful Sex Coition

What is Painful Sex Coition 

Symptoms of Painful Sex Coition 

Causes of Painful Sex Coition 

Risk factors of Painful Sex Coition 

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Painful Sex Coition 

Precautions & Prevention of Painful Sex  Coition 

Treatment of Painful Sex Coition 

Homeopathic Treatment of Painful Sex Coition 

Homeopathy is known for promotion of normal neuromuscular and endocrine system to bring about normal sensation and function. Homeopathic treatment of painful coition is used to relieve the pain during intercourse and make it pleasurable as it is supposed to be. It relieves conditions like vaginismus, dryness or over sensitivity of vagina or pelvic inflammation which are the root cause of painful sex or coition. Following are some useful remedies for painful sex.

• Sepia
• Nat M
• Arg N
• Plat
• Kali bi

Acupuncture and Acupressure Treatment of Painful Sex Coition

Acupuncture can aid the body’s own adaptive changes to hormones and help relieve painful sex through the use of needles at special points along the body. It relaxes muscle spasm and over sensitivity of the area. This allows normal dilatation and lubrication.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Treatment of Painful Sex Coition 

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy is helpful to identify and reframe negative feelings about sex. It helps to improve communication between partners and resolve problems that may be a factor in the sexual relationship. Hypnotherapy is very useful in resolving negative past memories and deep psychological issues working as root cause of painful sex or coition.

Conventional Allopathic Treatment of Painful Sex  Coition

Steroid creams are effective in treating painful sex If the pain is caused by vaginal thinning and dryness, Estrogen is used to help restore natural lubrication. If the pain stems from an infection, your doctor may prescribe antibiotic creams or pills.

Surgical Treatment of Painful Sex Coition 

Laser or traditional surgery to remove the affected tissue may help. Approximately 60% of women who have this procedure report that intercourse is no longer painful.

Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Painful Sex Coition 

Diet rich in estrogenic food such as soy, alfalfa, rice, wheat and yams.

Other Treatment of Painful Sex Coition 

Meditation, yoga and breathing exercises all help some people center themselves and ease their minds from the pressures of sex.

What is Painful Sex Coition 

Pain during sexual intercourse due to medical or psychological causes is called painful sex. It is also known as Dyspareunia. Although this problem can affect men, it is more common in women.

Symptoms of Painful Sex Coition 

• Bleeding
• genital lesions
• Pain during penetration
• Pain with certain partners
• Involuntary vaginal muscle contraction.
• Superficial pain
• Deep pain during thrusting
• Burning pain or aching pain

Causes of Painful Sex Coition 

• Injury from an accident
• Trauma or irritation
• Stress or anxiety
• Infection
• Inflammation or infection in your genital area
• Eczema or other skin disorder
• Insufficient lubrication
• Reactions to birth control products

Risk factors of Painful Sex Coition 

• Depression
• History of sexual abuse
• Surgeries or medical treatments such as chemotherapy

Diagnosis of Painful Sex Coition 

Diagnosis of painful sexcoition usually consists of:

• Medical history -Your doctor may also inquire about your sexual history, surgical history and previous childbirth experiences.
• A pelvic examination – During a pelvic exam, your doctor can check for signs of skin irritation, infection or anatomical problems
• Pelvic ultrasound or laparoscopy

Precautions & Prevention of Painful Sex Coition 

• Avoid scented bath products, such as body washes and shower gels
• Make some changes to your hygiene habits

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• Homeopathic Treatment of Peyronie’s disease
• Acupuncture & Acupressure Treatment of Peyronie’s disease
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Peyronie’s disease
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Peyronie’s disease
• Surgical Treatment of Peyronie’s disease
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Peyronie’s disease
• Other Treatment of Peyronie’s disease

What is Peyronie’s disease

Symptoms of Peyronie’s disease

Causes of Peyronie’s disease

Risk factors of Peyronie’s disease

Complications of Peyronie’s disease

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Peyronie’s disease

Precautions & Prevention of Peyronie’s disease

Treatment of Peyronie’s disease

Homeopathic Treatment of Peyronie’s disease

Homeopathy relieves pain and helps in having better erection. It also helps in relieving stress and anxiety associated with the condition. Some of the homeopathic medicines that can be used for treatment of Peyronie’s disease are:

• Silicea
• Calad
• Mag Mur
• Arnica
• Phytolacca

Acupuncture and Acupressure Treatment of Peyronie’s disease

Acupuncture relieves by improving the physiological function of the organs and organ system. In acupuncture therapist will first diagnose the case on the basis of energy system or chi blockage as well as on the basis of status of five elements. On this basis certain disease specific acupoints are selected and stimulated.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Treatment of Peyronie’s disease

Psychotherapy and hypnotherapy can help in stress relief. They can help in better coping and early relief.

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Peyronie’s disease

Allopathic Treatment of Peyronie’s disease involves the use of medications such as Verapamil and Interferon. Drugs are also injected directly into the penis which may reduce curvature and pain associated with Peyronie’s disease. You’ll be given a local anesthetic to prevent pain during the injections.

Surgical Treatment of Peyronie’s disease

Surgery is recommended, if the deformity of your penis is severe or prevents you from having sex. Surgical Treatment of Peyronie’s disease involves the following surgeries:

• Shortening the unaffected side
• Lengthening the affected side
• Penile implants

Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Peyronie’s disease

• Castor oil can be applied directly to soften the hard tissues in the penis and in turn, provide relief from Peyronie’s disease

What is Peyronie’s disease

Peyronie’s disease is the development of fibrous scar tissues in the substance of the penis. It causes curved and painful erections. Some men with Peyronie’s disease develop other forms of fibrosis, or plaques, such as Dupuytren’s contracture.

Symptoms of Peyronie’s disease

• A significant bend to the penis
• Erection problems
• There may be one or several plaques
• Shortening of the penis
• Pain during an erection

Causes of Peyronie’s disease

The cause remains unknown in the majority of cases. Infection or injury to the penis can lead to Peyronie’s disease.

Risk factors of Peyronie’s disease

• Heredity
• Connective tissue disorders
• Increases with age

Complications of Peyronie’s disease

• Inability to have sexual intercourse
• erectile dysfunction
• Anxiety or stress
• Difficulty fathering a child

Diagnosis of Peyronie’s disease

Diagnosis of Peyronie’s disease involves the following tests:

• Medical and sexual history
• Physical examination
• X-rays
• Ultrasound scan of the penis

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• Homeopathic Treatment of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation
• Acupuncture Treatment of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation
• Other Treatment of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

What is Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

Symptoms of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

Causes of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

Risk factors of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

Complications of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

Precautions & Prevention of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation 

Treatment of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

Homeopathic Treatment of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

Homeopathy is safe natural and effective treatment to get healthy sexuality. Homeopathic remedies enhance strength and stamina of sexual function, and alleviate anxiety caused by problems with sexual performance. It improves strength of erection and prolongs sustaining time. Some of the homeopathic remedies are:

• Lyco
• Graph
• Zincum
• Calad
• Conium
• Selenium
• Sulphur

Acupuncture and Acupressure Treatment of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

Acupuncture is a way of channeling that healing energy into a specific weakness. There is direct impact of various acupuncture points on sexual organs, and many people routinely use acupuncture and TCM to address sexual issues like premature ejaculation, impotence, loss of sexual desire etc. Therapist will first diagnose the case based on your complaints and energy block or depletion and then will stimulate certain acupoints to create strong and healthy sexuality.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Treatment of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

Psychotherapy and hypnotherapy treatment of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation involves session with therapist about your relationships and experiences. These sessions can help you reduce performance anxiety. For many couples affected by Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation, talking with a therapist together may produce the best results. Hypnotherapy is safe and quick treatment of resolving deep psychological issues and creating strong sexual confidence. Couples must seek sex therapy also to learn good sexual skills and techniques to enhance sex life.

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

In allopathic treatment, certain antidepressants and topical anesthetic creams are used to treat Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation. Clomipramine and fluoxetine are also prescribed.

Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

• Eat a low-fat
• Eat low-cholesterol diet

Other Treatment of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

Yoga is very feasible, safe, effective option for Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation. 

What is Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation happens when a man has an orgasm sooner than he or his partner would like.

Symptoms of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

• Ejaculation before the penis is inserted into the vagina
• Ejaculation 1 to 2 minutes after intercourse begins
• Self-doubt, anxiety and guilt

Causes of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

• poor communication between partners
• Infection of the prostate or urethra
• Anxiety
• Abnormal hormone levels
• Nervous system damage
• Thyroid
• Relationship problems.
• Erectile dysfunction

Risk factors of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

• Emotional or mental stress
• Trouble getting or maintaining an erection.
• Heart problem
• Drugs that influence the action of chemical messengers in the brain

Complications of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

• Fertilization difficult or impossible
• Relationship stress

Diagnosis of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

Diagnosis of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation includes history and general physical exam. He or she may refer you to an urologist who specializes in sexual dysfunction or to a mental health professional to help make the diagnosis. Your doctor may order blood tests to check your male hormone levels or other tests

Precautions & Prevention of Premature Ejaculation PE Early Ejaculation

• Better interaction between sexual partners
• Don’t smoke or drink
• keep your stress managed
• Avoid blaming your partner for your dissatisfaction
• Try to move forward the topic in a loving way

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Treatment of Priapism

• Homeopathic Treatment of Priapism
• Acupuncture & Acupressure Treatment of Priapism
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Priapism
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Priapism
• Surgical Treatment of Priapism
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Priapism
• Other Treatment of Priapism

What is Priapism

Symptoms of Priapism

Causes of Priapism

Risk factors of Priapism

Complications of Priapism

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Priapism

Precautions & Prevention of Priapism

Treatment of Priapism

Homeopathic Treatment of Priapism

Homeopathic Treatment of Priapism helps in relieving the excessive erection, swelling and pain of the penis. It also relieves the congestion and absorbs the extra blood. Some of the homeopathic remedies that can be used for treatment of priapism are:

• Lyco
• Nux vom
• Can ind
• Arnica
• Mag mur
• Chima
• Phyto

Acupuncture and Acupressure Treatment of Priapism

Acupuncture relieves by improving the physiological function of the organs and organ system. In acupuncture therapist will first diagnose the case on the basis of energy system or chi blockage as well as on the basis of status of five elements. On this basis certain disease specific acupoints are selected and stimulated.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Treatment of Priapism

Psychotherapy and hypnotherapy can help in stress relief. They can help in better coping and early relief.

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Priapism

In the allopathic Treatment of Priapism, injection of a drug called an alpha-adrenergic sympathomimetic, such as phenylephrine, may be injected into the spongy tissue of the penis

Surgical Treatment of Priapism

Surgical Treatment of Priapism involves the following surgeries:

Surgical ligation: Used in cases where an artery has been ruptured, the doctor will ligate (tie off) the artery that is causing the priapism in order to restore normal blood flow.

Surgical shunt – a surgeon may implant a shunt, a device that reroutes blood flow so that it moves through your penis normally.

Other Treatment of Priapism

• Ice applied to the penis and perineum may reduce swelling.

What is Priapism

Priapism is a prolonged erection of the penis. It is usually painful erection that lasts for several hours. It is an uncommon condition that needs immediate medical attention.

Symptoms of Priapism

• Unwanted erection lasting more than four hours
• Rigid penile shaft, but usually soft tip of penis
• Erection not related to sexual stimulation or persistent after stimulation
• Usually painful or tender penis
• Erect but not rigid penile shaft

Causes of Priapism

• Sickle cell anemia
• Leukemia
• Spinal cord injury
• Blood clots
• Poisonous venom, such as venom from scorpions or black widow spiders
• Drinking too much alcohol
• Oral medications used to manage erectile dysfunction

Complications of Priapism

• Erectile dysfunction
• Disfiguring of the penis

Diagnosis of Priapism

Diagnosis of Priapism involves the following tests:

• Medical history and exam
• Blood gas measurement
• Blood tests
• Ultrasound
• Toxicology test

Precautions & Prevention of Priapism

• Treat the disease that may have caused priapism
• Avoid alcohol or illegal drugs
• Stop using self-injection of phenylephrine for prolonged erections
• Prescription muscle relaxant, such as baclofen

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• Homeopathic Treatment of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD
• Acupuncture Treatment of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD
• Surgical Treatment of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD
• Other Treatment of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

What is Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

Symptoms of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

Causes of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

Risk factors of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

Complications of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

Precautions & Prevention of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD 

Treatment of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

Homeopathic Treatment of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

Homeopathy treatment is based on stimulation of body immunity. It heals eruptions and relieves pain burning sensation swelling and other complaints. Homeopathic treatment works on a person’s constitution which is a combination of mind, emotions and body. It helps to treat physical symptoms and stabilize psychological and emotional stress related to sexual abuse. Some of the homeopathic medicines that can be used for treatment of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD are:

• Apis
• Ars
• Lach
• Rhus tox
• Merc C
• Nit Ac
• Puls
• Sulph

Acupuncture and Acupressure Treatment of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

Acupuncture treatments are aimed at increasing energy flow in the pelvic area to help nourish the reproductive organs. Acupuncture increases blood flow to the sex organs increasing their nourishment and curing the infection.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Treatment of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

Psychotherapists and Counselors emphasize correction of sexual misinformation, the importance of improved partner communication and honesty, anxiety reduction, sensual experience and pleasure, and interpersonal tolerance and acceptance. Psychotherapy and hypnotherapy can help in stress relief. They can help in better coping and early relief.  Hypnotherapy is safe and quick treatment of deep seated psychological issues and barriers.

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

In allopathic or conventional treatment of sexually transmitted diseases, the drugs prescribed are depend upon the condition such as Clomipramine, fluoxetine, Papaverine, prostaglandin.

Surgical Treatment of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

Surgical treatment depends upon the condition of the patient as there are various types of sexually transmitted diseases.

Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

• High fiber diets
• Low fat diets

Other Treatment of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

Relaxation therapy eases and relieves anxiety

What is Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

A sexually transmitted disease is an illness that has a significant probability of transmission between humans or animals by means of human sexual behavior, including vaginal intercourse, oral sex, and anal sex.

Symptoms of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

• Painful intercourse
• Burning or discomfort during urination
• Swelling, blisters, opens sores, warts, or a rash in the genital area or in the mouth
• Small red bumps on the penis, vagina, labia and the rectum.

Causes of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

• Caused by viruses include HIV/AIDS, genital herpes, genital warts, and cytomegalovirus
• Caused by bacteria include chlamydia, gonorrhea , trichomoniasis and syphilis

Risk factors of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

• Meeting people in public places or online for sex
• Using alcohol or recreational drugs
• Having multiple sex partners
• Between the ages of 15 and 24 years
• Being sexually active

Complications of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

• Eye inflammation
• Pelvic inflammatory disease
• Infertility
• Heart disease and Arthritis
• Memory loss
• Cervical cancer and anal cancers
• Opportunistic infections occurring in advanced HIV
• Difficulty in walking
• Personality change

Diagnosis of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

The following tests are done to diagnose sexually transmitted diseases:

• Laboratory tests
• Blood tests

Precautions & Prevention of Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD

• Do not reuse condoms
• Limit sexual relationship with single partner
• Avoid drugs and alcohol
• Take proper hygiene measures
• Wash your genitals with soap and water

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• Homeopathic Treatment of Spermatocele
• Acupuncture & Acupressure Treatment of Spermatocele
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Spermatocele
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Spermatocele
• Surgical Treatment of Spermatocele
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Spermatocele
• Other Treatment of Spermatocele

What is Spermatocele

Symptoms of Spermatocele

Causes of Spermatocele

Risk factors of Spermatocele

Complications of Spermatocele

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Spermatocele

Precautions & Prevention of Spermatocele

Treatment of Spermatocele

Homeopathic Treatment of Spermatocele

Homeopathy heals cyst swelling and pain. It treats the person as a whole. Treatment is constitutional. It means that homeopathic treatment focuses on the patient as a person, as well as his pathological condition. It balances the energy system, improves immunity and body functions. It naturally cures the root cause of disorder. Some of the homeopathic medicines that can be used for treatment of Spermatocele are:

• Am C
• Canth
• Puls
• Spong
• Graph
• Rhodo
• Teuc

Acupuncture and Acupressure Treatment of Spermatocele

Acupuncture relieves by improving the physiological function of the organs and organ system. In acupuncture therapist will first diagnose the case on the basis of energy system or chi blockage as well as on the basis of status of five elements. On this basis certain disease specific acupoints are selected and stimulated.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Treatment of Spermatocele

Psychotherapy and hypnotherapy can help in stress relief. They can help in better coping and early relief.

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Spermatocele

Allopathic Treatment of Spermatocele involves over-the-counter pain medications, such as acetaminophen or ibuprofen.

Surgical Treatment of Spermatocele

The following surgery is performed for spermatocele:

Spermatocelectomy – is performed on an outpatient basis, using local or general anesthetic. The surgeon makes an incision in the scrotum and separates the spermatocele from the epididymis.

What is Spermatocele

A spermatocele is a small cyst filled with clear fluid that may contain sperm. Spermatoceles, sometimes called spermatic cysts, are common.

Symptoms of Spermatocele

• Pain or discomfort in the affected testicle
• Swelling behind and above the testicle
• A feeling of heaviness in the testicle with the spermatocele

Causes of Spermatocele

The exact cause of spermatoceles is unknown.

Risk factors of Spermatocele

• Common in men
• Age between 40 and 60

Diagnosis of Spermatocele

Diagnosis of Spermatocele involves the following tests:

• Physical exam
• Ultrasound
• Transillumination

Precautions & Prevention of Spermatocele

There is no way to prevent a spermatocele.

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• Homeopathic Treatment of Vagina Dryness
• Acupuncture & Acupressure Treatment of Vagina Dryness
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Vagina Dryness
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Vagina Dryness
• Surgical Treatment of Vagina Dryness
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Vagina Dryness
• Other Treatment of Vagina Dryness

What is Vagina Dryness

Symptoms of Vagina Dryness

Causes of Vagina Dryness

Risk factors of Vagina Dryness

Complications of Vagina Dryness

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Vagina Dryness

Precautions & Prevention of Vagina Dryness

Treatment of Vagina Dryness

Homeopathic Treatment of Vagina Dryness

Homeopathic remedy for vaginal dryness can provide all the countless benefits like pain relief, energy gaining, hormone production, and improving your sexual functions. It serves as an alternative to hormone replacement therapy (HRT), because it stimulates the body to produce its own hormones more adequately rather than supplying hormones from an outside source. Some of the homeopathic medicines that can be used for treatment of Vagina Dryness are:

• Lyco
• Graph
• Nat Mur
• Sepia
• Ars
• Berberis

Acupuncture & Acupressure Treatment of Vagina Dryness

Acupuncture relieves by improving the physiological function of the organs and organ system. Acupuncture treatment of vaginal dryness will enhance the treatment by increasing vaginal lubrication, calm the mind and regulate hormone imbalances.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Treatment of Vagina Dryness

Psychotherapy and hypnotherapy can help in stress relief. They can help in better coping and early relief.  Hypnotherapy is safe and quick treatment of deep seated psychological issues and barriers. Sex therapy is necessary in such cases to understand and manage the difficulty of having sex.

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Vagina Dryness

Estrogen creams and pills are the common allopathic solution for vaginal dryness. Over-the-counter, water- soluble vaginal lubricants are also helpful.

Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Vagina Dryness

• Eat foods that contains phytoestrogens like soy beans, soy milk, nuts, apples, cherries and celery

What is Vagina Dryness

Vaginal dryness is frequent symptom of menopause. It is a common problem for women during and after menopause, although inadequate vaginal lubrication can occur at any age.

Symptoms of Vagina Dryness

• Itching and Burning
• Soreness
• Uncomfortable or painful sex
• Urinary frequency or urgency
• Stretched sensation

Causes of Vagina Dryness

• Declining estrogen levels

Sjogren’s syndrome

• Emotional issues
• Anti-estrogen medications
• Douching

Risk factors of Vagina Dryness

• Stress and anxiety
• Lack of foreplay
• Surgical removal of ovaries
• Allergic reaction to chemicals in soaps, detergents, etc

Diagnosis of Vagina Dryness

Diagnosis of vaginal dryness may involve:

• Pelvic exam
• Pap test
• Urine test

Precautions & Prevention of Vagina Dryness

• Avoid soaps with heavy perfumes as it can cause vaginal irritation
• Try not to use petroleum jelly, petroleum based products as these products contains oil.
• Use a water-based lubricant at the vaginal opening before having sexual intercourse

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• Homeopathic Treatment of Vaginal atrophy
• Acupuncture & Acupressure Treatment of Vaginal atrophy
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Vaginal atrophy
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Vaginal atrophy
• Surgical Treatment of Vaginal atrophy
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Vaginal atrophy
• Other Treatment of Vaginal atrophy

What is Vaginal atrophy

Symptoms of Vaginal atrophy

Causes of Vaginal atrophy

Risk factors of Vaginal atrophy

Complications of Vaginal atrophy

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Vaginal atrophy

Precautions & Prevention of Vaginal atrophy

Treatment of Vaginal atrophy

Homeopathic Treatment of Vaginal Atrophy

Homeopathy heals the tissue by balancing hormonal system. It is safe natural and effective. It helps in regeneration of healthy tissue, improves lubrication, relieves pain, itching, dryness and other complaints. Homeopathy treats the person as a whole. Treatment is constitutional. It means that homeopathic treatment focuses on the patient as a person, as well as his pathological condition. It balances the energy system, improves immunity and body functions. It naturally cures the root cause of disorder. Some of the homeopathic medicines that can be used for treatment of Vaginal Atrophy are:

• Bar C
• Conium
• Iod
• Carb S
• Sepia

Acupuncture and Acupressure Treatment of Vaginal Atrophy

Acupuncture relieves by improving the physiological function of the organs and organ system. In acupuncture therapist will first diagnose the case on the basis of energy system or chi blockage as well as on the basis of status of five elements. On this basis certain disease specific acupoints are selected and stimulated.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Treatment of Vaginal Atrophy

Psychotherapy and hypnotherapy can help in stress relief. They can help in better coping and early relief.  Hypnotherapy is safe and quick treatment of deep seated psychological issues and barriers. Sex therapy is helpful in such cases to have normal relations.

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Vaginal atrophy

In the allopathic treatment of vaginal atrophy, vaginal estrogen creams such as Estrace and Premarin are applied directly into your vagina with an applicator, usually at bedtime. Vaginal estrogen ring (Estring) and Vaginal estrogen tablet (Vagifem) is also used. The flexible ring is inserted into the upper part of the vagina. It releases a consistent dose of estrogen and needs to be replaced about every three months.

Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Vaginal atrophy

• Consume healthy fats
• Drink 8-10 glasses of plain water daily
• Take a soy rich diet

What is Vaginal atrophy

Vaginal atrophy is thinning and inflammation of the vaginal walls due to a decline in estrogen. It is also known as atrophic vaginitis. Most women experience this condition much later in life.

Symptoms of Vaginal atrophy

• Vaginal burning and itching
• Vaginal dryness
• Vaginal discharge
• Urinary tract infections
• Burning with urination
• Urgency with urination
• Urinary incontinence
• Pain during intercourse
• Light bleeding after intercourse
• Shortening and tightening of the vaginal canal

Causes of Vaginal atrophy

• Drop in estrogen levels during breast feeding
• Drop in estrogen levels after menopause
• Removal of the ovaries
• Stress and depression
• Strenuous exercise

Risk factors of Vaginal atrophy

• Cigarette smoking
• Never giving birth vaginally

Complications of Vaginal atrophy

• Vaginal infections
• Urinary problems

Diagnosis of Vaginal atrophy

Diagnosis of Vaginal atrophy involves the following tests:

• Pelvic exam
• Pap test
• Urine test

Precautions & Prevention of Vaginal atrophy

Doing regular sexual activity either with or without a partner enhances blood flow to your vagina, which helps keep vaginal tissues healthy.

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• Homeopathic Treatment of Vaginismus
• Acupuncture Treatment of Vaginismus
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Vaginismus
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Vaginismus
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Vaginismus
• Other Treatment of Vaginismus

What is Vaginismus

Symptoms of Vaginismus

Causes of Vaginismus

Risk factors of Vaginismus

Complications of Vaginismus

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Vaginismus

Precautions & Prevention of Vaginismus

Treatment of Vaginismus

Homeopathic Treatment of Vaginismus

Homeopathic remedies helps to strengthen and balance vital force. It works at both physical and psychological level to ease fear, pain and stiffness of vaginismus. It helps in generating healthy muscle tone and also calms mind to enable experience sex as pleasurable activity.  Some of the homeopathic remedies that can be used for treatment of vaginismus are:

• Lachesis
• Mag phos
• Arg Nit
• Cactus
• Plumbum
• Nat Mur
• Sepia

Acupuncture and Acupressure Treatment of Vaginismus

Acupuncture has been used for centuries to treat sexual dysfunction. It works under the assumption that when there is an emotional issue, there is a problem in the body’s energy system. In acupuncture therapist will first diagnose the case on the basis of energy system or chi blockage as well as on the basis of status of five elements. On this basis certain disease specific acupoints are selected and stimulated.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Treatment of Vaginismus

In vaginismus sex therapy is very useful in which the couple is educated about root cause of disorder and given advice on the kind of activities that may be helpful in overcoming the disorder. It emphasizes correction of sexual misinformation, the importance of improved partner communication and honesty. Hypnotherapy is safe and quick treatment of deep seated psychological issues and barriers like history of sexual abuse and negative emotions associated with sex like fear or guilt.

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Vaginismus

In allopathic treatment, Clomipramine and fluoxetine is prescribed for premature ejaculation. Papaverine and prostaglandin for erectile difficulties and Hormone replacement therapy or androgen therapy for female dysfunctions.

Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Vaginismus

• Eat food rich in L-Arginine, such oatmeal, peanuts, cashews, walnuts, dairy, garlic, ginseng, soybeans, chickpeas and seeds.
• Eat green and root vegetables

Other Treatment of Vaginismus

• Pelvic exercise
• Perform yoga postures

What is Vaginismus

Vaginismus is a sexual dysfunction. It is an involuntary spasm of the muscles surrounding the vagina that closes the vagina.

Symptoms of Vaginismus

• Fear of pain
• Difficult or impossible penetration of the vagina
• Loss of sexual desire
• Vaginal pain during intercourse
• Vaginal pain during attempted pelvic exam

Causes of Vaginismus

• Sexual trauma
• Relationship problems
• Stress and depression
• Psychological factors
• History of discomfort with sexual intercourse
• Alcohol, drugs or some medication

Risk factors of Vaginismus

• Sexual abuse
• Painful first intercourse
• Relationship problems
• Fear of pregnancy

Complications of Vaginismus

• Erectile dysfunction
• Dissatisfaction in intimate relationships

Diagnosis of Vaginismus

Doctor will ask you about your symptoms and medical history. A gynecological examination is used to confirm vaginismus. Your doctor may be able to observe a vaginal spasm during the pelvic exam, and confirm the diagnosis of vaginismus.

Precautions & Prevention of Vaginismus

• Maintaining open marital communication may help to prevent the disorder.
• Talk to your doctor or healthcare provider right away if you experience pain with intercourse.

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• Homeopathic Treatment of Vaginitis
• Acupuncture & Acupressure Treatment of Vaginitis
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Vaginitis
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Vaginitis
• Surgical Treatment of Vaginitis
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Vaginitis
• Other Treatment of Vaginitis

What is Vaginitis

Symptoms of Vaginitis

Causes of Vaginitis

Risk factors of Vaginitis

Complications of Vaginitis

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Vaginitis

Precautions & Prevention of Vaginitis

Treatment of Vaginitis

Homeopathic Treatment of Vaginitis

Homeopathy is very popular among women due to its very successful treatment of complaints like Vaginitis, leucorrhea, dysmenorrhea, PCOD, hormonal disbalance and other ailments of women. Homeopathic treatment of Vaginitis helps to reduce abnormal discharge,  pain and intense itching in the vagina. Some of the homeopathic medicines that can be used for treatment of Vaginitis are:

• Cact
• Coc C
• Merc
• Nux V
• Sepia
• Borax
• Ars alb

Acupuncture and Acupressure Treatment of Vaginitis

Acupuncture relieves by improving the physiological function of the organs and organ system. In acupuncture therapist will first diagnose the case on the basis of energy system or chi blockage as well as on the basis of status of five elements. On this basis certain disease specific acupoints are selected and stimulated.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Treatment of Vaginitis

Psychotherapy and hypnotherapy can help in stress relief. They can help in better coping and early relief.

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Vaginitis

Allopathic treatment of vaginitis depends upon the exact cause. Yeast infections are usually is treated with an antifungal cream or suppository, such as miconazole, clotrimazole and tioconazole. In bacterial vaginosis, your doctor may prescribe medications such as MetronidazClindamycin. Metronidazole and Tinidazole may be taken orally. Clindamycin is available as a cream that you insert into your vagina. In Noninfectious vaginitis avoids the possible source of irritation such as soap, laundry detergent, sanitary napkins or tampons.ole, Tinidazole and

Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Vaginitis

• Avoid caffeine and alcohol
• Avoid fermented foods and processed foods
• Avoid high in carbohydrate
• Eat whole grains food

Other Treatment of Vaginitis

Vinegar mixed with water is another natural substitute for a douche liquid. Vinegar has practically the same acidity as the vagina.

What is Vaginitis

Vaginitis is an inflammation or infection of the vagina that can result in discharge, itching and pain. The most common types of vaginitis are Bacterial vaginosis, Yeast infections, Trichomoniasis, and Vaginal atrophy.

Symptoms of Vaginitis

• Abnormal vaginal discharge
• Change in color, odor or amount of discharge from your vagina
• Vaginal itching or irritation
• Pain during intercourse
• Painful urination
• Light vaginal bleeding or spotting

Causes of Vaginitis

• Yeast infections
• Bacterial vaginosis
• Trichomoniasis vaginitis
• Chlamydia vaginitis
• Viral vaginitis
• Noninfectious vaginitis

Complications of Vaginitis

• Premature deliveries
• Low birth weight babies

Diagnosis of Vaginitis

To diagnose bacterial vaginosis, your doctor may:

Ask questions about your medical history

• Perform a pelvic exam
• Take a sample of vaginal secretions

Precautions & Prevention of Vaginitis

• Rinse soap from your outer genital area after a shower, and dry the area well to prevent irritation
• Avoid douching
• Use a male latex condom
• Wear cotton underwear and pantyhose with a cotton crotch
• Avoid baths, hot tubs and whirlpool spas

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• Homeopathic Treatment of Varicocele
• Acupuncture & Acupressure Treatment of Varicocele
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Varicocele
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Varicocele
• Surgical Treatment of Varicocele
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Varicocele
• Other Treatment of Varicocele

What is Varicocele

Symptoms of Varicocele

Causes of Varicocele

Risk factors of Varicocele

Complications of Varicocele

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Varicocele

Precautions & Prevention of Varicocele

Treatment of Varicocele

Homeopathic Treatment of Varicocele

Homeopathic treatment of varicocele helps in relieving stagnation of blood and help in its recirculation by improving the elasticity of the vein walls. It also reduces pain, control further varicosity, and reduces swelling thus improving the temperature of the testicles resulting in a better sperm count. Some of the homeopathic remedies that can be used for treatment of varicocele are:

• Lach
• Aurum
• Lyco
• Podo
• Silicea
• Calcarea
• Collinsonia

Acupuncture and Acupressure Treatment of Varicocele

Acupuncture relieves by improving the physiological function of the organs and organ system. In acupuncture therapist will first diagnose the case on the basis of energy system or chi blockage as well as on the basis of status of five elements. On this basis certain disease specific acupoints are selected and stimulated.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Treatment of Varicocele

Psychotherapy and hypnotherapy can help in stress relief. They can help in better coping and early relief.

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Varicocele

The conventional and allopathic treatment of varicocele involves surgery. It involves general anesthesia, incisions in the scrotum, and sutures.

Surgical Treatment of Varicocele

Surgical Treatment of Varicocele involves the following two surgeries:

• Open surgery
• Laparoscopic surgery

What is Varicocele

Varicocele is an enlargement of the veins within the scrotum, the loose bag of skin that holds your testicles. It occurs in young men, usually during the second or third decade of life.

Symptoms of Varicocele

• Aching pain
• Fertility problems
• Testicular Atrophy

Causes of Varicocele

The exact cause of varicoceles is not known. It forms when the valves inside the veins in the cord prevent your blood from flowing properly.

Complications of Varicocele

• Shrinkage of the affected testicle (atrophy)
• Infertility

Diagnosis of Varicocele

Diagnosis of Varicocele involves the following tests

• Physical exam
• Scrotal ultrasound

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• Homeopathic Treatment of Vulvodynia
• Acupuncture & Acupressure Treatment of Vulvodynia
• Psychotherapy Treatment of Vulvodynia
• Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Vulvodynia
• Surgical Treatment of Vulvodynia
• Dietary & Herbal Treatment of Vulvodynia
• Other Treatment of Vulvodynia

What is Vulvodynia

Symptoms of Vulvodynia

Causes of Vulvodynia

Risk factors of Vulvodynia

Complications of Vulvodynia

Lab Investigations and Diagnosis of Vulvodynia

Precautions & Prevention of Vulvodynia

Treatment of Vulvodynia

Homeopathic Treatment of Vulvodynia

Homeopathy heals the tissue and relieves pain soreness itching and other complaints. It treats the person as a whole. Treatment is constitutional. It means that homeopathic treatment focuses on the patient as a person, as well as his pathological condition. It balances the energy system, improves immunity and body functions. It naturally cures the root cause of disorder. Some of the homeopathic medicines that can be used for treatment of Vulvodynia are:

• Bell
• Calc
• Cimic
• Coffea
• Ignatia
• Murex
• Sepia

Acupuncture and Acupressure Treatment of Vulvodynia

Acupuncture relieves by improving the physiological function of the organs and organ system. In acupuncture therapist will first diagnose the case on the basis of energy system or chi blockage as well as on the basis of status of five elements. On this basis certain disease specific acupoints are selected and stimulated.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy Treatment of Vulvodynia

Sex therapy is required in such cases to maintain healthy relationship. Psychotherapy and hypnotherapy can help in stress relief. They can help in better coping and early relief.  Psychological techniques that can actually help to reduce complaints are Individual and group counseling, Biofeedback, Relaxation techniques, Self-hypnosis, Visual imaging and Learning or conditioning techniques. Hypnotherapy is safe and quick treatment of deep seated psychological issues and barriers.

Conventional / Allopathic Treatment of Vulvodynia

In the allopathic treatment of vulvodynia, tricyclic antidepressants or anticonvulsants may help lessen chronic pain. Antihistamines are also used to  reduce itching.

Surgical Treatment of Vulvodynia

Surgery is needed to remove the affected skin and tissue (vestibulectomy) in some women. It helps in relieving pain. Surgery is done where painful areas can be specifically pinpointed at the hymeneal ring (localized vulvodynia, vulvar vestibulitis).

Other Treatment of Vulvodynia

• Two to three times a day, sit in comfortable, lukewarm (not hot) or cool water for five to 10 minutes
• Cool compresses placed directly on your external genital area may help lessen pain and itching.

What is Vulvodynia

Vulvodynia is chronic pain in the area around the opening of your vagina (vulva) with no known cause. It affects the vulva, the external female genital organs. This includes the labia, clitoris, and vaginal opening

Symptoms of Vulvodynia

• Burning and Soreness
• Constant or intermittent pain
• Pain during intercourse
• Throbbing
• Itching
• Rawness

Causes of Vulvodynia

The cause of vulvodynia is not known.

Risk factors of Vulvodynia

• Past vaginal infections
• Hormonal changes
• Allergies
• Injury to or irritation of the nerves surrounding your vulvar region

Complications of Vulvodynia

• Inhibit sexual activity
• Vaginismus
• Anxiety and depression
• Sleep disturbances
• Relationship problems
• Decreased quality of life

Diagnosis of Vulvodynia

Diagnosis of Vulvodynia involves the following tests

• Medical history
• Pelvic exam
• Cotton swab test

Precautions & Prevention of Vulvodynia

There is no prevention but you can reduce the complications by following certain precautions:

• If you’re sexually active, apply lubricants before engaging in sexual intercourse.
• Avoid activities that put pressure on your vulva
• Try an antihistamine at bedtime
• Avoid tightfitting pantyhose and nylon underwear
• Avoid hot tubs and soaking in hot baths

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Spontaneoustermination is called miscarriage. Induced termination is the one that is abortion. It is the outcome of unintended and unwanted pregnancy. And the abortion can be medical by medical professionals under the law or unsafe by untrained non medical people which may be against the law.About 20 – 22 million such unsafe abortions annually around the world are responsible for medical emergencies and deaths.

Types of abortion

Spontaneous Abortion or Miscarriage

An unintentional expulsion of embryo or fetus before 24^th week of pregnancy is called miscarriage or spontaneous abortion. After that time it is pre mature birth in case of alive birth and stillbirth in case of dead delivery. Less than 50% pregnancy goes beyond first trimester.

Causes of miscarriage:

• Chromosomal defect
• Diabetes
• Hormonal disorders
• Infection
• Abnormalities of uterus
• Vascular diseases
• Trauma
• High age of mother
• Previous history of abortion

Induced Abortion

Induced abortion can be:

• Legal or illegal
• By trained and authorized medical professional or untrained person
• Therapeutic (on health ground of mother or child) or elective (personal choice)

Choice of procedure depends on

• Months of pregnancy (gestational age)
• Legal acceptance of procedure
• Availability of procedure
• Choice of doctor
• Choice of person

Types of induced abortion

Medical

These are done by certain pharmaceutical products like mifepristone, prostaglandin analog, methotrexate etc. This is preferred choice in early weeks of pregnancy.

Surgical

• Vacuum suction aspiration, manual or electric
• Dilatation and Curettage (D&C)
• Dilatation and Evacuation (D&E)
• Intact Dilatation and Extraction(IDX)
• Hysterotomy abortion

First three are for first trimester and can be done under local anesthesia whereas later two are for second trimester done under general anesthesia.

Other methods

Some traditional but unreliable methods like herbs or causing trauma by force or non surgical instruments. They have side effects and can even cause death.

How safe are abortions?

Abortions are very safe if :

• done at appropriate time
• done in appropriate conditions
• done by appropriate procedure
• done under supervision or by appropriate people (medically trained)

Complications of abortion:

Though rare but if precautions are not taken, following complications can occur:

• Pain
• Infection
• Uterine perforation
• Complications due to retained products

Why unsafe abortion?

It is estimated that about 20 million unsafe abortions are done annually.

It causes:

• medical complications
• injury
• secondary infertility
• possible death

Why do women opt for unsafe abortions?  Some common reasons are:

• Non availability of legal abortion
• Need to hide identity
• Choice of ‘easier method’
• Lack of availability of effective contraception

Abortion debate:

Induced abortion raises debate on spiritual, religious, political, ethical, moral, legal, medical, biological, philosophic, value system, human rights and responsibilities issues.

Those against abortion see abortion as murder and talk about Right of fetus to live as human being. Those in favor talk about Right of woman to decide about own life, own body and reproduction. Some neutral factors like risk to mother’s life also play a role. Most countries now legally favors abortion as woman’s right.

Gender based abortion:

This refers to abortion determined by gender of fetus. Termination of female fetus is more common due to desire of son as symbol of power, protection, future care and successor. It is facilitated by sonography (ultrasound) and amniocentesis.  The bad impact of this is deterioration of sex ratio between male and female in society. Most countries have agreed to eliminate discrimination against girl child and have enacted laws to prevent and ban such abortions.

Termination of pregnancy by removal or expulsion of embryo or fetus is called abortion.

Spontaneoustermination is called miscarriage. Induced termination is the one that is abortion. It is the outcome of unintended and unwanted pregnancy. And the abortion can be medical by medical professionals under the law or unsafe by untrained non medical people which may be against the law.About 20 – 22 million such unsafe abortions annually around the world are responsible for medical emergencies and deaths.

Types of abortion

Spontaneous Abortion or Miscarriage

An unintentional expulsion of embryo or fetus before 24^th week of pregnancy is called miscarriage or spontaneous abortion. After that time it is pre mature birth in case of alive birth and stillbirth in case of dead delivery. Less than 50% pregnancy goes beyond first trimester.

Causes of miscarriage:

• Chromosomal defect
• Diabetes
• Hormonal disorders
• Infection
• Abnormalities of uterus
• Vascular diseases
• Trauma
• High age of mother
• Previous history of abortion

Induced Abortion

Induced abortion can be:

• Legal or illegal
• By trained and authorized medical professional or untrained person
• Therapeutic (on health ground of mother or child) or elective (personal choice)

Choice of procedure depends on

• Months of pregnancy (gestational age)
• Legal acceptance of procedure
• Availability of procedure
• Choice of doctor
• Choice of person

Types of induced abortion

Medical

These are done by certain pharmaceutical products like mifepristone, prostaglandin analog, methotrexate etc. This is preferred choice in early weeks of pregnancy.

Surgical

• Vacuum suction aspiration, manual or electric
• Dilatation and Curettage (D&C)
• Dilatation and Evacuation (D&E)
• Intact Dilatation and Extraction(IDX)
• Hysterotomy abortion

First three are for first trimester and can be done under local anesthesia whereas later two are for second trimester done under general anesthesia.

Other methods

Some traditional but unreliable methods like herbs or causing trauma by force or non surgical instruments. They have side effects and can even cause death.

How safe are abortions?

Abortions are very safe if :

• done at appropriate time
• done in appropriate conditions
• done by appropriate procedure
• done under supervision or by appropriate people (medically trained)

Complications of abortion:

Though rare but if precautions are not taken, following complications can occur:

• Pain
• Infection
• Uterine perforation
• Complications due to retained products

Why unsafe abortion?

It is estimated that about 20 million unsafe abortions are done annually.

It causes:

• medical complications
• injury
• secondary infertility
• possible death

Why do women opt for unsafe abortions?  Some common reasons are:

• Non availability of legal abortion
• Need to hide identity
• Choice of ‘easier method’
• Lack of availability of effective contraception

Abortion debate:

Induced abortion raises debate on spiritual, religious, political, ethical, moral, legal, medical, biological, philosophic, value system, human rights and responsibilities issues.

Those against abortion see abortion as murder and talk about Right of fetus to live as human being. Those in favor talk about Right of woman to decide about own life, own body and reproduction. Some neutral factors like risk to mother’s life also play a role. Most countries now legally favors abortion as woman’s right.

Gender based abortion:

This refers to abortion determined by gender of fetus. Termination of female fetus is more common due to desire of son as symbol of power, protection, future care and successor. It is facilitated by sonography (ultrasound) and amniocentesis.  The bad impact of this is deterioration of sex ratio between male and female in society. Most countries have agreed to eliminate discrimination against girl child and have enacted laws to prevent and ban such abortions.

Early adolescence (ages 12- 15) is a precarious period in youths’ sexual development because of the inter-relationship between sexual development, cognitive development, and emotional development. Youth at this age lack the cognitive and emotional maturity that is necessary to make wise and healthy decisions regarding their sexuality and are ill-prepared to cope with consequences of sexual activity. This is particularly unfortunate as today’s adolescents are becoming sexually active sooner than previous generations.

During early adolescence boys will experience frequent erections since this is the normal response of the male body to sexual excitement. Erections can also occur spontaneously for no apparent reason at all as boys’ bodies adjust to the extreme chemical and hormonal changes initiated during puberty. Similarly, girls may find they produce vaginal secretions for no apparent reason, even when they’re not menstruating. Sometimes, these secretions are caused by sexual arousal, but increased vaginal secretions can also be caused by normal hormonal fluctuations during their monthly cycle.

By ages 13-14 years, guys will have a more obvious interest in sex than girls do. Because sexual pleasure is a new experience, boys may want to masturbate quite frequently. Girls may not masturbate as frequently because they may be less aware of their sexual arousal. The sexual fantasies of boys are much more specific. They are mainly interested in the sexual activity itself. For most of them, sexual desire and satisfaction are immediate physical experiences quite unrelated to any particular social setting.

Common risky adolescent behaviors

• Unprotected Sex
• Substance abuse
• Violence

Children should be told frankly and sensibly about the upcoming changes in their body. Information about sex should be provided in a way that is easily understood and that leaves no questions unanswered. This information is best supplied by a parent or someone with whom the child has an emotionally stable relationship. In many schools, programs are available tat highlight the dangers of casual sex, smoking, and alcohol and drug addiction.

It is determined by factors such as anatomy, physiology, intellect, emotions, socioeconomic, value system, religious, spiritual, familial, sexual learning and personal choice. At larger level it can be determined by cultural, political, legal and philosophical aspects of life.

Individual unique sexuality gives a basic orientation to every human being. It can be:

• Heterosexuality – to opposite sex
• Homosexuality – to same sex
• Bisexuality – to both sex
• Asexuality – to none

Why do human beings get interested in sex?

It can be due to:

• Genetic influence
• Hormonal factors
• Learning by exposure
• Pleasure principal
• Social learning
• Driven by needs
• For reproduction

Types of sexual activity:

1. Based on activity

• Conventional like vaginal sex
• Non conventional like anal sex
• Perversion like fetish
• Criminal like rape

2. Based on number of participants

• One person activity like masturbation with or without sex products
• Two person activity like vaginal sex, anal sex, oral sex, mutual masturbation etc.
• More than one person activity like group sex

Types of sexual relationships:

• Marriage
• Love based commitment
• Short term relationship
• Casual relationship
• Single act relationship like one night stand
• Sex for mutual interest or favors
• Paid sex

Evolution of sexuality

Traditionally the sexual activity was driven by purpose like reproduction, attraction or pleasure. With the rise of socialization, it has served a purpose for bonding, emotional connect, remove insecurity, be part of a group, acceptance by others, to gain sense of achievement, as a skill development, business development, aesthetic and artistic growth  and even spiritual growth.

A typical sexual activity

It has

• Arousal – developing the desire and physiological changes
• Fore play – pleasure acts before main act
• Main act – like intercourse
• After play – pleasure acts after main act
• Resolution – calming down of desire and physiological changes

Frequency of sexual activity

• Abstinence – zero activity
• Low frequency – less than once in fifteen days
• Average frequency – 1 to 3 times a week
• High frequency – once or more than once a day

The frequency declines with age, appearance, hygiene, emotional state, health status, after menopause in females, with quality of relationship and with priorities of life.

It is always a good idea to know a little about the machine that you wish to use. There are two main components of sexual system. One is the brain and second is the external and internal genitalia.

Brain

Brain is the central processing unit. It receives signal from vision, hearing, touch etc and also internal signals from stored memory of past. It perceives pleasure and coordinated sexual hormones, nerves, muscles and blood circulation to create sexual response. The sexual thoughts, desires and fantasies are coming from cerebral cortex, the outer layer of brain. The sexual emotions and feelings come from limbic system of the brain. Pituitary gland in brain under the control of hypothalamus releases sexual hormones which are oxytocin, prolactin, follicle stimulating hormone FSH and luteinizing hormone LH. Of these FSH is said to be responsible for relationship bonding. It is released during sexual intercourse at the time of orgasm there called ‘Hormone of Love’. These hormones are also responsible for pregnancy and lactation.

Female anatomy of sex

External anatomy

The soft area over pubic bone located between umbilicus and vagina is monsveneris also called mount of venus. It is sensitive as it has many nerve endings. The entrance starts with labia majora, the outer lips followed by labia minora the inner lips. Labia majora are elongated folds of skin covered with hair. Labia minora meet and form clitoral hood which has clitoris with very high number of nerve endings, it is the seat of pleasure and orgasm. Labia minora contains rich supply of blood vessels and nerves. It covers the vaginal and urethral opening. Lower portion of labia minora contains bartholin’s gland which secrete alkaline fluid. This is essential as sperms can not survive acidic environment.

The vaginal opening is surrounded by bulbocavernosus muscle and vestibular bulb. These help vaginal grip on penis during intercourse. It is flexible to accommodate penis of all size. Inside vaginal opening there is hymen, a thin membrane that partially covers the vaginal opening. It is seen as a sign of virginity although in addition to intercourse it can get broken by other reasons like physical activity.

Breasts are also considered as part of external sexual organs. They contain mammary glands and fatty tissue. Their basic purpose is to prepare and provide milk to infant. Nipples are pink to brown colored and are very sensitive. Breasts too play a role in sexual stimulation.

Internal anatomy

The female internal organs are vagina, uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries. The vagina is canal like structure from vulva outside to cervix inside. During intercourse penis ejaculates sperm in vagina. The vagina has capacity to expand as it does during intercourse and also during childbirth. Front wall of vagina contains a spot called G Spot which is said to be sensitive and take part in sexual stimulation.

Between vagina and lower end of uterus is the cervix. Uterus is a muscular organ where fetus grows. Uterus occupies the pelvic cavity below abdomen. The fertilized egg is implanted on inner layer of uterus called endometrium which comes out as menstrual cycle every month when there is no fertilization. Fallopian tubes starts from side upper end of uterus both sides and extend sideways towards ovaries. Fallopian tubes pick eggs from ovaries. In these the eggs travel and get fertilized. Ovaries are female gonads and produce egg and female hormones estrogen and progesterone. In ovaries eggs grow inside a capsule called follicle. Every month one or more eggs get mature and egg is released. A female releases about 400 eggs during lifetime.

Male anatomy of sex

External anatomy

The external genitalia contain penis, scrotum and testes. Penis is cylindrical organs and helps in sexual intercourse and also as passage of sperms and urine. In non erect state it is about 3 to 3.75 inch in length and 1 to 1.2 inch in diameter. In erect state it is 4 to 6 inch in length and about 1.5 inch in diameter. The top portion of penis is glans which is covered by foreskin. In some cultures, this foreskin is removed in a process called circumcision. The main body of penis is shaft which has three cylinder shaped bodies of spongy tissue with many tiny blood vessels. These bodies get filled with blood to create erection in penis. Urethra, a tube like structure runs through penis to open outside at meatus as outlet of urine and sperms. The lower end of penis is root that gets attached to pubic bones. Underneath the penis there is a sac like structure called scrotum. It holds testes.

Internal anatomy

It contains testes, prostate gland, cowper’s gland and the duct system.

Testes are male gonads responsible for production of sperm cells and sex hormones, androgens like testosterone. Everyday millions of sperm cells are produced. These are carried in duct system. The duct system from testes to penis consists of epididymis near testes leading to vas deferens which extends into ejaculatory duct passing through prostate gland. Semen is produced in prostate. The ejaculatory duct finally merges into urethra towards penis.

Having sex is fun. But what might be less obvious is that it’s also good for you mentally and physically. It has many benefits. Some of them are discussed below:

Sex increases immunity – Having sex at least once or twice a week can boost immunity. Those who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of IgA, an antibody that could help you avoid a cold or other infection.

Sex reduces pain – it can reduce pain and PMS symptoms.

Stronger pelvic floor muscles – Regular sex also strengthens pelvic floor muscles

Sex can help you sleep better – The oxytocin released during orgasm also promotes sleep

Sex gets you and keeps you closer to your beloved – Having sex and orgasms boosts levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps people bond and build trust.

Sex reduces stress – Having sex could lower your stress. People who had had intercourse responded better to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained.

Sex boost self-esteem – when people raise the potential of sexual expression, it boosts their self-esteem and gives them a sense of being attractive, desirable, proficient, and confident

Sex increase blood flow – It goes without saying that when we get aroused our blood starts to pump at a quicker rate and, thus, blood flow to our brain increases.

Sex relieves headaches – A lovemaking session can release the tension that restricts blood vessels in the brain.

Sex is good for your heart – the average peak heart rate at orgasm is the same as during light exercise, such as walking upstairs. That’s not enough to keep most people fit and healthy.

Sex is good for glowing skin – An orgasm triggers a rush of endorphins and growth hormones, like DHEA, that help heal damage caused by the sun, smoking, and cortisol buildup, which is associated with the thinning of the skin.

Methods

• Barrier methods
• Hormonal methods
• Intrauterine devices
• Surgical methods
• Natural methods

How to choose

• Personal choice
• Age
• Health status
• Presence or risk of disease
• Individual suitability
• Duration for which contraception is required

Barrier Methods

Condoms

Available for both men and women. They are made of thin sheath and work as barrier for sperm to enter female genital tract. They also help in protection against sexually transmitted diseases. Males wear condoms on penis before intercourse by simply rolling it over when in erect state. Precaution is that it should not be torn or slips after ejaculation when penis becomes relaxed. It should not be put in toilet but should be carefully thrown in bin. Female condom is worn inside vagina before intercourse. Condoms are about 98% reliable.

Hormonal methods

Pills

These are hormone based pills used by females. These can be single or combined hormone estrogen and progesterone. Taken daily for 21 days and then a break of 7 days.They stop the ovulation that is release of female egg. These are about 99% effective. These are not recommended if there is heart disease risk.

Injection

These are hormone based injections. Also prevent sperm reaching the egg. They work similar to pills but required less frequently. About 99% effective. Some side effects are mood swings, increase in weight, headache and thinning of bones.

Contraceptive patch

A patch which releases hormone is put on arm. One patch for a week, three such and then break of one week. Work like pills. Effectiveness is about 99%.

Contraceptive Implant

A tiny instrument put under skin of arm by medical professional. It releases hormones like patch. It protects for three years but is irreversible. About 99% effective.

Diaphragms and caps

Reusable, made of rubber or silicon these are inserted into vagina. They contain spermicide, an agent to kill sperm. They work as both barrier and by killing sperm cells. About 96% effective.

Emergency contraception

In case where other method has gone wrong like torn condom or after unprotected sex, one can use emergency contraception. There are two kinds. Pills to be used within 48 hours and Intra Uterine Device within five days of exposure.About 95 to 99 % effective.

Intrauterine Devices and system

Intra Uterine Devices IUDare tiny devices made of copper and plastic that is placed inside female genital tract. They work for years. They prevent sperm from travelling to cervix and also prevent implantation. About 99% effective.Can be removed when not required. When such devices are used with hormones they are called Intra Uterine System IUS. They prevent ovulation in addition to IUD action. They too are 99% effective.

Surgical method

This is the surgical method of contraception in which the pathway is obstructed through a simple surgery. It is vasectomy in males or tubal ligation in females. Although permanent but a reversal can be tried in cases. These are free from side effects and offer almost 100% protection.

Natural methods

These methods work on the understanding of menstrual cycle.

Calendar based abstinence – Regulating the timing of intercourse to prevent conception. Time when egg is present for fertilization is prevented. Abstinence can be long term method if that is ok for both to remain without sex.

Lactation – First six months after delivery if the mother is breast feeding the child, the conception does not occur.

Withdrawal – Also called coitus interruptus. During intercourse penis is withdrawn just before ejaculation. This is highly risky due to failure of withdrawal in time.

Body based method – In this symptoms of body like body temperature are used to determine most fertile period and that is avoided.

Dual protection

Combining two birth control methods is helpful in increasing effectiveness of methods. Adding barrier method can help in preventing sexually transmitted diseases. Sometimes they compliment each other like combination of natural and barrier method.

Real facts to dispel misconceptions

There are many misconcepts but must be removed. Here are the real facts:

• Douching or washing of female genital tract after intercourse does not protect.
• No menstruation like in young girls before her first period is no guarantee against conception.
• Sex during less fertile phase can still cause pregnancy.
• Conception can not be increased or decreased by altering sex positions.

Specific behaviours during early childhood sexual development include sexual play, masturbation, swearing, sex jokes and dressing up as the other sex. Many parents are surprised, even shocked, when they discover their children engaging in some form of sex play or exploration.

Common behaviours of childhood sexuality

• Curiosity-based sex plays with same and opposite sex friends.
• Occasional masturbation. For some children masturbation may begin to take on a pleasure oriented rather than relaxation focus.
• Kissing, flirting, innocent seduction behavior
• Occasional interest in the private body parts of others
• Use of slang words to describe body parts and sexuality.

Parental intervention in their child’s sexuality

Children learn certain values related to sexuality that lay a foundation for later sexual development. The healthy development of our children is something we all desire. Learning to distinguish between normal and alarming childhood sexual behavior is key to ensuring healthy sexual development. Here are some points for the parents to remember when addressing their child’s sexuality:

• Parents and caretakers need to develop an open and trusting relationship so that the children in their care feel comfortable talking with them about anything.
• Become familiar with the developmental tasks and needs of children that pertain to their sexuality.
• Expect your child to be exposed to sexual matters. Don’t assume that because you don’t “show it or say it” at home your child won’t know something about it.
• Educate yourself about sex and sexuality and practice talking about it so you become more comfortable.

• Abortion – The termination of a pregnancy before it has reached viability.
• Adolescence -The period of life between childhood and adulthood, usually age 11–16.
• Anorgasmia -The inability to have an orgasm.
• Auto Immune Deficiency Syndrome or AIDS – A deadly sexually transmitted disease, no cure yet but there are good medicines to control.
• Basal body temperature method of family planning -Natural method of birth control that uses the woman’s daily body temperature to determine when a woman is ovulating.
• Bi-curious -State of sexual interest in both sexes in order to determine one’s sexual orientation.
• Bisexuality -Sexually attracted to members of both sexes.
• Calendar method or rhythm method -Natural method of birth control that in which abstinenceis observed during the time of month when the woman is likely to become pregnant.
• Candidiasis or yeast infection -Fungal infection that is sometimes affects genitals through sexual contact.
• Cervical cap -Barrier method of birth control in which a small cap is used to fit over the cervix and block sperm.
• Cervical mucus method – Natural method of birth control that checks the consistency of the woman’s cervical mucus to see when a woman is ovulating and is more likely to conceive.
• Cervix -The entrance to the uterus in a female’s anatomy.
• Chlamydia -A common sexually transmitted disease.
• Circumcision -The surgical removal of the penis foreskin.
• Climacteric –Phase of menopause with characteristic changes.
• Clitoris –The sensitive part of the female genitalia found within the vulva. It is said to be the organ of pleasure in women.
• Condom – Barrier method of birth control worn by men over the penis. Also a good method of protection against sexually transmitted diseases.
• Contraception -The intent, efforts and methods to avoid unintended pregnancy.
• Cunnilingus –Oral sex done on vagina.
• Depo-Provera:Hormonal method of birth control.
• Detumescence–Fading arousal after ejaculation in males, penis returns to flaccid state.
• Diaphragm -Barrier method of birth control in which a domeshaped cup blocks the rear part of the vaginafrom sperm.
• Dildo -A penisshaped object that is inserted into vagina to simulate the sexual feeling.
• Ejaculation –Emission of sperm from penis as a result of orgasm.
• Erectile dysfunction or ED –A condition when a man is unable to have an erection.
• Erection -A penis that is stiff and hard in a state of arousal.
• Estrogen -A female hormone.
• Fellatio –Oral sex done on penis.
• Female superior position – Sexual position with woman on top.
• Foreskin -A sheath of skin that surrounds the glans and opens at the top. This is surgically removed in the process called circumcision.
• Frottage -The homosexual activity of two men rubbing their bodies against each other until they reach climax.
• Genital warts by human papillomavirus HPV – A typeof sexually transmitted disease.
• Glans -The head of penis.
• Gonorrhea –A type of sexually transmitted disease.
• Group masturbation also called circle jerk -Mutual masturbation in a group.
• Hepatitis B – A type of sexually transmitted disease.
• Herpes – A type of sexually transmitted disease.
• Heterosexuality –Sexual attraction only to members of opposite sex.
• Homosexuality -Sexual attraction only to members of same sex as own.Men and women are respectively gay and lesbian.
• Hormone replacement therapy- Medical treatment by hormones for menopause and post it.
• Human immunodeficiency virus HIV – Sexually transmitted virus that causesautoimmune deficiency syndrome AIDS.
• Hysterectomy – The surgical removal of the uterus.
• Impotency –Inability in man to get an erection when wanted.
• Intrauterine deviceIUD:Method of birth control in which a small device is implanted into the uterus with use of hormones or copper to prevent pregnancy.
• Laparoscopic sterilization –Type of female sterilization in which a small instrument inserted through a small incision.
• Libido -The desire to have sex.
• Masturbation -Sexually pleasuring oneself usually ending in orgasm.
• Meatus – Theexternal opening of the glans.
• Menarche -First menstrual period.
• Menopause -The end of menstruation with resultant changes.
• Menstruation or menstrual cycle -The monthly process of releasing eggs and bleeding in case of non conception.
• Missionary position – Male on top position of sex.
• Molluscum contagiosum – A type ofsexually transmitted disease
• Mons pubis andMons Veneris -A portion above the female’s pubic bone and is said to be sensitive to sexual stimulus.
• Mutual masturbation –Pleasuring each other by masturbating the partner.
• Natural family planning method –Using natural method like abstinence to prevent pregnancy.
• Nocturnal penile tumescence -Erection during sleep.
• Orgasm –The climax of sexual excitement experienced as intense pleasure and with ejaculation in males and similar feeling in females.
• Ovulation -Process in which ovaries release egg.
• Pedophile -A person who wants to have sex with children.
• Pelvic inflammatory diseasePID:An infection that has spread into the deeper organs of reproductive system.
• Perineum -The area between the genital organ and the anus.
• Peyronie’s disease -Condition in which the erect penis curves to one side to the extent that sex becomes impossible.
• Premonitory sensation -The feeling or point of no return before ejaculation in men.
• Priapism –Long lasting painful erection.
• Progesterone -A female hormone essential for pregnancy.
• Prostate gland – The prostate gland is located at the lower end of man’s bladder and it produces fluids that makepart of semen.
• Psychogenic erection -An erection caused by non specific stimulus that triggers the brain to release hormones resulting in erection.
• Pubococcygeus muscles – Muscles in the genital area in both male and female that causes the most contractions during orgasm.
• Retarded ejaculation –Condition in which ejaculation is delayed or difficult.
• Retrograde ejaculation -Condition in which during ejaculation the semen flows backwards into the bladder.
• Scrotum -The sac at the base of the penis that holds the testis.
• Sexual orientation -The state that tells what gender a person is attracted to. Like homosexuals are attracted to same gender as own.
• Sexually transmitted diseaseSTD -A disease or infection that is transmitted by sexual intercourse.
• Smegma –A substance that forms under the foreskin from excretions and dead skin cells.
• Spermicide -Chemical used as contraceptive to kill sperm.
• Sterilization -Permanent birth control method by surgery, in males it is vasectomy and tubal sterilization in females.
• Syphilis -A type of STD that gives chancres and if untreated leads to serious complications.
• Testicles or testes -Part of the male genitals present in scrotal sacs.
• Tribadism -Two women rubbing their genitals together while one is lying on top of the other.
• Trichomoniasis –A type of sexually transmitted disease.
• Tubectomy or tubal ligation – Permanent method of birth control in female by surgery.
• Uterus – Female organ where a fertilized egg implants and develops into fetus.
• Vagina – Part of the female genitals, sort of muscular tube that extends from the external opening vulva to the cervix.
• Vaginismus -A condition in which a woman’s vaginal muscles involuntarily contracts tight that makes penetration by the man’s penis is painful or even impossible.
• Vaginitis – Infection of vagina.
• Vasectomy- Permanent method of birth control in male by surgery.
• Vibrator –Sex toy or device that gives intercourse like clitoral stimulation for a woman.
• Vulva – The visible part of the female genitals.

Scientists show that sex is extremely beneficial for our health but it can also be harmful in many ways. Some of the harmful effects if sex is not disciplined are discussed below:

The Harmful Effects of Sex Addiction

• It can cause a person to exhibit uncharacteristic behavior and make poor decisions.
• It increases a person’s risk for contracting a sexually-transmitted disease.
• A person’s self-esteem may be eroded by his or her addiction to sex.
• It can lead to various acts including pornography addiction, chronic masturbation, phone sex, extramarital affairs for married individuals, voyeurism, and sexual intercourse with anonymous person.

The Harmful Effects of over Masturbation

• Though not harmful as such but excess can cause harm.
• People feel shame and guilt because of their masturbation habits
• Chronic masturbation can cause fatigue and weakness.
• It can affect sexual performance.
• It can negatively affect your work, relationships, self-esteem, finances, social support, and have legal problems if you’re not able to find a balance between being responsible in life and satisfying your pleasures and desires.

The Harmful Effects of sex during Menstruation

• Having intercourse during your period can increase the chances of irritation to the swelled up walls.
• The cervix is slightly opened during menstruation to let out blood. This heightens the risk of infection, not being limited only to the vagina, but additionally to the uterus.

The homosexual orientation defines how a person is likely to find the satisfying and fulfilling relationships. In addition to sexual behavior between partners, this includes nonsexual physical affection, shared goals, shared values, mutual support, and commitment.

Coming out

Coming out of closet is a phrase that refers to one’s disclosure of sexual orientation. First phase of this is self realization, second phase is telling others and third phase is living openly. This can be stressful and can face hurdles due to attitude of close ones. The term outing is used to publicly reveal a person’s sexual orientation by others.

Once a person realize own orientation, he or she can go through many emotions. There can be

• Denial
• Guilt
• Shame and embarrassment
• Anger
• Isolation
• Depression

Due to more social acceptance and awareness, more people now accept own orientation without huge emotional turmoil. But they can still face challenges when it comes to living a normal life:

• Opposition in family and by friends
• Discrimination at work place
• Ridicule in society
• Difficulty in finding right partner
• Challenges of a safe future

The good thing is that society is more open. Laws are in favor. And people’s attitude is more positive and respectful

Research and studies

Research has now proved it as normal. In first Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders published by American Psychiatric Association in 1952, homosexuality was included as disorder. Later in 1973 it was removed.  Similarly WHO listed homosexuality as illness in ICD 9 but removed in ICD 10.

Cause

Research favors genetic and early embryonic environmental factors.

According to American Psychological Association and American Psychiatric Association

Currently, there is no scientific consensus about the specific factors that cause an individual to become heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual—including possible biological, psychological, or social effects of the parents’ sexual orientation. However, the available evidence indicates that the vast majority of lesbian and gay adults were raised by heterosexual parents and the vast majority of children raised by lesbian and gay parents eventually grow up to be heterosexual.

According to Royal College of Psychiatrists

Despite almost a century of psychoanalytic and psychological speculation, there is no substantive evidence to support the suggestion that the nature of parenting or early childhood experiences play any role in the formation of a person’s fundamental heterosexual or homosexual orientation. It would appear that sexual orientation is biological in nature, determined by a complex interplay of genetic factors and the early uterine environment. Sexual orientation is therefore not a choice.

According to American Academy of Pediatrics

Sexual orientation probably is not determined by any one factor but by a combination of genetic, hormonal, and environmental influences. In recent decades, biologically based theories have been favored by experts. Although there continues to be controversy and uncertainty as to the genesis of the variety of human sexual orientations, there is no scientific evidence that abnormal parenting, sexual abuse, or other adverse life events influence sexual orientation. Current knowledge suggests that sexual orientation is usually established during early childhood.

Kinsey Scale

The Kinsey scale which is also called the Heterosexual Homosexual Rating Scale, describes a person’s sexual history or episodes of sexual activity at a given time. The scale is from 0 meaning exclusively heterosexual to 6 meaning exclusively homosexual. Report also use X for asexuality.

Family and parenting

Homosexuals are as fit as heterosexuals in making a family and as parents. Their children can be either homosexual or heterosexual like any other child.

Health

There are no major or different health problems than those seen in heterosexuals. The psychological issues like denial, guilt or depression are mostly due to society attitude.

Get it right. Yes, sex can be and should be learned. True that it is natural activity but one can master it and can take it to the level of art. To experience it best, it is necessary to be skillful. Even the most sexually active people do not have correct information or skill. This leads to frustration, sexual disorder and deviant sexual behavior which is enough to ruin life.

• Remove ignorance, wrong facts and myths
• Remove poor technique
• Be fully informed and aware
• Learn better skills and techniques
• Learn to avoid sexual disorders
• Learn to manage sexual disorders
• Learn the art of intimacy and relationship
• Understand the difference between healthy and unhealthy sex
• Learn the difference between mental and physical sexual appetite

People have many questions about sex and how they can become better in this. Unfortunately this crucial aspect of life has no teachers. Everyone get to know from others in group, books or pornography. Most of the knowledge is far from truth. No doubt frustration and dissatisfaction is the result. Unhappiness thus created can affect the entire life. Society must give importance to this and help young ones to learn about skills of healthy sex. Following must be made available to every boy and girl as they grow and learn.

• Sex Education in school
• Counseling in school and college
• Informative books and websites on sex and sexuality

Society should no longer feel embarrassed in talking about sex and better sex skills. Let people learn it and create happiness in life.

Psychological explanation

Sigmund Freud is famous for defining libido as life force or energy which is the instinctive unconscious part of the psyche. This comes as impulse but is often in conflict with norms of society. A person uses defense mechanism to avoid conflict with society. But excess suppression leads to neurosis. Carl Jung described libido as “It is the energy that manifests itself in the life process and is perceived subjectively as striving and desire.”

Factors that can reduce libido

Psychological factors

• Lack of intimacy
• Stress or fatigue
• Emotional turmoil
• Stress from bad environment
• Poor self image
• Attractiveness of partner
• Sexual anxiety
• History of abuse or traum

Physical factors

• Lack or deficiency of sex hormone, testosterone
• Other hormonal disorders
• Poor fitness level
• Poor nutrition
• Lack of energy
• Anemia
• Smoking, alcohol and drug abuse

Medications

• Anti depressants
• Antipsychotics
• SSRI
• Beta blockers
• Hormones like contraceptives

Endogenous substances affecting libido

• 5-HT1A agonist
• Acetylcholine
• Cortisol
• Dopamine
• Estrogens
• Oxytocin
• Progesterone
• Serotonin
• Sex hormone binding globulin
• Testosterone

Libido and menstrual cycle

Since libido is linked to body hormones, women may experience a high libido before ovulation. This is said to be linked to gradual rise of testosterone level in every cycle which is at peak around 13^th day. Changes in hormones may cause high or low libido around menopause.

Aphrodisiac

Some products that are said to enhance libido or sex desire. There effects, benefits and side effects are a matter of debate and study.

• Alkyl nitrites or poppers
• Ambergris
• Bremelanotide
• Crocin
• Dopamine agonist
• Ginko biloba
• Ginseng
• Melanotan
• Musk
• Phenylethylamine
• Spanish fly
• Testosterone
• Water melon
• Yohimbine

How to increase libido naturally

• Reduce obesity, alcohol, smoking
• Reduce stress, organize life
• Overcome sexual myths
• Keep fit exercise regularly, do yoga, strength training
• Eat right food, nutritious and not causing lethargy
• Try safer aphrodiasics like yohimbine, ginko biloba, ginseng
• Attend sex therapy
• Activate sexual mindset, think sex
• Feel sexy Look sexy Be sexy
• Try outfits which helps including the type and color
• Use pleasant odors
• Create atmosphere to tease libido
• Learn sexual skills to feel sexually confident
• Smooth skin is aphrodisiac
• Try sexual touch
• Sexual fantasy

Male masturbation

The most common male masturbation technique is simply to hold the penis with a loose fist and then to move the hand up and down the shaft. This type of stimulation is typically all that is required to achieve orgasm and ejaculation. There are many other variations on male masturbation techniques. Men may also rub or massage the glans, the rim of the glans, and the frenular delta. Some men place both hands directly on their penis during masturbation, while others may use their free hand to fondle their testicles, nipples, or other parts of their body. Men may also use sex toys like vibrators and may use lubricant or lotions to increase pleasure and protect against irritation.

Female masturbation

Female masturbation techniques include a woman stroking or rubbing her vulva, especially her clitoris, with her index and/or middle fingers. Women can sexually stimulate themselves by crossing their legs tightly and clenching the muscles in their legs, creating pressure on the genitals. Another way is your bathtub! Position yourself under the tap so that your genitals are directly under the running water. Let the water continuously hit your clitoris. Some women swear by it! Almost all female masturbation techniques will focus on stimulating the clitoris in a variety of ways until orgasm is reached.

Child masturbation

Masturbation is self-stimulation of the genitals for pleasure and self-comfort. Children may rub themselves with a hand or other object. Masturbation is more than the normal inspection of the genitals commonly observed in 2-year-olds during baths. During masturbation, a child usually appears dazed, flushed, and preoccupied. A child may masturbate as often as several times each day or just once a week. Masturbation occurs more commonly when a child is sleepy, bored, watching television, or under stress. By age 5 or 6, most children can learn some discretion and will masturbate only in private. It is not abnormal or excessive unless it is deliberately done in public places after age 5 or 6. It does not mean your child will be oversexed, promiscuous, or sexually deviant.

Sex is a normal part of healthy adult life, but it is seldom discussed openly.Wrong beliefs are the common cause of many broken hearts and relationships. Here, is a list of some common sexual myths and facts for your benefit:

• Myth: Men need or want sex more often than women.

Fact: Not true. Sexual drive varies from person to person in both men and women.

• Myth: Losing one drop of semen is equal to losing about 40 drops of blood.

Fact: Semen is not made of blood. Losing semen is in no way related to losing blood.

• Myth: Too much masturbation makes the penis shrink in size.

Fact: Not true. No amount of masturbation will make the penis shrink. An adult male’s penis will remain the same size throughout his life.

• Myth: Menopause is the end of a woman’s sex life.

Fact: Women cannot conceive after menopause but can continue to have a normal sex life.

• Myth: You can’t get pregnant the first time you have sex.

Fact: One sexual encounter is enough for pregnancy to occur. If you do not wish to conceive, it is extremely important that you use a contraceptive, even for your first intercourse.

• Myth: Simultaneous orgasms are a must for a good sex life.

Fact: Most couples do not achieve simultaneous orgasm. If you are otherwise happy with your sex life there is no cause for concern.

• Myth: Females also ejaculate when they have an orgasm.

Fact: Not true. Female orgasm does not lead to ejaculation.

• Myth: Oral sex can get you pregnant

Fact: Most women carry fears of unwanted pregnancy. Oral sex alone cannot result in pregnancy.

• Myth: Atleast 8 inch penis should be there to have good sex

Fact: Wrong. Sexual satisfaction is not based on penis size. It is the overall relationship and the sexual skill that makes a good sex. Secondly vagina is flexible and grips penis so no penis is big or small for vagina.

• Myth: Masturbation is harmful

Fact:Wrong. Masturbation is safe natural activity and do not cause any harm to sexual, to any physical or mental function of body.

• Myth: Pregnancy will not occur if man do not ejaculate inside

Fact: False. Pregnancy can occur due to pre ejaculation fluid.

• Myth: Woman must have orgasm for good sex

Fact: Not necessary. Unlike man, woman can enjoy good sex even without orgasm although if both male and female learn good skills then orgasm is more likely to occur.

• Myth: Use of lubricants is weird and done by sex addicts

Fact: False. Dryness makes sex very difficult. Using lubricants make it easy and enjoyable.

• Myth: Oral sex is absolutely safe, can’t cause any STIs

Fact: The fact is that body fluids get exchanged during oral sex, so chances of transmitting infections are high.

What happens inside us during sex? The research has clearly established the changes right from arousal to orgasm and after. According to Masters and Johnson, the human sexual response cycle consists of four phases:

1.      Phase of excitement – Motivation and urge for sex

2.      Phase of plateau – Changes and preparation for orgasm

3.      Phase of orgasm – the climax

4.      Phase of resolution – resolution of excitement and return to unaroused state

The sexual response cycle in males

1.      Phase of excitement – The sight or thought of sex leads to beginning. Two centers in spine causes erection. The heart rate rises, in penis there is vasoconstriction and start to be filled by blood, scrotum thickens, there is shortening of spermatic cord and testes gets engorged with blood.

2.      Phase of plateau – Penis increase in size, the testes gets more engorged and there is secretion of preseminal fluid from Cowper’s gland.

3.      Phase of orgasm – There is rhythmic contraction in every 0.8 seconds. In first part there is contraction of vas deferens and in second there is ejaculation.

4.      Phase of resolution –There is resolution of excitement and return to unaroused state. There is a refractory phase or rest period before which next cycle can start. This vary person to person and increase with age.

The sexual response cycle in females

1.      Phase of excitement – It start with increase in heart rate, respiratory rate and blood pressure. Vasocongestion can result in flushing of skin, increase in breast size and erection of nipples. There is swelling of clitoris, labia and vagina. Uterus elevates, vaginal opening becomes tighter and releases lubricating fluid.

2.      Phase of plateau – There is intensification of first phase changes.

3.      Phase of orgasm – The physiological changes reach their peak, pelvic muscles, uterus and anal sphincter contracts. There is high level pleasure resulting in orgasm with rhythmic contraction of muscles.

4.      Phase of resolution  -There is resolution of excitement and return to unaroused state.

• Conception between female egg and male sperm – This can be natural by sexual intercourse or through assisted reproductive technology.
• Implantation and development of fetus in uterus – It is usually divided into three trimesters or three phases.
• Delivery of fetus – This can be natural, induced or surgical.

Conception

Female releases eggs by the process called ovulation. Pituitary gland in brain secretes Follicle Stimulation Hormone FSH and Luteinizing Hormone LH which controls this release and prepares female genitalia for fertilization and implantation. Once follicle rupture in ovary and egg is released, it is picked up by fallopian tube and start to travel towards uterus. It is here the egg gets fertilized by sperm. If the egg is not fertilized, menstrual cycle occurs. The release time of eggs is about midway between two normal menstrual cycles.

Be it natural as in sexual intercourse or assisted as in artificial insemination or in vitro fertilization, the first thing to occur is the fertilization of female egg or gametes or oocyte merge with male spermatozoa. This merger also leads to merger of genes of male and female side. This fused product is called zygote or fertilized egg. This merger commonly occurs in fallopian tube.

Implantation and Development

The zygote continues to move towards uterus, reach there and gets attached to uterine wall, a process called implantation. The cell mass is now called embryo. It begins to develop different types of cells to form future structures. Supporting structures like placenta and umbilical cord which help in sustaining and growth of embryo also develops.

Start date

There are three starting dates based on events:

1. From first day of woman’s last menstrual period
2. From date of conception that is about two weeks before next expected menstrual period
3. From the date of implantation

Duration

Normal pregnancy is estimated to be about 280 days or 40 weeks of gestational age. It is 280 days of gestational age that is from first day of last menstrual period. A difference of 8 – 10 days is commonly seen.

Term

Full term – 40 weeks

Term – 37 to 42 weeks

Preterm or premature – Before 37 weeks

Post term post mature–After 42 weeks

Both preterm and post term babies can have complications.

Delivery

Delivery or childbirth is the process in which infant is born. It begins with labor when woman begins to experience regular uterine contraction. This is followed by effacement and dilatation of cervix. Most deliveries occur naturally but in some cases induced or surgical assistance is required. This can be due to malposition of baby, problems with placenta or umbilical cord or health risk to baby or mother. During after delivery or post natal period, the mothers body return to non pregnant state.

Diagnosis and symptoms of pregnancy

• Missed menstrual period
• Nausea, vomiting, tiredness, frequent urination
• Urine and blood test for presence of HCG – 12 to 15 days after implantation
• Increased basal body temperature
• Darkening of cervix, vagina, vulva – Chadwick’s sign
• Softening of vaginal portion of cervix – Goodell’s sign
• Appearance of lineanigra, darkening of skin in midline of abdomen
• Tenderness of breast
• Increase in abdomen girth
• Baby movements inside abdomen

Investigations

• Blood and urine test for detection of HCG. Commonly called as pregnancy test. Can be positive as early as 12 days of implantation. Home kits are available.
• Ultrasonography to detect pregnancy, age and how baby is doing.
• Blood and urine test to detect hormonal status and health status of mother and child
• Amniocentesis to detect chromosomal disorders

Precautions during pregnancy

• Better the health of mother better is pregnancy. Same is true for mother’s happiness
• Alcohol and smoking puts baby at risk and can cause birth defects
• Drugs like marijuana can have devastating effect
• Toxins like lead and mercury present can cause serious defects in baby
• Air and water pollution pose health risk to mother and child
• Caution must be taken to prevent injury
• Sex is safe during pregnancy but one should be cautious and discuss with the doctor
• Mild gentle exercises supports pregnancy

Complications in pregnancy

• Anemia
• Back pain
• Nausea and vomiting
• Increased urinary frequency
• Pregnancy induced hypertension
• Pregnancy induced diabetes
• Edema and swelling
• Heartburn and GERD
• Hemorrhoids
• Post delivery depression or psychosis
• Urinary tract infection UTI
• Varicose veins
• Ectopic pregnancy
• Thyroid problems

All these conditions can be prevented and well managed under medical supervision.

Can we have sex during pregnancy? This topic is crucial for every couple due to reasons of both kinds.

If we avoid:

• Removes the happiness of sex from life
• Causes stress and strain relationship

If we do not avoid:

• It causes pain
• It feels awkward
• It can harm pregnancy and child

Experts say that there is no harm in having sex during pregnancy and can even provide psychoemotional support to woman. It is mutual choice.

Will it harm baby?

It will not in case of gentle sex. Nature has given enough protection to baby. But caution is required in case of possible infection, bleeding, low placenta and previous spontaneous miscarriage.

Does she have sexual desire?

Sexual desire may vary. It depends on how she feels about having sex during pregnancy. Some women experience very high libido during pregnancy and enjoy sex. Condition like nausea of pregnancy, weakness etc can affect libido.

Which position is good?

If ‘man on top’ position is uncomfortable there are many other positions:

• Lying on side
• Lying on the edge of the bed
• Sitting
• Woman on top
• Oral sex is also safe

And post delivery?

Again mutual choice but four weeks is good time to wait. A lot depends on woman’s health, emotional status and baby care.

Middle-aged women are more satisfied with their sex lives as they get older – even though they have less sex and say their partners have performance issues in the bedroom. Men, on the other hand, say they are less satisfied as time goes on. A loss of sex drive and the need for physical intimacy might be acceptable to some folks as they mature, but there are millions of men in their 40′s, 50′s, 60′s, and older, that perish the thought of dwindling sexual relations at or after middle age.

Midlife sex takes extra effort. The challenges associated with reaching middle age like stress, overwhelming responsibilities, aging kids and parents, exhaustion and body changes, leave anything that takes extra effort low on the priority list.

Both male and female libidos tend to decline with increasing age and males tend to lose their libido faster than women. However, this is not to say the desire for sex is lost completely or even that it decreases for everyone. The female menopause has been linked to a loss of interest in sex and to a desensitisation of the genital area. In some cases sexual intercourse can even become painful for older women

Sex between elderly people is often treated as a taboo by society. Whilst sex itself is a sensitive topic due to its private nature, sex between seniors is often treated with extra care. STD’s are also prevalent in later life despite common misconceptions that STD’s only affect younger people groups. Many men in older age do not believe they need to use protection such as condoms as they age and their partners often feel likewise, so it can be difficult to stress the importance of continued use of protection for elderly couples.

Sex is a way to express love and it also provides the feeling of security and reconfirms the feelings shared between people, regardless of age. It has a symbolic value which is independent of age.

Changes in the male

• Low sex hormones
• Low libido
• Lesser erection
• Less bodily agility and flexibility

Changes in the female

• Low sex hormones
• Low libido
• Less bodily agility and flexibility
• Dryness of vagina

Keep it going

Some ways to spice up sex life, age no bar:

• Keep fit – Maintain fitness and good lifestyle to enjoy sex longer.
• Take it easy – Don’t rush into sex. Let it build up at its own pace.
• Do not compare – Do not compare with your younger age. This is new and different.
• Be playful – It is not display of strength. Be playful with small things like touch, kisses etc.
• Foreplay – Foreplay in itself can be complete fun. Do not make intercourse necessary. Manual stimulation can be good fun.
• Lubrication – If dryness is problem, use lubrication.
• Medication and therapy – Conventional or herbal medication or therapies like acupuncture can be tried to boost up sex life.

What can sex do for you:

• Keep relationship spark shining
• Refresh memories
• Relieves stress
• Good for health

Sexual desire and functioning is a combination of psychology, nervous system, hormonal system, cardiovascular system and sensory system. Illness can affect these negatively. Treatment of illness can too interfere in these. Psychotropic, anti hypertension and anti diabetes drugs are well known for their effect on sexual functioning.

How illness can affect sex life?

Though effects on every individual vary, there are some common problems:

• Emotional disturbance – Long term suffering from chronic illness can affect emotional status and lead to sadness and anxiety. These can affect sex life.
• Energy lack – There can be a loss of energy. The natural zest can be lacking. This is dampener for good sex.
• Loss of libido – Chronic illness can reduce libido. There can not be good sex with low libido.
• Medicine side effects – There are side effects of medicines which can affect libido and sexual functioning.
• Pain – Pain alone is sufficient to hurt sexual desire and functioning.
• Complaints of disease – Many symptoms of disease like limitation of mobility, nausea, and cough can easily spoil sex life.
• Surgery – Surgery can limit sex life due to feeling of limitation or disfigurement.

How to continue with good sex life

• Communication – Discuss with your partner about your feelings, needs, what is painful and what feels good.
• Foreplay – Focus on fun. Foreplay itself can make a complete satisfaction.
• Treatment – Getting correct treatment and easing pain can pave way to great sex life.
• Simple sex – If trying different sex positions is not happening due to complaints, try simple things like gentle massage, mutual masturbation etc for satisfaction.
• Best time for sex – Look for the time when the pain or suffering is less and make best use of this time to have good sex.
• Nutrition – Take care of nutrition as this can help in boosting up energy and reducing the complaints. Avoid sex immediately after meals as energy is diverted in digesting food.
• Habits – Cut down on alcohol and smoking as they will further affect health and drain energy.
• Seek help – Seek help of counselor and therapist to improve sex life.

Doctor’s role

Doctor’s role is crucial in:

• Assurance and removing anxiety
• Giving correct information
• Giving correct treatment
• Teaching specific lifestyle changes
• Discussing sexual concerns

Any physical challenge does not mean end of sex life. It can be as satisfying as ever.

Acceptance

Acceptance of fact that sex will be fun even after the physical challenge. No need to give up. Just like you have fought with physical challenge and have successfully brought life back on track, same can be done to your sex life.

Adjustment

Some adjustments might be in place. It depends on the kind of physical challenge. Partner too needs to adjust. Some partners become too fearful to cause any trauma. It can be different but the fun is same.

Communication

Discuss with your partner. Talk about the possibilities. Do not hesitate in talking about sexual needs. Discuss how do you wish to have fun.

Seek help

Seek professional help in sexual rehabilitation. Counselors, psychotherapist, physical therapist and others can help in their own way to improve sex life.

Innovation

You can design your own ways of sexual fun which can be away from standard sexual practices. Use ideas and creativity to have good fun.

Effective sex education provides young people with an opportunity to explore the reasons why people have sex, and to think about how it involves emotions, respect for one self and other people and their feelings, decisions and bodies. Young people should have the chance to explore gender differences and how ethnicity and sexuality can influence people’s feelings and options. They should be able to decide for themselves what the positive qualities of relationships are. It is important that they understand how bullying, stereotyping, abuse and exploitation can negatively influence relationships.

Sex education aims to –

• Reduce the risks of potentially negative outcomes from sexual behaviour, such as unwanted or unplanned pregnancies
• Reduce infection with sexually transmitted diseases including HIV
• Contribute to young people’s positive experience of their sexuality by enhancing the quality of their relationships

Common avenues for sex education

Sex education can take place in a variety of settings, both in and out of school.

• Parents or caregivers
• Formal school programs
• Public health campaigns

It is important for sex education to begin at a young age. Giving young people basic information from an early age provides the foundation on which more complex knowledge is built up over time. For example, when they are very young, children can be informed about how people grow and change over time, and how babies become children and then adults, and this provides the basis on which they understand more detailed information about puberty provided in the pre-teenage years. They can also when they are young, be provided with information about viruses and germs that attack the body. This provides the basis for talking to them later about infections that can be caught through sexual contact.

Sex education can be an important and effective way of enhancing young people’s knowledge, attitudes and behavior.

Sex education can help in

• Gaining accurate and authentic information
• Forming attitude and beliefs about sex
• Know the significance of timing and discipline
• Creating healthy sexual identity
• Developing healthy relationships and intimacy
• Developing healthy sexual skills and sexual confidence
• Saving from sexual abuse and exploitation
• Safeguard against sexually transmitted diseases
• Avoiding unwanted pregnancy
• Managing sexual perversions and disorders
• Managing prejudice and peer pressure
• Manage sexual conflicts and sexual risk

Sex education should be positive and proactive

• It should promote better communication
• It should promote questioning and clarifying doubts
• It should promote sex discipline
• It should promote safe and healthy sex habits
• It should promote healthy attitude, beliefs and morals

Core of sex education

Following is the basic core:

• Sexual development and sexual identity
• Reproduction, contraception & birth control
• Sexual relationships

Starting sex education

No age is too early. All that is required is to create content of sex education in a way that suits the age and circumstances of those receiving. Girls should be told about menstruation at about 8 years of age.

How to start?

It can be proactive in which actively information is provided or it can be done by helping a child to ask questions. It should be part of self development, personality development, values and moral development and life skill training. Be specific and matter of fact according to age of child. Do not use alternate terms or vague stories. Do not make it funny. Do not laugh or ridicule. Do not make child feel embarrassed or ashamed. Let the child know that this is natural. Explain the need of modesty and privacy. Try not to make it a lecture but it is better to provide information on day to day moments.

Is sex education harmful or promote sex?

Research has proved that sex education does not promote sexual activity. On the contrary it prevents unhealthy or early sexual activity.

Sexual responsibilities

One crucial element to teach is how to become sexually responsible. Sex can be good fun but can do negative as well depending on how one assumes responsibility and discipline. Do not create fear of sex in child mind but provide information about how he or she can stay away from problems and create a happy sexual identity.

Who can provide sex education?

• Parents
• Caregivers
• Teachers
• Counselors
• Social workers
• Doctors and healthcare professionals
• Community based programs
• Specifically designed websites or audio video programs 

Challenge of sex education

Unfortunately even in today’s world sex education is a difficult topic. People do not realize that your kids are left to learn sex from unreliable and possibly wrong sources. All sorts of myths and false information creep in. The result is distorted personalities, disturbed relationships and erratic sexual behavior which can even go to the extent of disorder or crime. Why don’t world realize the importance of sex education. It will not harm or push kids towards sex but will only promote sexual discipline. It is high time that the world must accept its responsibility towards children and adolescents.

Some of the fields of study are:

• Biology
• Medicine
• Psychology
• Epidemiology
• Sociology
• Anthropology
• Criminology
• statistics

The beginning

• Greek philosophers Plato and Aristotle talked about homosexuality.
• Hippocrates discovered facts about human reproduction.
• Roman physician Soranus wrote on contraception
• Galen gave first sexual theory
• Leonardo da Vinci drew sketches of sexual process
• Fallopian and Bartholin gave anatomical description of sex organs

Later

• Clellan S. Ford and Frank A. Beach wrote book‘Patterns of Sexual Behavior’
• Ernst Grafenberg found G Spot
• Richard Freiherr von Krafft Ebing published Psychopathia Sexualis
• Havelock Ellis was first to describe homosexuality is not disease, immoral or crime
• Sigmund Freud developed theory of sexuality
• Magnus Hirschfeld founded Institute for Sexology
• Alfred Kinsey founded Institute for Sex Research known popularly as Kinsey Institute
• Kurt Freund developed Penile Plethysmograph to measure sexual arousal in males
• William Masters and Virginia Johnson released work Human Sexual Response and Human Sexual Inadequacy. They founded the famous Masters and Johnson Institute

And Now

• Technology like MRI and Neuroimaging has helped in clear understanding of sexual function specially the role of brain
• MRI could show the damage of sexual abuse on brain
• It is found that those watching porn or addicted to sex is not due to any changes in brain but due to high libido
• Steele, Staley, Fong and Prause used EEG to study effect of erotic material on brain
• New pills to improve sexual functioning and control pregnancy
• Surgery for sex conversion

Sexual behavior among the human beings, though biologically linked, is a social phenomenon. Several factors such as culture, religion and economy also influence a person’s sexual preferences and behaviour. It can be defined as a process which requires a number of sequential steps which ultimately lead to the expression of sexuality. The steps may include mate finding, attracting a partner, physical, emotional and sexual contact and finally sexual contact. Sexual activity also encompasses sexual intercourse, oral sex and masturbation. Most people engage themselves in the sexual activity just because they feel sexually attracted towards the partner and some indulge in sexual act just a matter of pity or sympathy.

Normal sexual behaviour generally has three purposes.

• For reproduction
• For pleasure
• To promote or strengthen interpersonal relationships

There are many different types of sexual behaviours.

• Abstinence – Sexual abstinence means refraining from any sexual stimulation.
• Masturbation – Masturbation refers to self-stimulation or manipulation of one’s own genitals for sexual pleasure.
• Coitus – vaginal intercourse is firmly established as the most desirable or usual sexual behaviour.
• Anal Intercourse – Anal intercourse is a common component of homosexual behaviour but is also a significant heterosexual behaviour.
• Orogenital Acts – Fellatio refers to mouth contact with the penis. Cunnilingus refers to mouth contact with the female genitalia.These practices may occur singly, alternately or concurrently either as a prelude to coitus or as a discrete act to lead to orgasm.
• Prostitution – A prostitute or sex worker provides a client with the use of his or her body in return for material gain

Sublimation is a process in which inner instincts are transformed into higher forms of thoughts, feelings and deeds. It can be spiritual, ideological, artistic, intellectual, scientific, social or even higher physical states like sports. The benefit of sublimations is:

• Better control on instincts and impulses
• Channelize energy into higher forms of life activities
• Higher achievements in life
• More social acceptance and appreciation
• More self worth and self esteem
• Better discipline in life
• Ideal for relationships and family life
• Stronger and more attractive body

Do I need to suppress or give up sex?

Not at all.Infact you will enjoy sex more. All you need to do is to create little sex discipline where in place of indiscreet sex, you willdevelop a higher sexuality in which your focus in on higher forms of activities. You will have high quality sex which is more satisfying and you will be able to use sexual energy to enhance your performance in activities like academics, scientific pursuits, art, music, sports, literature and others. You should not suppress sexual energy as that will strike back and lead to major disaster. Energy can not be killed, it can only be transformed.

Why should I sublime?

Because if you don’t, you are losing out on both – good sex and good life.Indeed it is your body, your life and you can have any amount of sex. But ask yourself:

• Will indiscreet sex make me a better or happier human being?
• Is this the only purpose of my life?
• Is this the only happiness that I can have?
• Is it actually giving me real happiness or it is momentarily pleasure?
• Has it become a kind of addiction in my life?
• If I can have great sex and develop higher skills like art or sports then why not have both?

Do I need to become spiritual? I do not like all that ‘purity’ stuff.

Get the facts right.

1. It is not necessary to follow any particular path of spirituality. Infact the word ‘Spirituality’ is misused in this world. Spirituality is not about being religious.
2. It is not necessary to be religious or perform religious acts, read holy books, chant mantras or meditate. If you wish to do that, it is your choice.
3. There is no question of pure or impure. Sex itself is pure.

How do I sublime sex?

• Hold yourself just a little back from your maximum sex desire and activity? It is like when you love to eat something, you have it but do not over eat. Over eating only kills the fun.
• Give priority to quality in sex than quantity.
• Give due place to activities like art, music, dance, literature, academics etc. This will give you achievements, enhance personality and enhance sexual pleasure as well.
• Organize wholesome life with good time management, regular exercise and healthy lifestyle.
• Create a mission in life. Something that gives you identity. A meaning to live. It could be your work, hobby or any other activity.

Pregnant teenagers require special understanding, medical care, and education–particularly about nutrition, infections, substance abuse, and complications of pregnancy. They also need to learn that using tobacco, alcohol, and other drugs, can damage the developing fetus. All pregnant teenagers should have medical care beginning early in their pregnancy.

Complications with Teenage Pregnancy

Young women generally experience more complications during pregnancy and childbirth than older women. Pregnant teens and their unborn babies have unique medical risks that are discussed below:

• Physical immaturity
• Lack of knowledge about healthcare
• Poor care during the pregnancy
• Poor diet, including not enough folate
• High levels of emotional distress
• Premature baby
• Low-birth-weight baby
• High blood pressure

How to lower the health risks of teen pregnancy

• Get early prenatal care
• Stay away from alcohol, drugs, and cigarettes
• Take a prenatal vitamin every day to help prevent birth defects
• Ask for emotional support
• Access pregnancy counseling

Preventive measures

There are many ways to promote and prevent unintended teen pregnancies. The educational aspect of introducing abstinence, condoms and contraceptives is essential but incorporating participate activities, evaluations, decision making skills and more will lead to success. Promoting condom use along with birth control methods, and most importantly abstinence, will all truly contribute to preventing unintended pregnancies and a decline in abortion rates from sexually active teenagers.

Preventing a serious issue like teen pregnancy must be done at all costs.  By informing teens early enough on condom use, contraceptive methods, and above all abstinence, we can aim for a possible extreme decline in teen birth rates. We must lead our teens to eliminate risks for their future and prevent the issue of teen pregnancy now.

Heterosexuality- It is the sexual attraction between members of the opposite sexes such as man attracts to woman and woman attracts to man sexually.

Homosexuality-It is the sexual attraction between members of the same sexes such as man to man and woman to woman sexually.There have always been people who have had homosexual sex, but prior to modern times they didn’t have a sense of themselves as homosexuals. It is a category of consciousness and a manifestation of consciousness aware of itself. Both practically and metaphorically homosexuality is self-reflexive. It is about the unity of the cosmos, rather than the duality. Males are referred to as gays and females lesbians.

Bisexuality– It is the sexual attraction to both the opposite and same sexes such as man to man and man to woman, woman to woman and woman to man.  Bisexuals may have a relationship with a man, and then after that relationship ends, may choose a female partner for a subsequent relationship, and many go back to a male partner next

Asexuality- It is also known as nonsexuality which is the lack of sexual attraction and sexual interest towards others. People who consider themselves asexual say their lack of interest in sex is a permanent part of their identity. But just because someone isn’t interested in sex doesn’t mean they’re not interested in love. While some are happiest alone, asexual people can feel romantic attraction and have intimate relationships. They may like to cuddle and be physically close to others. Some get married and even have children.

Pan sexuality – Pansexual people are people attracted to people regardless of their gender, identity or biological sex.. It is different from bisexuality. Bisexual people are attracted to both men and women, but pansexual people can be attracted to any people. This includes people who are neither male nor female. A pansexual could be open to someone who is male, female, transgender, intersex, or agendered/genderqueer.

Transvestism – Transvestism refers to the use of clothing of the opposite sex for sexual gratification. This behavior will often begin before puberty or in adolescence.

Transsexualism – Transsexualism is primarily a disorder of gender identity in which the individual wishes to be or feels that he/she is a member of the opposite sex.

Reasons why women indulge in extramarital sex

• They have been hurt repeatedly and totally lack trust.
• The desire for intimacy
• The boredom and desire for attention, to feel special and treated with respect
• When there is constant fight (Marital unhappiness).
• Want to get ahead in her career
• Sometimes as revenge on partner for his infidelity

Reasons why men indulge in extramarital sex

• Having sex with more than one woman is an ego boost for those with
  low self-esteem.
• Lack or poor communication with the spouse
• Their spouses might not be interested in sex.
• The woman’s sex drive isn’t what it was when they got married.

Harm it can cause

• Discord and break up in relationship
• Loss of self esteem
• Loss of reputation
• Risk of sexually transmitted diseases
• Risk of sex addiction

How to avoid extra marital sex

Relationship between men and women is delicate; it should be handled with care. Therefore, every man should take care of his woman’s feelings and vice-versa. Here are some little things you can do to avoid extra marital sex.

• Men should be faithful, kind, respectful, fun, romantic and considerate to woman.
• Try taking out time every week for just the two of you, to spend together.
• Stay in touch constantly, send romantic text-messages, emails, making gestures in appreciation of his or her efforts
• Be more fun and creative sexually.

Sex is as old as life. It has had its own journey through development of civilization. Its importance in life has remained unchanged but it has seen changes in perception, values and attitude.

The early life

In the early life sex was not linked to family or children nor was it linked to relationship or romanticism. Sex was just sex. With the rise of civilizations sex got linked to relationships, family and procreation. With time sex started to find place in art and literature. Most civilizations had deities of sex like Kama in Hinduism, Eros the Greek god and others.

The middle ages

The middle ages saw sex fighting for its place in society.  Purity, piety and morality questions surrounded sex and sexuality. Sex was under restrictions and control for ‘normal’ women. Invasions and wars had its toll on sex too. On the other hand prostitution began to flourish.

Sexual liberation

With industrialization began the new age in sex too. Women began to play active part in all walks of life. Many feminist groups began to voice their demands and slowly society realized and accepted. Sex was now seen as natural need and sexual pleasure as just demand of both men and women.

Modern times

Sex today has seen a complete revolution. It is not only a necessity but as essential element of developed personality and self expression. Sex has found new place in people’s day to day life, in art, in media, in literature, in social events, in movies, in humor, in phones and so on. Another aspect of this sexual freedom is rise of sex industry, pornography and sex tourism. All this has led to formulations of laws which vary country to country.

Incest is the sexual relationship between close family members and relatives.

Most of the societies do not approve of such sexual relations and thus they are seen in negative light and are taboos. These are prohibited by laws. There are some societies in which there are some relations seen but in almost all societies parent – child and sibling – sibling are absolutely unacceptable. The reasons are obvious as they are bad for religious purity, detrimental to family system and social order. In addition there are medical reasons as they can give rise to various genetic disorders.

Types of incest

1. Between adults and children
2. Between childhood siblings
3. Between consenting adults
4. Aunts, uncles, nieces or nephews
5. Between adult siblings
6. Cousin relationships
7. Incest defined through marriage
8. Inbreeding

Prevalence

Incest is more common than thought of. Common reasons why incest occurs are:

• Psychological disorder in some family member
• Disturbed family
• A way to assert power or importance
• Accidental due to earlier separation
• Some societies do not prohibit strongly or even accept some types
• Simple sexual reason

Effects of Incest

Commonly seen effects of incest are:

• Low self esteem
• Poor self development
• Poor socialization
• Isolation
• Lack of development of normal sexuality
• Legal complications
• Medical complications in case of pregnancy

There are various versions and one the popular and well known is Kama Sutra by Vatsayana. It is mainly in prose. Although it largely deals with sexual behavior but it is not merely a sex manual. It teaches the grace and virtue of love and pleasure. It talks about love in complete to make it in harmony with a meaningful life.

Vatsyayana’sKama Sutra has 1250 verses in 36 chapters.The contents of the book are structured into seven parts :

1. General remarks which deals with life in general, role of knowledge and the proper conduct.
2. Amorous advances and Sexual union deals with fore play and sex positions.
3. It deals with types of marriage and early approach in developing relationship.
4. It deals with duties and privileges of the wife
5. It deals with behavior of man and woman, man’s behavior in women’s company.
6. This is about being a lover.
7. Occult practices

Translations

The most widely known translations of the Kama Sutraare:

1. By Sir Richard Francis Burton BhagwanlalIndrajiin 1883.
2. By IndraSinha in 1980.
3. By Alain Danielou in 1994 into French and then English.
4. By Wendy Doniger and SudhirKakar in 2002.

On Internet

Most of the sexual tips and positions are available on internet but that is not what KamaShastra is all about. It is the complete philosophy and guides human beings how not to get entrapped and fall in this world of pleasure. It tells how to remain graceful and virtuous while enjoying pleasue and live a higher life.

Buddhism

• Aizen Myō-ō or Rāgarāja, a deity who transforms worldly lust into spiritual awakening; his red-skinned appearance represents suppressed lust and passion

Chinese mythology

• Yue-Lao, a god of love, who binds two people together with an invisible red string.
• Tu Er Shen, a deity who oversees the love between homosexual men.
• White Peony (Bai Mudan or Pai Mu-Tan), a goddess who tempts men, especially ascetics.

Egyptian mythology

• Bes, god of music, dance, and sexual pleasure
• Hathor, goddess of the sky, love, beauty, and music
• Bastet, goddess of felines, love, sexuality, protection, beauty, and dance

Greek mythology

• Aphrodite, goddess of love, lust and beauty.
• Philotes, personification of affection, sexual intercourse and friendship.
• Hera, goddess of marriage.
• The Erotes
  • Anteros, god of requited love.
  • Eros, god of love,sexual passion and naughty thoughts.
  • Himeros, god of sexual desire.
  • Hedylogos, god of sweet talk and flattery.
  • Hymen, god of weddings and bawdy wedding songs.
  • Pothos, god of sexual longing, yearning and desire.
• Peitho, personification of persuasion and seduction.

Germanic mythology

• Frigg, goddess of romance, marriage, sex and reproduction, married women, household duty, and divination.
• Freyja, goddess associated with magic, shamanism, seiðr, sacrifice, war, death, and sexuality.
• Freyr, worshipped as a phallic fertility god, he was said to “[bestow] peace and pleasure on mortals”
• Sjöfn, goddess associated with love

Roman mythology

• Cupid, the Roman equivalent of the Greek god Eros
• Venus, the Roman equivalent of the Greek goddess Aphrodite
• Suadela, the Roman equivalent of the Greek goddess Peitho

Hindu mythology

• Kamadeva or Manmadhan or Kama, god of love
• Rati, goddess of passion and lust
• Maithuna, the sexual union
• The sexual and spiritual union of Shiva and Shakti love, the creative force and gave birth to the universe.

Societies too differ in their approach.

1. Complete prohibition –  Both sex workers and clients are seen as immoral and criminals.
2. Rejection –  Not complete prohibition but discouraged by controlling sex related commercial activities.
3. Human Rights Violation –  This approach sees sex workers as victims of human rights violation. Clients and pimps are dealt with. Many countries have organizations to look after rights and welfare of sex workers.
4. Way out – Some groups neither support nor are against. They offer guidance and support to give a way out of sex industry.
5. Decriminalization –  No strict laws against it are required but it is not accepted or recognized legally.
6. Acceptance –  It is considered as legitimate business and is regularized. It helps in making regular mandatory health checks.

Social Problems of Sex Industry

These are following:

Sex for Survival

When the sex worker is driven to it for basic necessities of life such as food or shelter it is Sex for Survival. This is one of the basic reasons which drives people into this industry although to other side luxury too drives people into it. This is debatable issue as some people call it mere excuse.

Exploitation

Many kinds are exploitations are encountered in sex industry like sexual exploitation of children, human trafficking, sexual slavery, violence, drug dealing, illegal immigration etc.

Children in Sex Industry

One of the most disturbing issues is use of children in sex industry. It is found that such children are even given steroids and other drugs to make them look older. It is estimated that about 40% of sex workers are children. This leads to medical and psychological disorders in such children. Most countries have strict laws to prohibit use of children in sex industry but still it is said to be much in prevalence.

Violence

Sex workers are at higher risk of violence and other crimes against them. Unfortunately most of such cases are either covered up or they do not have support system to protect. Illegal money and passion makes the industry vulnerable to crimes.

Health problems

Many health problems are reported in sex industry. Spread of STD and HIV is a major concern. There are also concerns related to psychological impact and commonly seen are low self esteem, anxiety and depression.

Types of Sex Workers

• Street sex workers
• Brothels
• Escorts
• Bar sex workers
• Internet or cyber sex workers
• Phone sex workers
• Sex tourism

Causes of premarital sex without commitment

• Glam sex on television, film, radio and video have contributed to the high rate of premarital sex.
• Many youths have engaged themselves in premarital sex as a result of curiosity.
• Pressure from friends, peer group, boss, future partners
• Lack of discipline has led many singles into the dungeon of premarital sex.
• Lack of good sex education has led many youth into premarital sex

Effects of premarital sex

Though not by everyone but some people may experience:

• It leads to the misconception that sex is to be enjoyed at whatever ways possible
• Broken relationships
• It leads to dilemma.
• Emotional imbalances and guilt feeling
• There is also a risk of an unplanned pregnancy
• Possible exchange of diseases as partners may not be aware of diseases that spread through intercourses
• Premarital sex is one of the major causes of divorce.

How to prevent premarital sex without commitment

Modern lifestyle has opened multiple opportunities for boys and girls to interact closely and deeply in public and private. The most effective way of defending such lovemaking is spreading awareness of healthy sexuality among children. Train them to mingle with opposite sex in a mature way. Inspire them with mutual respect between man and woman. From the very childhood one should learn to accept people as men and women, the equal partners of life on earth; not as objects to fulfill lusty wishes and ambitions.

A criminal mind can range from hard core criminal may be having a base in brain chemistry to other extreme of ‘normal’ individuals. There are three basic factors that make a ‘criminal mind’
– An unrestricted or uncontrollable impulse
– Lack of sensitivity to other’s rights and suffering
– Fear (of law, loss of reputation etc) is either undeveloped, gets transiently overwhelmed or is assessed to be taken care.

What instigates a person to commit a crime, psychologically ?
Three kinds
– Impulsive – In this sudden impulse like lust, greed or anger overwhelms the other mental faculties.
– Planned – In this the person calculates the gain versus danger and when gains weigh heavier, the plan is executed.
– Repetitive – In this initial success acts as instigation for repeated and bigger crimes.

How a criminal’s mind different from normal mind, socially and psychologically?
– Perceived feeling of being deprived
– Perceived feeling of being unsuccessful
– Perceived feeling of inability of meeting the desired goal in socially appropriate manner
– Perceived feeling of ‘correctness’ of self need
It is important to understand that the social and psychological factors are more ‘felt’ than actual. That is why not every person who is deprived becomes a criminal and on other hand those with plenty may turn to crime.

What is Antisocial Personality disorder?
It is the development of the person’s personality in such a way that he or she does not learn socially appropriate skills and behaviour patterns which are based on respecting others rights and feelings. There is aggression, lack of guilt, lack of tolerance of frustration causing disregard for social values and norms.

As the Juvenile Cases are increasing day by day, it’s the media or parenting responsible for this?
Not two but three. Media, Parenting and society.Media because it provides unhealthy stimulus to young minds. Parenting is the main cause because they are in direct contact and have the responsibility of shaping personality of the child. And society because it has failed to provide a healthy platform for young minds to develop and has proved a good breeding ground for crimes.

What is the set of mind of Juvenile criminals? How they can be taken out from such situations?
Mindset of juvenile criminals is characterized by two prominent factors – high impulsiveness and incomplete social maturity. Every society expects or sets a particular age by which social maturity is attained. Juvenile criminals are like those drivers who drive without learning how to drive, accidents are but natural. To pull them out of that situation a holistic program is required which deals with their circumstances, their correct social learning and their personality development.

Do juvenile homes help in reforming a young criminal mind?
Pathetic. They are not causing reforms but in fact pushing them down further. Basic reason is that they are just ‘kept’ there. Who is concerned with reforms and development? On top of it the abuses in juvenile homes complete the deforms.

What is the psychology of society about crime against women from your point of view?
There has always remained one section of society for which women are ‘lesser beings’. For these women have limited capabilities, limited roles, should stay within prescribed ‘boundaries’ and should serve higher beings ‘men’. In present time this is visible in words and deeds of people. It is this psyche which directly or indirectly encourages crime against women and puts the blame of crime against women on victim itself.

Why the numbers of people getting involved in heinous crimes are are increasing day by day?
People today are becoming more and more vulnerable to crime. The checks against crimes are three – Legal, Social and Religious. Unfortunately all three are falling down. This paves way to breaks the psychological barrier against crime.

Reasons are following:
– Psychological loneliness, lack of backup or support system
– Changing priorities due to changing value system
– Poor Emotional Quotient EQ and Social Quotient SQ
– Lack of fear

Why there are increasing sexual crimes ?
The basic factor is the women are perceived as weak, vulnerable with no voice and nowhere to go. The perception that they cannot and will not raise complaint and even if they do nothing is going to happen motivates for such crimes.

What is the difference between a Psychopath and Sociopath?
Although debated in terms of inborn versus environmental, the basic difference is that a psychopath has locus of disorder in temperaments (poor EQ) leading to social disorder (poor SQ) whereas a sociopath has social disorder as locus leading to temperamental disorder.

Why women and minor girls are made target often? Is there anything on part of women that invites a crime? What is psychology of women that time?
Like said earlier, women are perceived as weak, vulnerable with no voice and nowhere to go. They are easy prey. Women cannot be held accountable for inviting crimes. Only thing they can do is observation of caution that can reduce the risk of such crimes. A victim goes through many traumatic emotions like shock, feeling of insecurity, helplessness, inability to trust, embarrassment, guilt, shame, anger and others.

These days as we are seeing the crime against minors are increasing, why there is such mentality among people, who are committing such brutal crimes? Is there any psychological explanation to this act? Why and how a person of 21 or 60 years of age gets fascinated to kid of 4 or 6 years of age?
No one can be easier prey than minors. All factors which ‘encourages’ crime in general becomes more prominent in cases of minors. Small kids offer least resistance and threat. In certain crimes they do not even know what has happened to them. And this is what such criminals are looking for. Their minds are working on only one principle – pleasure and pain. Their minds know that with older people they are in risk of resistance and retaliation which is painful for them. Even the feeling of being judged as bad person is painful. So their minds are trained to search for soft targets which offer no pain.

Is there is any solution to these kind of criminal instincts among people in society?
There is always some solution available provided they are applied sincerely. These are basically of two types:
1. Corrective – More at individual level by providing treatment and therapy to such individuals.
2. Preventive – More at society level – Identification of early offenders, not shielding offenders in family, correct parenting, media guidelines, positive personality development at schools etc.

How a person can judge criminal instinct within oneself?
Once a person has reached such advanced stage, self assessment on their own cannot be expected. But it is possible to develop such assessment with proper therapy and rehabilitation. It is better to nip the fire in bud in early offenders.

Does policing plays an important role in reforming criminals when they are convicted and sent to jail?
Police has very crucial role. They must be trained to deal with different kind of criminals in a way that can help in long term reform. In addition once in jail, such people must receive support in the form of therapy and rehabilitation.

How alcohol and crime is connected to each other?
This is not direct but complex relationship. Every criminal does not drink and every drinker does not commit crime. The one possibility is those with antisocial or criminal temperament are also driven to alcohol or they seek refuge in alcohol. Secondly alcohol can indirectly increase crime by affecting mental faculties like perception as well as by causing disinhibition.

What is the way out from this crime world, if it’s possible?
Yes, very much possible.
1. There must be a strong desire and will in those who are leading society – politicians, religious leaders, celebrities, heads of organizations etc. They must be good role models themselves and must be accountable to nurture the environment of crime free society.
2. Society and family must uphold value system. Unfortunately in today’s world the difference between right and wrong are getting blurred. This leads to breaking down of the psychological barriers in people’s mind to resist from erring in the zone of wrong.
3. Parenting must be meaningful. Every couple must undergo marriage counselling and parenting classes. This will prevent unhealthy family atmosphere that breeds criminal tendencies. No one should be left isolated.
4. Value based education in schools. Teachers must be trained to handle children in wholesome positive and constructive manner. Guides and counsellors must supervise personality development of every child. Early offenders must receive special attention.
5. Crime prevention guidelines and training.
6. Effective governance with better laws and their implementation.
7. Reform and rehabilitation of offenders.

• Physical force
• Coercion
• Generating fear
• Abuse of authority
• Abuse of trust
• On unconscious or not in full senses
• Person with mental disorder
• Person below age of consent

Types of rapes

• Acquaintance rape
• Child sex abuse
• Office rape
• Date rape
• Gang rape
• Family rape
• Marital rape
• Institution rape like Prison rape
• Human conflict rape like Riot rape and War rape

Sexual Assault

Rape is one type of sexual assault. Any kind of physical sexual activity by body part or object against a person without consent is termed as sexual assault.

Marital rape

A rape of spouse is called marital rape. Being in marriage does not mean that a person (spouse) can be forced for sex. In many countries it is still treated as a type of domestic violence. They even justify it as right of husband. The basic fact remains the supremacy of man over woman. Do women have right over their body, can they decide whether they want sex or not? If man and woman are equal, then it should be honored that both man and woman both can say yes or no to sex.

What motivates rape:

Some of the commonly seen motives are:

• Anger
• Desire for power
• Accomplishment
• Sadism
• Sexual gratification
• To prove a point

Effects on victims

There are pronounced effects on the victim. Some are:

• Trauma and shock
• Acute stress disorder
• Disruption of mental functioning
• Disruption of physical functioning
• Disruption of social functioning
• Various emotions like anxiety, anger, depression, fear, denial, guilt etc.
• Negative thoughts and nightmares
• Avoidance of people, place, activities
• Deterioration in personality and life
• Unwanted pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases

Blaming the victim

In many societies it is not uncommon to see the victim being blamed for rape. Their behavior or dressing is often said to be the reason behind. This is another display of male dominated society. In another form a rape can be simplified as forced sex which women want and enjoy.

Post rape trauma

It is common for victims to undergo post rape add on trauma. This can be:

• Harassment by assaulter or his friends, relatives
• Harassment by even own people
• Threat to keep quiet
• Taking photographs or making film
• Threat of distribution or putting them on internet
• Blackmailing
• Repeated rape
• Forced marriage with assaulter
• Rejection by society
• On extreme, honor killing

Legal aspect

Rape is most under reported crime. Reasons are many – social shame, disgrace of family, fear of assaulter, fear of police, lack of trust on legal system. Early reporting is crucial from both legal and medical point of view. It helps in evidence collection, correct information, catching the culprit, investigation of scene of crime etc. But inspite of all efforts, the conviction rate is still low.

Prevention of rapes

Some of the preventive measures can be:

• Better investigative and legal system
• Better vigilance and security
• Sex education and moral education
• Self defense training of girls and women
• Support groups

Male and female is natural expression of existence. The two forms complements and attracts each other. There are various forms of this attraction – friendship, relationship, love and sex too. The union and the completeness of sex are as natural and sacred as is love. But to attain this completeness, one must understand sex beyond the game of pleasure of senses.

Sex has unique space and place. It naturally forms significant aspect of human existence. It can affect:

• The very existence
• Self identity
• Gender identity
• Ability to love
• Ability to form intimate relationship
• Ability of procreation
• Self discipline
• Respect for human values
• Spiritual awakening

Sex is not erotic exercise. It is like nuclear energy. It can devastate like nuclear bomb or create nuclear energy for development. The real essence of sex is union.  The union of natural energy in male and female occurs to nurture each other and possibly invite third energy as child. The state of energy completeness and harmony this union creates has tremendous beneficial impact on both. This has been proved through research that good sex leads to many mental and physical benefits.

Sex results in comprehensive activation of mind. Both male and female reach the state of heightened consciousness, a sort of deep meditative state. This is the reason sex involves union of bodies, mind, heart and soul. It creates harmony in self and in relationship. The two get into sync. Both male and female attains more completeness and energized to move higher.Once attained, one can use these energies for higher purpose like creativity, knowledge and welfare. This is the path to convert sexual energy into creation. Sex can thus form a link of harmony between spiritual and material world.And this leads to internal contentment, better discipline, higher consciousness and freedom from desires which is not seen in lust based sex. This is the state of Nirvana.

Sex in dating plays an integral part in our lives and compatibility in sex is very important for couples to sustain relationship in the long run. People date for many different reasons, and dating for sex is something many guys like to do in order to satisfy their lust.

Dating and sex seem to go hand in hand. At some point, sex becomes an issue in any new dating relationship; it’s really just a question of when. Should you or shouldn’t you? Everyone seems to have an opinion, from doctors and psychologists, to parents and clergy, to friends and passersby. But the only two people in the world who know when the time is right are the two people who are dating, and even then the decision is still a tricky one.

Everyone who dates will have to make his or her own decision about dating and sex. One should always make sure he or she knows everything they need to know and always take their partner’s feelings into consideration as well. One should always protect his or her emotions as well as their bodies. If a couple does decide to embark on a sexual relationship, use common sense and protect “you”. Using a condom is an effective way to ward off most sexually transmitted diseases. Really getting to know a partner and getting tested beforehand together will ease a lot of worries and discover health issues unseen by the naked eye. Always practicing safe sex should not be ignored; not only is it smart, it could save your life.

When two people have sex for the first time the anticipation and the excitement is mind bogging and sometimes in this state the mind and the body do not coordinate with each other properly and the result is disappointment. Therefore expectation of the first encounter should be natural. There should be open communication between the two so that there is understanding and warmth between the two. The act of sex need not be vigorous but should be satisfying and loving. The sex act should have the ingredients that will spell satisfaction and ever lasting togetherness.

Purpose of sex in marriage

• Sex is the expression of love to one’s spouse.The highest and the best way to express your love to each other is by having sex.
• Sex is a great way of sharing and caring.It touches the body, soul and the spirit.
• Sex can be used as a tool of recreation and relaxation. Long foreplay, massaging, hugging and kissing are all ways to relax with one’s spouse
• The fun you share in sex like playing, learning about one another, sometimes making mistakes and laughing at ourselves is bonding you together as well
• Sex can serve as a tool of preservation of your marriage.
• Sex can be a happy ending to some quarrels, though it is not a substitute for discussing the issue.
• Sex is for procreation and helps in welcoming children in our life.

Sexual relationship is a way of knowing each other intimately, deeply and personally. The man knows the woman through the act and likewise the woman. The sexual experience is more about trust and a willingness to be open with your partner, allowing you to be both aroused and relaxed if you want a better sex in marriage. So, Sex can keep your marriage strong.

Infidelity

Or sex outside marriage

For some it is unthinkable others say why to even think about this as an issue. People may have sex outside marriage for their own reasons:

• Just fun
• No commitment required
• Feeling and expressing passionate again
• For sake of new relationship
• Some worldly gains like money or favors
• For getting pregnant

Consequences of extramarital sex

• Sexually transmitted disease (STD)

• Unwanted pregnancy

• Stress. guilt or regret due to realization of cheating on partner

• Loss of self confidence and self esteem

• Repeated affairs and sex addiction

• Loss of relationship and family

• Damage to work or studies

• Loss of social reputation

• Emotional conflict and past memories leading to no stable relationship

• So what is the solution, what is the truth?
• Are they really exclusive to each other?
• Is sex detrimental to spiritual growth?
• Can one choose both?

Sexual energy is the natural creative energy. It can create a good physical body, positive mindset healthy emotions and spiritual enlightenment. And the same is the creation of spiritual growth. So where is the conflict?

Both are extremely powerful pathways. Both need a great deal of management to progress. The spiritual path has many gurus and guides who can tell you how to progress stepwise but the sex has guides in limited sense like therapist who can help you to be good in sexuality but can not tell you how to sublime and create harmony between sex and spirituality. Although one can say that Tantric Sex is such attempt, unfortunately this too has fallen short due to poor understanding of concept.

Freud said that one can sublime sexual energy into higher purpose like art and spirituality. According to psychologist Erich Fromm, anxiety of being separate and alone can be overcome by awareness of union during sex.

The main problem is the conflict that arise due to –

• A natural and intense desire for sex which if suppressed or expressed in unharmonious way can lead to a state of destructiveness.
• A natural and intense as well as ideal state of spiritual realization.
• Sex termed as something which is addictive and can ‘spoil’ purity of soul
• ‘Purity’ is must for spiritual realization

The result is conflict and negative emotions like guilt or shame. People are driven towards both and end lacking in both.

This gives us three common paths followed by people.

1. Those who prefer spiritual path. They believe in purity, sets ‘high goals’ and recommend celibacy or brahmcharya and absence from sex in mind speech and deeds to attain these goals.
2. Those who get ‘tempted’ towards sex. They are driven to sex but generate incompleteness or negative self esteem and other negative emotions. Even those who advocate ‘free sex’ admit that this is not complete.
3. Third group which try to balance. They follow religious or spiritual path and keep sex within moral standards like marriage. Unfortunately most such people feel that they are inadequate in both. They too face conflict if their partner shift focus to one or the other path. Then there is Tantric Sex and gurus like Osho who gives different versions of this middle path.

The debate is going on and is never ending. And the human beings are caught in between.  There are contradictions and no one is sure what is the real and must be followed. For example the ancient Indian wisdom teaches about spirituality and celibacy on one hand and KamaShastra on the other hand. If one path is real good than other then why it is not accepted by all. Is it true that you have to go to extremes of complete celibacy or indulgence as in Tantra to achieve Nirvana? What does God want us to do ?

Few things can be realized:

• It is individual choice to follow any path, be it abstinence or indulgence or the middle path. But one must follow it without any prejudice or feeling of superiority or inferiority over other. There is no better or higher path.
• One should follow the system carefully and systematically to attain consistent growth as well as live a happy life.
• One should feel free to change the path if needed so but not in impulsive or abrupt manner.
• One should be free from superiority complex of spiritual path as well as free from negative emotions like shame, guilt etc if following the path of indulgence. On any path, one should be free from impulsiveness and compulsiveness.
• One should understand that the two – spirituality and sexuality are not contradictory but are forms of expression of cosmic energy. There can be complete harmony and complementary relationship between the two.
• The basic truth of both sexuality and spirituality is freedom and union. Both are the ways of evolution and freedom from narrow minded selfishness of body, mind and soul to grow higher love, higher consciousness and union.
• Since most humans wish to follow a middle path, they can have their individual proportion of two to remain free from negative emotions of shame and guilt, enjoy life, let the cosmic energy evolve to shape a better physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual being.

Sex is a physical capacity, but its exercise is determined by man’s mind—by his choice of values, held consciously or subconsciously. To a rational man, sex is an expression of self-esteem, a celebration of himself and of existence. To the man who lacks self-esteem, sex is an attempt to fake it, to acquire its momentary illusion.

Important sex values

• Sex is important but not only goal of life. Give due importance to all aspects of life. You are not born just for sex. Value your other qualities as well and develop a wholesome successful mature personality.
• Practice safety. You should value the safety of you and your partner. Refrain from any obviously harmful acts. If you discover something to be unsafe, then stop using it or performing it.
• Respect your partner’s needs, condition, wish and objections. View your partner as a human being not as object of pleasure. Do not impose yourself on other person. You should take the time and make the effort to learn variety. Giving pleasure is a better way of achieving sexual satisfaction.
• Develop yourself as a person with sex discipline and sexually responsible. Do not take undue advantage of others vulnerability using your influence, force, money or favors.
• Respect children and elders. Do not act in any manner that can be uncomfortable for them.
• Respect society and culture. There are people of different traditions and values. Avoid public display of sex and such behavior.

People differ in their behavior and lifestyle. This is more pronounced if there are cultural and religious differences. Same is true for sexual behavior. Something that is obvious in one culture may be considered as very bad in other culture. It is necessary for such couples to discuss openly about their sexual learning and values. Once they understand each other, they can either come close or accept to be different. For example in one culture women might be expected to play a dormant role in sex while in other it might be taken as lack of interest in sex.

The common sexual behavior patterns around the world:

The first encounter

The age of first encounter has decreased over last few decades. Among nations, countries of Asia and Latin America start late than Africa, Europe and North America. But even this difference is leveling off with time. Sex below 16 is not uncommon now.

Frequency

On an average people in North America and Europe have sex about 120 – 140 times a year whereas it is 60 – 80 in Asia.

Sexual orientation

It is said that 3 – 4 % of males and 2 % females have homosexual orientation. Around the world there is big difference in acceptance of sexual orientation ranging from complete acceptance to death penalty.

Dating

The average age of start of dating is about 12 – 14 years in Europe and North America. It is higher in other parts.

Marriage

About 60% couples have had the arranged marriage. Age of permission to marriage is low in countries like Chile and Paraguay than in India and China. The married couples are more likely to have sex than unmarried. People are getting married late and therefore premarital sex is rising.

Multiple partners

Europe and North America has high percentage of people with multiple partners than in other parts.

Sexual Aggression

It is said that females from New Zealand, Iceland are most aggressive when it comes to sex.

Sex awareness

Around the world friends, TV and books have remained the major source of learning about sex. Recently internet is replacing them as major source of both ‘good’ and ‘bad’ knowledge. With internet in mobiles, sex is in pocket of everyone.

Pornography, Prostitution and Sex crimes

With internet in place pornography has become widespread. On one hand people have become more liberal and on the other hand it is said that this leads to rise in prostitution and sex related crimes. Different countries have different levels of censorship. This has remained and will remain a highly controversial issue.

Religion and sex

It is said that the laws of a country against sexual liberty are directly proportional to religious conservativeness.

Any artistic work that displays sexuality or gives erotic or sensual arousal is caller Erotic or Sex Art. They may be photographs, paintings, drawings, sculptures, engravings etc. Sex art is different from pornography which does not have elements of art.

Ancient civilizations have many such examples in the form of carvings, paintings or pottery. Greeks had sexual scenes on ceramics. There are sexual paintings on walls of old Roman buildings and famous Khajuraho caves in India. Kama Shastra and Kama Sutra are famous sex manuals from ancient India. Painters from around the world have worked on nude art. Later erotic photography became more popular.

Sex art is a debatable topic. Some call it aesthetic and depiction of beauty whereas others call it obscene. Art for one is obscenity for other. Those working on sex art use nude body to express human qualities and emotions. They can also be used to express social problems and life. Modern art also has ventured into the genre. At times sex art is used to send a message like in case of rape and sexual harassment.

Controversy has progressed with sex art going into performing art where live models are used to depict are. It even involves people in close contact. As said before, this has evoked strong reactions and criticism. The world continues….

Sexual ethics refers to those aspects of ethics that deal with issues arising from all aspects of sexuality and human sexual behaviour. Ethical sex sounds complicated and a bit difficult, but if you choose to be sexual, you should aim for ethical sex.

What do you need to have ethical sex?

• You should stand for dignity in sex
• Refrain from sexual crimes and perversions
• You need to be comfortable with NO of others
• You need to be able to experience sexual pleasure without guilt or shame.
• You need to have respect for other’s values.
• You need to be able to protect yourself and your partner from sexually transmitted infections
• You need to be able to express your sexuality without exploiting others or being violent towards others.
• You need to understand what you’re looking for in a sexual experience.
• You need to understand your own needs and your partner’s needs.
• You need to be able to communicate with a sexual partner in sexual term

Sex and ethics helps you develop tools to negotiate sexual choices in ways that increases pleasurable, mutual and fun sexual encounters – underpinned by no coercion or force. It also teaches skills in how to intervene in unsafe situations, to keep our friends, ourselves and others safe.

Sex is everywhere. It is widely used as itself and also as promoting agent. Without arguments, it attracts attention and viewership. So people are happy to claim – Nothing sells like sex. It can be seen in:

• Print media
• Radio
• TV
• Movies
• Commercials (ads)
• Internet

Sex in movies

Society has always done both – demanded sex in movies and reacted sharply when it occurs. The demand motivates film makers to show more and the reactions lead to setting up of censor board and controls. But the task is not easy. Nudity and sex in movies is loved by masses due to movie’s larger than life appeal. People love to see their stars in action even when it comes to sex.

Censorship differs from country to country. But one thing is common. Every country and society has a threshold of display of nudity and sex beyond which it becomes just too much. This threshold is not static and changes with time. And this change is not necessarily towards more sex, it can be away from it as well. Censorship can be affected by various influences like political, religious, activists and public opinion.

There is a counter opinion as well. Some people favor less control as they believe films are part of art, creativity and freedom of expression gets affected if they are controlled. Society too displays more tolerance especially when sex is displayed in aesthetic and non vulgar way.

Sex is displayed in various forms in movies. It can be nudity, sex crimes, sex humor and love making. There may be connect with story or just inserted to add spice. It varies society to society what it calls normal, erotic or vulgar. Also significant factor is who is displaying sex on screen. A short scene by famous celebrity will create more buzz than major sex scene by unknown people. Mostly body doubles are used but to add spark cinema makers introduced unsimulated sex in which actors engage in actual sex acts.

Why sex in media is dangerous

Sex is not bad or harmful but it has produced some bad effect on society. Reasons are:

• Over exposure or excess even to the extent of irrelevant to theme
• Distortion as it is presented in over glamorized manner away from reality
• It comes to you when you are not searching for it
• Do not discriminate age, it is available to all

The research on how bad is the effect of sex in media on people especially children and adolescents tells about the magnitude of problem. Media itself is habit forming. Children and adolescents pick up messages influencing moral values and personality before it is properly developed. The result is:

• High risk behavior
• Teen pregnancy
• Sexually transmitted diseases
• Poor personality development
• Sex addiction and sex perversion
• Poor development of relationship skills
• Loss of purpose in life

To manage this, there must be comprehensive program:

• Laws and regulation to check misuse of media
• Reduce time spend with media to reasonable limits
• Replace with healthy hobbies
• Child protection system

Sex laws vary from place to place, and over time sexual acts which are prohibited by law in a jurisdiction are also called sex crimes. Sex crimes are forms of human sexual behavior that are crimes. Someone who commits one is said to be a sex offender. Some sex crimes are crimes of violence that involve sex.

Common sex crimes

Some of the common sex crimes are as follows:
• Rape
• Child sexual abuse
• Obscenity
• Human trafficking
• Incest between close relatives
• Telephone scatologia, making obscene telephone calls for the purpose of sexual arousal
• Sex with animals
• Sexual harassment
• prostitution

A variety of laws aim to protect children by making various acts with children a sex crime. For example, the “Corruption of Minors” by introducing age-inappropriate material, esp. of a sexual nature, is often a misdemeanor but can lead to a felony charge. These can include Age of Consent laws, laws preventing the exposure of children to pornography, laws making it a crime for a child to be involved in certain sexual behaviors, and laws against child grooming and the production and ownership of child pornography (sometimes including simulated images).
Criminal behavior demonstrates the offender’s ability to carry out his or her need to fulfill a fantasy. The criminal’s motives become an extension of their personality. At a crime scene, this is the signature by which the criminal defines his or her actions.

Depending on the jurisdiction, these crimes are often punishable with severe criminal penalties including life imprisonment or capital punishment in some jurisdictions.

• Novels
• Short Stories
• Poetry
• Memoirs
• Manuals

Some earlier noted literature is:

• Poem “A Ramble in St. James’s Park” by John Wilmot, Earl of Rochester
• English collections of erotic verse likePills to Purge Melancholy theRoxburghe Ballads, Bishop Percy’s Folio.
• Erotic poem – “An Essay on Woman” and “The Maid’s Prayer”.
• Scottish folk songs like The Merry Muses of Caledonia
• The Flogging Block “by Rufus Rodworthy
• “Phallus in Wonderland” and “The Pleasure of the Flesh” by Gavin Ewart

Erotic fiction

• “Dialogues of Luisa Sigea” by Nicholas Chorier
• Classic erotica “Satyricon” of Petronius Arbiter
• “Decameron” by Giovanni Boccaccio
• “The tale of two lovers” by Aeneas SylviusPiccolomini
• “I Modi” by Giulio Romano
• “Whore dialogue” by Artenio
• “L’Ecole des filles” translated as “The School of Venus” by Donald Thomas
• Chorier’s“Dialogues of Luisa Sigea”translated in many languages
• “Sodom” by Restoration Rake and john Wilmot
• Merryland books by Edmund Curll
• “Fanny Hill” by John Cleland
• “Les Bijoux Indiscrets” by Diderot
• “Laura’s Education” by Comte de Mirabeau
• “Index LibrorumProhibitorum”“CenturiaLibrorumAbsconditorum” and “Catena LibrorumTacendorum” by Henry Spencer Ashbee
• “Two nights of excess” by Alfred de Musset
• “Venus in furs” by Leopold von SacherMasoch
• “Suburban Souls” by Carrington
• “Sodopaideia” and “A weekend visit” by Anon
• “Helen and desire” by Alexander Trocchi
• “Lolita” by Vladimir Nabokov
• “50 Shades” by E L James

Other noted works

• “The Maiden Tribute of Modern Babylon” by W T Stead
• “The intimate adventures of a London Call Girl” by Belle de Jour

Erotic memoirs

“Histoire de ma vie” by Casanova

“The ups and downs of life” by Edward Sellon

“My life and loves” by Frank Harris

“Confessions and experiences” by Edith Cadivec

“One hundred strokes of the brush before bed” by Melissa Panarello

The Internet is altering patterns of social communication and interpersonal relationships. This is nowhere more truely than in the field of sexuality. Sex is the most frequently searched-for topic on the Internet. Among the various uses of the internet seeking sex and sexual partners has been one of its main services. There are teenagers who spend hours over the net to find sexual pleasure. The Internet is seductive and allows your imagination and dreams to take on a life of its own.

Internet has been used for a number of diverse activities surrounding sexually motivated behavior. These include the use of the Internet for seeking out sexually related material for educational use, buying or selling sexually related goods for further use offline, visiting or purchasing goods in online virtual sex shops, seeking out material for entertainment and masturbatory purposes for use online, seeking out sex therapists, and seeking out sexual partners for an enduring relationship. The most likely behaviors include the use of online pornography for masturbatory purposes, engaging in online relationships, and sexually related Internet crime (e.g., cyberstalking).

Internet has a great way of sharing information and knowledge bur it has also created a negative side to it. With sex over the net more and more children are involving into sexual activities. Incidents have been reported where adults have pretended as children over the internet and later created problems when they fixed meetings to commit crimes such as molestation, assault and even rape. Parents also do not like the idea about their children spending time over internet as they fear their children are being sexually abused.

Internet a Contributing Factor to Sex Addiction

In a study made in 2002, most people who have been assessed to be addicted to sex have been influenced by the Internet. For people with unique sexual desires, the internet provides them with enough material that is otherwise difficult or embarrassing to obtain through other ways. They are engaged in sexual activity online, irrespective of time and location, even if it harms their real life relationships. People addicted to sex find themselves spending endless hours online, looking at sexually explicit material. The sexual behavior affects their social life, adversely. They would not be able to concentrate at work, spend quality time with family or fulfill their hobby.

“A nymphomaniac is someone who has more sex than you do.” ~ Alfred Kinsey

“A promiscuous person is a person who is getting more sex than you are.” ~ Victor Lownes

“A student undergoing a word-association test was asked why a snowstorm put him in mind of sex. He replied frankly: ‘because everything does.'” ~ Honor Tracy

“Among men, sex sometimes results in intimacy; among women, intimacy sometimes results in sex.” ~ Barbara Cartland

“An intellectual is a person who’s found one thing that’s more interesting than sex.” ~ Aldous Huxley

“Anticipation makes the hard-on longer.” ~ Itsby Stevintary

“Be naughty–save Santa a trip. ~ Anon

“Chastity: The most unnatural of the sexual perversions.” ~ Aldous Huxley

“Desire is in men a hunger, in women only an appetite.” ~ Mignon McLaughlin

“Don’t knock masturbation–it’s sex with someone I love.”

“Don’t worry, it only seems kinky the first time. ~ Anon

“Familiarity breeds contempt–and children.” ~ Mark Twain

“For women the best aphrodisiacs are words. The G-spot is in the ears. He who looks for it below there is wasting his time.” ~ Isabel Allende

“Having sex is like playing bridge. If you don’t have a good partner, you’d better have a good hand.”

“He in a few minutes ravished this fair creature, or at least would have ravished her, if she had not, by a timely compliance, prevented him.” ~ Henry Fielding

“How lucky we are that we can reach our genitals instead of that spot on our back that itches.” ~ Flash Rosenberg

“I know nothing about sex, because I was always married.” ~ Zsa Zsa Gabor

“I once knew a woman who offered her honor
So I honored her offer
And all night long I was on her and off her.” ~ Anon

“I regret to say that we of the FBI are powerless to act in cases of oral-genital intimacy, unless it has in some way obstructed interstate commerce.” ~ J. Edgar Hoover

“I thank God I was raised Catholic, so sex will always be dirty.” ~ John Waters

“I think I could fall madly in bed with you.” ~ Anon

“I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them.” ~ Jay McInerney

“I’m all for bringing back the birch, but only between consenting adults.” ~ Gore Vidal

“I’m at the age where food has taken the place of sex in my life. In fact, I’ve just had a mirror put over my kitchen table.” ~ Rodney Dangerfield

“Is sex dirty? Only if it’s done right.”

“It is not economical to go to bed early to save the candles if the result is twins.” ~ Chinese Proverb

“I’ve been around so long, I knew Doris Day before she was a virgin.” ~ Groucho Marx

“Kinky is using a feather. Perverted is using the whole chicken.” ~ Anon

“Life in Lubbock, Texas taught me two things: One is that God loves you and you’re going to burn in hell. The other is that sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth, and you should save it for someone you love.” ~ Butch Hancock

“Literature is mostly about having sex and not much about having children; life is the other way around.” ~ David Lodge

“Love is the answer, but while you’re waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions.”

“Masturbation: the primary sexual activity of mankind. In the nineteenth century it was a disease; in the twentieth, it’s a cure.” ~ Thomas Szasz

“Men are those creatures with two legs and eight hands.” ~ Jayne Mansfield

“Men reach their sexual peak at eighteen. Women reach theirs at thirty-five. Do you get the feeling that God is playing a practical joke?” ~Rita Rudner

“My brain: it’s my second favorite organ.”

“My father told me all about the birds and the bees–the liar. I went steady with a woodpecker till I was twenty-one” ~ Bob Hope

“My girlfriend said to me in bed last night: ‘you’re a pervert.’ I said, ‘That’s a big word for a girl of nine.'” ~ Emo Philips

“My love life is terrible. The last time I was inside a woman was when I visited the Statue of Liberty.”

“My reaction to porn films is as follows: After the first ten minutes, I want to go home and screw. After the first 20 minutes, I never want to screw again as long as I live.” ~Erica Jong

“My wife is a sex object–every time I ask for sex, she objects.” ~ Les Dawson

“Nothing risqué, nothing gained.” ~ Alexander Woollcott

“Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man.” ~ Mignon McLaughlin

“Obscenity is whatever gives the Judge an erection.” ~ Anon

“Pornography is in the loin of the beholder.” ~ Charles Rembar

“Pornography is literature designed to be read with one hand.” ~ Angela Lambert

“Pornography is supposed to arouse sexual desires. If pornography is a crime, when will they arrest makers of perfume?” ~ Richard Fleischer

“Pornography: That which excites, whether from approval or disapproval.” ~ Leonard Rossiter

“Remember, if you smoke after sex you’re doing it too fast.”

“Sex at age ninety is like trying to shoot pool with a rope.” ~ George Burns

“Sex between a man and a woman can be absolutely wonderful–provided you get between the right man and the right woman.”

“Sex on television can’t hurt you, unless you fall off.” ~ Anon

“Sex relieves tension–love causes it.”

“Sex without love is an empty experience, but as empty experiences go it’s one of the best.”

“Sex. In America an obsession. In other parts of the world a fact.” ~ Marlene Dietrich

“Sex: the pleasure is momentary, the position ridiculous, and the expense damnable.” ~ Lord Chesterfield

“Sex: the thing that takes up the least amount of time and causes the most amount of trouble.” ~ John Barrymore

“The big difference between sex for money and sex for free is that sex for money usually costs less.” ~ Brendan Francis

“The difference between light and hard is that you can sleep with a light on.” ~ Anon

“The difference between pornography and erotica is lighting.” ~ Gloria Leonard

“The good thing about masturbation is that you don’t have to get dressed up for it.” ~ Truman Capote

“The only thing wrong with being an atheist is that there’s nobody to talk to during an orgasm.” ~Anon

“There are three possible parts to a date, of which at least two must be offered: entertainment, food, and affection. It is customary to begin a series of dates with a great deal of entertainment, a moderate amount of food, and the merest suggestion of affection. As the amount of affection increases, the entertainment can be reduced proportionately. When the affection is the entertainment, we no longer call it dating. Under no circumstances can the food be omitted.” ~ Judith Martin, in Miss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior

“There is nothing wrong with going to bed with someone of your own sex. People should be very free with sex–they should draw the line at goats.” ~ Elton John

“There’s nothing better than good sex. But bad sex? A peanut butter and jelly sandwich is better than bad sex.” ~ Billy Joel

“To succeed with the opposite sex, tell her you’re impotent. She can’t wait to disprove it.” ~ Cary Grant

“Vanity, revenge, loneliness, boredom, all apply: lust is one of the least of the reasons for promiscuity.” ~ Mignon McLaughlin

“We have reason to believe that man first walked upright to free his hands for masturbation.” ~ Lily Tomlin

“Were kisses all the joys in bed,
One woman would another wed.” ~ William Shakespeare

“What’s the difference between art and pornography? . . . a government grant! ~ Peter Griffin

“What’s the three words you never want to hear while making love? ‘Honey, I’m home!'” ~ Ken Hammond

“When a guy goes to a hooker, he’s not paying her for sex, he’s paying her to leave.” ~ Anon

“When a man talks dirty to a woman, it’s sexual harassment. When a woman talks dirty to a man, it’s $3.95 a minute.” ~ Anon

“When authorities warn you of the sinfulness of sex, there is an important lesson to be learned. Do not have sex with the authorities.” ~ Matt Groening

“Why should we take advice on sex from the pope? If he knows anything about it, he shouldn’t! ~ George Bernard Shaw

“Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place.” ~ Billy Crystal

“You know that look women get when they want sex? . . . Me neither.” ~ Steve Martin

According to a new survey, women say they feel more comfortable undressing in front of men than they do undressing in front of other women. They say that women are too judgmental, where, of course, men are just grateful.
Robert De Niro

Ah, yes, divorce, from the Latin word meaning to rip out a man’s genitals through his wallet.
Robin Williams

An intellectual is a person who has discovered something more interesting than sex.
Aldous Huxley

Anybody who believes that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach flunked geography.  ~Robert Byrne, quoted in 1,911 Best Things Anybody Ever Said, 1988
Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night.
Rodney Dangerfield

Did you ever notice the people who are most adamantly against abortions are people you wouldn’t want to fuck in the first place?
George Carlin

Don’t knock masturbation — it’s sex with someone I love.
Woody Allen

Having sex is like playing bridge. If you don’t have a good partner, you’d better have a good hand.
Woody Allen

I believe that sex is one of the most beautiful, natural, wholesome things that money can buy.
Tom Clancy

Literature is mostly about having sex and not much about having children; life is the other way around.  ~David Lodge, The British Museum Is Falling Down, 1965

Masturbation:  the primary sexual activity of mankind.  In the nineteenth century it was a disease; in the twentieth, it’s a cure.  ~Thomas Szasz

We have reason to believe that man first walked upright to free his hands for masturbation.  ~Lily Tomlin

An intellectual is a person who’s found one thing that’s more interesting than sex.  ~Aldous Huxley

The big difference between sex for money and sex for free is that sex for money usually costs less.  ~Brendan Francis, Playboy, 1985

The art of procreation and the members employed therein are so repulsive, that if it were not for the beauty of the faces and the adornments of the actors and the pent-up impulse, nature would lose the human species.  ~Leonardo da Vinci

I know nothing about sex, because I was always married.  ~Zsa Zsa Gabor

Desire is in men a hunger, in women only an appetite.  ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic’s Notebook, 1960

The hypothalamus is one of the most important parts of the brain, involved in many kinds of motivation, among other functions.  The hypothalamus controls the “Four F’s”: fighting, fleeing, feeding, and mating.  ~Marvin Dunnette

Sex at age ninety is like trying to shoot pool with a rope.  ~George Burns

It is not sex that gives the pleasure, but the lover.  ~Marge Piercy

Sudden acquaintance brings repentance.  ~Thomas Fuller

A chicken and an egg are lying in bed.  The chicken is smoking a cigarette with a satisfied smile on its face and the egg is frowning and looking put out.  The egg mutters to no one in particular, “I guess we answered that question.”  ~Author Unknown

Love is a matter of chemistry, but sex is a matter of physics.  ~Author Unknown

Sex got me into trouble from the age of fifteen:  I’m hoping that by the time I’m seventy I’ll straighten it out.  ~Harold Robbins

Nymphomaniac:  a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man.  ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic’s Notebook, 1960

Conservatives say teaching sex education in the public schools will promote promiscuity.  With our education system?  If we promote promiscuity the same way we promote math or science, they’ve got nothing to worry about.  ~Beverly Mickins

Nature abhors a virgin – a frozen asset.  ~Clare Boothe Luce

A widespread taste for pornography means that nature is alerting us to some threat of extinction.  ~J.G. Ballard, “News from the Sun,” Myths of the Near Future, 1982

You know, of course, that the Tasmanians, who never committed adultery, are now extinct.  ~W. Somerset Maugham, The Bread-Winner

Sex:  the thing that takes up the least amount of time and causes the most amount of trouble.  ~John Barrymore

It is not economical to go to bed early to save the candles if the result is twins.  ~Chinese Proverb

Chastity:  The most unnatural of the sexual perversions.  ~Aldous Huxley, Eyeless in Gaza, 1936

Obscenity is whatever gives the Judge an erection.  ~Author Unknown

The only thing wrong with being an atheist is that there’s nobody to talk to during an orgasm.  ~Author Unknown

Out upon it, I have lov’d
Three whole days together;
And am like to love three more,
If it prove fair weather.
~John Suckling

My sexual preference is often.  ~Author Unknown

Love ain’t nothing but sex misspelled.  ~Harlan Ellison

Being with a woman all night never hurt no professional baseball player.  It’s staying up all night looking for a woman that does him in.  ~Casey Stengel

Sex:  the pleasure is momentary, the position ridiculous, and the expense damnable.  ~Lord Chesterfield

Virginity can be lost by a thought.  ~St. Jerome

The tragedy is when you’ve got sex in the head instead of down where it belongs.  ~D.H. Lawrence

Men reach their sexual peak at eighteen.  Women reach theirs at thirty-five.  Do you get the feeling that God is playing a practical joke?  ~Rita Rudner

Pornography is supposed to arouse sexual desires.  If pornography is a crime, when will they arrest makers of perfume?  ~Richard Fleischer

Kids in back seats cause accidents, accidents in back seats cause kids.  ~Author Unknown

Sex is the great amateur art.  The professional, male or female, is frowned on:  he or she misses the point, and spoils the show.  ~David Cort

The best contraceptive is a glass of cold water:  not before or after, but instead.  ~Author Unknown

Instruction in sex is as important as instruction in food; yet not only are our adolescents not taught the physiology of sex, but never warned that the strongest sexual attraction may exist between persons so incompatible in tastes and capacities that they could not endure living together for a week much less a lifetime.  ~George Bernard Shaw, Everybody’s Political What’s What, 1944

Were kisses all the joys in bed,
One woman would another wed.
~William Shakespeare, Sonnets to Sundry Notes of Music, IV

Having sex is like playing bridge.  If you don’t have a good partner, you’d better have a good hand.  ~Woody Allen

Isn’t it interesting how the sounds are the same for an awful nightmare and great sex?  ~From the television show The Golden Girls

Vanity, revenge, loneliness, boredom, all apply:  lust is one of the least of the reasons for promiscuity.  ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic’s Notebook, 1966

Don’t worry, it only seems kinky the first time.  ~Author Unknown

The reproduction of mankind is a great marvel and mystery.  Had God consulted me in the matter, I should have advised him to continue the generation of the species by fashioning them out of clay.  ~Martin Luther

I am always looking for meaningful one night stands.  ~Dudley Moore

Sex contains all,
Bodies, Souls, meanings, proofs, purities, delicacies, results, promulgations,
Songs, commands, health, pride, the maternal mystery, the seminal milk;
All hopes, benefactions, bestowals,
All the passions, loves, beauties, delights of the earth,
All the governments, judges, gods, follow’d persons of the earth,
These are contain’d in sex, as parts of itself, and justifications of itself.
~Walt Whitman, “A Woman Waits for Me”

When a man goes on a date he wonders if he is going to get lucky.  A woman already knows.  ~Frederike Ryder

Lust will curdle like milk if you don’t keep using it up.  ~Anonymous Voyeur

My father told me all about the birds and the bees, the liar – I went steady with a woodpecker till I was twenty-one.  ~Bob Hope

Do infants enjoy infancy as much as adults enjoy adultery?  ~Murray Banks

I once knew a woman who offered her honor
So I honored her offer
And all night long I was on her and off her.
~Author Unknown

Those who have prophesied dreadful consequences as a result of the greater sexual freedom which the young assert – unwanted babies, venereal disease and so on – are usually the very same people who seek the fulfillment of their prophecies by opposing the free availability to the young of contraception and the removal of the stigma and mystification that surround venereal disease.  ~Colin Ward, Anarchy in Action

Be naughty – save Santa a trip.  ~Author Unknown

To know the difference between erotica and pornography you must first know the difference between naked and nude.  ~Bernard Poulin

Don’t do it behind the garden gate.
Love is blind but the neighbors ain’t!
~Author Unknown

An erection is like the Theory of Relativity – the more you think about it, the harder it gets.  ~Author Unknown

Men are those creatures with two legs and eight hands.  ~Jayne Mansfield

I’m all for bringing back the birch, but only between consenting adults.  ~Gore Vidal

The difference between light and hard is that you can sleep with a light on.  ~Author Unknown

Older women are best because they always think they may be doing it for the last time.  ~Ian Fleming

Kinky is using a feather.  Perverted is using the whole chicken.  ~Author Unknown

I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them.  ~Jay McInerney

I’d like to meet the man who invented sex and see what he’s working on now.  ~Author Unknown

A student undergoing a word-association test was asked why a snowstorm put him in mind of sex.  He replied frankly:  “Because everything does.”  ~Honor Tracy

How lucky we are that we can reach our genitals instead of that spot on our back that itches.  ~Flash Rosenberg

The difference between pornography and erotica is lighting.  ~Gloria Leonard

Its avowed purpose is to excite sexual desire, which, I should have thought, is unnecessary in the case of the young, inconvenient in the case of the middle aged, and unseemly in the old.  Malcolm Muggeridge, on pornography, Tread Softly For You Tread On My Jokes, 1966

Playboy exploits sex the way Sports Illustrated exploits sports.  ~Hugh Hefner

Sex is interesting, but it’s not totally important.  I mean it’s not even as important (physically) as excretion.  A man can go seventy years without a piece of ass, but he can die in a week without a bowel movement.  ~Charles Bukowski, Notes on a Dirty Old Man

When authorities warn you of the sinfulness of sex, there is an important lesson to be learned.  Do not have sex with the authorities.  ~Matt Groening

There are a number of mechanical devices which increase sexual arousal, particularly in women.  Chief among these is the Mercedes-Benz 380SL convertible.  ~P.J. O’Rourke

I regret to say that we of the FBI are powerless to act in cases of oral-genital intimacy, unless it has in some way obstructed interstate commerce.  ~J. Edgar Hoover, attributed

Pornography is the attempt to insult sex, to do dirt on it.  ~D.H. Lawrence

I’m not cheap, but I am on special this week.  ~Author Unknown

Love is not the dying moan of a distant violin – it’s the triumphant twang of a bedspring.  ~S.J. Perelman

A million million spermatozoa,
All of them alive:
Out of their cataclysm but one poor Noah
Dare hope to survive.
~Aldous Huxley

Sperm is a bandit in its pure state.  ~Emil Cioran

My wife is a sex object.  Every time I ask for sex, she objects.  ~Les Dawson

It doesn’t matter what you do in the bedroom as long as you don’t do it in the street and frighten the horses.  ~Mrs. Patrick Campbell

A woman occasionally is quite a serviceable substitute for masturbation.  ~Karl Kraus

During sex I fantasize that I’m someone else.  ~Richard Lewis

Never let the little head do the thinking for the big head.  ~Author unknown, advice to teenage boys, quoted in Friendly Advice compiled by Jon Winokur

Our love could change the orbit of the earth.  So, if a meteor ever comes hurtling towards earth with the guarantee of destruction, top scientists may call on us to, well, you know, do it like crazy for the sake of humankind.  ~Author Unknown

Nothing risqué, nothing gained.  ~Alexander Woollcott

Pornography tells lies about women.  But pornography tells the truth about men.  ~John Stoltenberg

To succeed with the opposite sex, tell her you’re impotent.  She can’t wait to disprove it.  ~Cary Grant

My message to businessmen of this country when they go abroad on business is that there is one thing above all they can take with them to stop them catching AIDS, and that is the wife.  ~Edwina Currie, quoted in The Observer, 15 February 1987

The common thread that binds nearly all animal species seems to be that males are willing to abandon all sense and decorum, even to risk their lives, in the frantic quest for sex.  ~Randy Thornhill and Craig T. Palmer, A Natural History of Rape

Now, if groups like Moral Majority have their way, there won’t be any sex education at school, and our kids will be the dumbest in the world when it comes to sex…. But our parents are sexually retarded too…. Fear and primitive morals are creating a sexual pressure-cooker in this country and soon the top will blow…. Only in the U.S. do we find children drawing a picture of a baby coming from the clouds or from under a cabbage leaf. ~Floyd Martinson

Lord, grant me chastity and continence… but not yet.
St. Augustine

My family never raised me to have a vagina.
Roseanne

My girlfriend always laughs during sex –no matter what she’s reading.
Steve Jobs (Founder, Apple Computers)

My mother never saw the irony in calling me a son-of-a-bitch.
Jack Nicholson

Of the delights of this world man cares most for sexual intercourse, yet he has left it out of his heaven.
Mark Twain

One half of the world cannot understand the pleasures of the other.
Jane Austen

See, the problem is that God gives men a brain and a penis, and only enough blood to run one at a time.
Robin Williams

Sex alleviates tension. Love causes it.
Woody Allen

Sex at age 90 is like trying to shoot pool with a rope.
George Burns

Sex concentrates on what is on the outside of the individual. It’s funny because I think it’s better inside.
Alex Walsh

Sex is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation. The other eight are unimportant.
George Burns

The tragedy of sexual intercourse is the perpetual virginity of the soul.  ~William B. Yeats

Sex on television can’t hurt you unless you fall off.  ~Author Unknown

Flies spread disease – keep yours zipped.  ~Author Unknown

Remember, if you smoke after sex you’re doing it too fast.  ~Woody Allen

Don’t knock masturbation – it’s sex with someone I love.  ~Woody Allen

For the first time in history, sex is more dangerous than the cigarette afterward.  ~Jay Leno

Sex is not the answer.  Sex is the question.  “Yes” is the answer.  ~Swami X

Men get laid, but women get screwed.  ~Quentin Crisp

It is bad enough that people are dying of AIDS, but no one should die of ignorance.  ~Elizabeth Taylor

When a guy goes to a hooker, he’s not paying her for sex, he’s paying her to leave.  ~Author Unknown

A dirty book is rarely dusty.  ~Author Unknown

Sex.  In America an obsession.  In other parts of the world a fact.  ~Marlene Dietrich

When a man talks dirty to a woman, it’s sexual harassment.  When a woman talks dirty to a man, it’s $3.95 a minute.  ~Author Unknown

Life in Lubbock, Texas, taught me two things:  One is that God loves you and you’re going to burn in hell.  The other is that sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth and you should save it for someone you love.  ~Butch Hancock

To hear many religious people talk, one would think God created the torso, head, legs and arms, but the devil slapped on the genitals.  ~Don Schrader

The best sex education for kids is when Daddy pats Mommy on the fanny when he comes home from work.  ~William H. Masters

There are three possible parts to a date, of which at least two must be offered:  entertainment, food, and affection.  It is customary to begin a series of dates with a great deal of entertainment, a moderate amount of food, and the merest suggestion of affection.  As the amount of affection increases, the entertainment can be reduced proportionately.  When the affection is the entertainment, we no longer call it dating.  Under no circumstances can the food be omitted.  ~Miss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behaviour

No matter how much cats fight, there always seem to be plenty of kittens.  ~Abraham Lincoln

My reaction to porn films is as follows:  After the first ten minutes, I want to go home and screw.  After the first 20 minutes, I never want to screw again as long as I live.  ~Erica Jong, Playboy Magazine, September 1975

Familiarity breeds contempt – and children.  ~Mark Twain, Notebooks, 1935

What is commonly called love, namely the desire of satisfying a voracious appetite with a certain quantity of delicate white human flesh.  ~Henry Fielding

Sex is God’s joke on human beings.  ~Bette Davis

Love is the answer, but while you are waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions.  ~Woody Allen

Against diseases here the strongest fence
Is the defensive vertue, Abstinence.
~Robert Herrick, “Abstinence”

Life without sex might be safer but it would be unbearably dull.  It is the sex instinct which makes women seem beautiful, which they are once in a blue moon, and men seem wise and brave, which they never are at all.  Throttle it, denaturalize it, take it away, and human existence would be reduced to the prosaic, laborious, boresome, imbecile level of life in an anthill.  ~Henry Louis Mencken

AIDS obliges people to think of sex as having, possibly, the direst consequences:  suicide.  Or murder.  ~Susan Sontag

There is nothing wrong with going to bed with someone of your own sex.  People should be very free with sex, they should draw the line at goats.  ~Elton John

There’s nothing better than good sex.  But bad sex?  A peanut butter and jelly sandwich is better than bad sex.  ~Billy Joel

The natural man has only two primal passions, to get and beget.  ~William Osler

The good thing about masturbation is that you don’t have to get dressed up for it.  ~Truman Capote

Sex relieves tension – love causes it.  ~Woody Allen

If you use the electric vibrator near water, you will come and go at the same time.  ~Louise Sammons

Men wake up aroused in the morning.  We can’t help it.  We just wake up and we want you.  And the women are thinking, “How can he want me the way I look in the morning?”  It’s because we can’t see you.  We have no blood anywhere near our optic nerve.  ~Sean Morey

I think I could fall madly in bed with you.  ~Author Unknown

Whoever called it necking was a poor judge of anatomy.  ~Groucho Marx

Sex is emotion in motion.  ~Mae West

Love’s mysteries in souls do grow,
But yet the body is his book.
~John Donne, Extasy

Why should we take advice on sex from the pope?  If he knows anything about it, he shouldn’t!  ~George Bernard Shaw

I thank God I was raised Catholic, so sex will always be dirty.  ~John Waters

For women the best aphrodisiacs are words.  The G-spot is in the ears.  He who looks for it below there is wasting his time.  ~Isabel Allende

Sex without love is an empty experience, but as empty experiences go it’s one of the best.  ~Woody Allen

Sex between a man and a woman can be absolutely wonderful – provided you get between the right man and the right woman.  ~Woody Allen

There are a number of mechanical devices which increase sexual arousal, particularly in women. Chief among these is the Mercedes-Benz 380SL.
Lynn Lavner

There’s a new medical crisis. Doctors are reporting that many men are having allergic reactions to latex condoms. They say they cause severe swelling. So what’s the problem?
Dustin Hoffman

There’s very little advice in men’s magazines, because men think, I know what I’m doing. Just show me somebody naked.
Jerry Seinfeld

When a man goes on a date, he wonders if he is going to get lucky. A woman already knows.
Frederike Ryder

Women complain about premenstrual syndrome, but I think of it as the only time of the month that I can be myself.
Roseanne

Women might be able to fake orgasms. But men can fake whole relationships
Sharon Stone

Women need a reason to have sex Men just need a place.
Billy Crystal

You know “that look” women get when they want sex? Me neither.
Steve Martin

What is sexual abuse?

Any act of sexual nature in which a child is involved is sexual abuse. It can be with touch or without touch. One must understand that no sexual abuse is small. The impact is deep on the psyche of the child.

Sexual abuse involving touch:

• Any touch with sexual intent even fondling, kissing, hugging
• Making a child touch sexual organs
• Luring child to do oral sex
• Penetrating a child’s vagina or anus with penis or any object. It need not be full penetration, even the slightest is abuse.

Non touch sexual abuse:

• Indecent exposure or exhibitionism in front of a child
• Asking child to undress
• Exposing children to pornographic material
• Exposing a child to the acts of sex involving single person, couple or more

In addition sexual abuse can occur as sexual exploitation that includes:

• Engaging a child for the purposes of prostitution
• Film, photograph or model a child indecently or for pornography.

Effects of sexual abuse

The effects of sexual abuse are deep and far reaching. It destroys trust and creates feelings of guilt, shame, anger and insecurity. This can further extend to distortions in personality development, loss of self esteem, identity disorder and serious emotional problems like depression. The development of socialization gets affected and can lead to anti social behavior. It can also affect development of healthy sexuality and intimate relationships.

Identification of sexual abuse:

• Child narrates it
• Discovered by family member or other witness
• Emotional state of child
• STD or pregnancy of child

Indications in small children:

• Causeless crying
• Fear
• Nausea or Vomiting
• Loss of appetite
• Sleep problems

Indications in older children:

• Problems of sleep or eating
• Fear or stranger anxiety
• Nightmares
• Bed wetting
• Emotional disturbances
• Avoidance of family, friends or school
• Falling performance
• Depression or aggression

Safety measures:

• Keep your mind alert to potential abuse
• Do not leave small children alone or in untrustworthy company
• Children in group are safer
• Teach children about good and bad touch
• Teach child to say NO
• Teach child not to talk or take anything from strangers
• Keep eye on children and their behavior
• Do not reject their narration as trifles
• Communicate with child and spend time with them
• Select play schools, hobby classes, tutors carefully
• Select children carrying vans carefully
• Protect child on internet
• Tell child not to hide anything because of any threat
• Spread awareness about sexual abuse
• Do not hesitate in taking appropriate action

Treatment

• Reassure child
• Treat acute complaints
• Prevent recurrence
• Take help of child psychologist
• Long term counseling and therapy

Sexual harassment refers to bullying or harassment of a person of sexual nature like request for sexual favors, unwanted sexual advances, creating conditions with sexual intent or any other verbal or physical harassment of sexual nature. It ranges from mild advance to severe sexual assault. It can occur in home, school, college, place of work, religious place etc.

The victim

Victim can be a single person or many people. Usually victim is one on whom harasser can exert influence. It can be one time incident or repeated. Both males and females can be victims.

Who is the harasser?

Most of the harasser bully and take advantage of position and power. Harasser can be stranger, boss, coworker, guardian, teacher, friend, room mate, warden, guide or guru. Both males and females can be harasser.

Types of harassment:

Public harassment – Where harassment done on one or more in presence of others.

Private harassment – Where a restrained public image is maintained and in private it changes to harassment.

Types of harassers:

• Predatory harasser  – They seek prey and gets sexual thrills from humiliating the victim.
• Dominant harasser  – They harass the victim and get ego boost as reward.
• Strategic harasser – They design strategies to victimize. These are mostly private harasser.
• Territorial harasser- They have a territory like boss in office or teacher in class or warden in hostel. The victim feels no where to go and suffer.

Prevention of harassment

• Do not feel weak or helpless
• Prevent early
• Do not give ‘opportunity’
• Confident body language will keep them away
• Do not tolerate
• Raise voice
• Say clear and strong NO
• Attend workshops or help groups

Effect of sexual harassment

• Mild annoyance
• Stress and anger
• Insecurity and PTSD
• Guilt and shame
• Loss of trust
• Depression
• Social problems
• Falling performance
• Deteriorating personality
• Loss – financial, job, education
• Health problems
• Feeling of loss of honor
• Defamation of character
• Public humiliation
• Isolation in society
• Retaliation on making complaint

Management

• Gather yourself
• Support from family and friends
• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Stress management
• Support groups

Social networking sites are now part of life. These have become a mode of instant connect with people even strangers. With availability of laptops and smart phones, internet and social networking sites are now everywhere including classroom and bedroom. People share many things and are finding it easy to come up with inner feelings, needs, desires and choices. This makes such platforms just more than fertile for sex proliferation. And this is not only between intimate friends but also with absolute strangers.

How social networking sites are playing a part in human sexuality?

These are:

• Easy connect and access to others intimate feelings
• Getting ‘exposed’ to sexual world at early age
• Sharing thoughts, pictures, videos with direct or indirect sexual reference
• Creating fake profiles to indulge in all forms of sexual behavior without risk of social disrepute.
• Online or virtual stalking
• Connecting with and exploring possibility of sex with new people. These could be in own network, friends of friends, new friends and even unknown people.
• Staying in touch with ‘ex’
• Joining such groups which helps people to find new ‘like minded’ partners
• Online or Cyber Sex
• Sex workers and sex business is now active on such sites looking for clients
• Sex tourism

The debate

The debate is about role of social networking sites in

• Sexual crimes like abuse, harassment and rape
• Early sexual exposure
• Unhealthy and high risk sexual behavior
• Complicating relationships
• Sex business

Those who defend says that all this was present even before arrival of online sites and is also there among those who are not active on such sites.

Those critical says that such sites facilitates and motivates such behavior. Such sites are bad for young minds that learn such wrong things unchecked.

What can be done?

• Site owners must check illegal and indecent content
• Fake profiles must be checked
• Children must be made aware of caution on such sites
• Observe child’s activity and connections
• Add connections with caution
• Do not share indiscreetly
• Report abuse

• Diminished Libido
• Premature Ejaculation
• Low Sperm Count
• Vaginal Dryness
• Infertility
• Menopause
• Impotence
• Penis hypoplasis
• Diminished Sperm Motility
• Male Climacteric

Acupuncture can be of greatest help when sexual issues are caused by physiological problems. When sexual problems are due to stress and stress related disorders, acupuncture alone can offer significant help. In other cases, where sexual problems are caused by biological pathologies acupuncture must be used in conjunction with traditional Chinese herbal medicine to effect improvement. Once the cause of the problem is discovered, specific points are stimulated to alter various biochemical and physiological conditions in order to strengthen both the mind and body to bring you back to prime sexual health.

Acupuncture is based on the theory that there are 14 main energy pathways that run from head to toe along the body. A symptom or a disorder occurs when there is an imbalance in flow in these pathways. It involves placing very fine needles in various parts of the body to relieve pain or stress. The insertion of hair fine needles regulates the blood flow to the genitals which could increase sexual pleasure, ability to get and maintain an erection, and improve overall libido and stamina. By restoring the balance of Ying and Yang energy, acupuncture will revitalize sexual desire and potency.  Although, acupuncture can also benefit a patient with an excessive sexual desire, that hinders a healthy lifestyle.  In this case, by the power to tranquilize the spirit and redirect Blood and Qi, acupuncture can help the patient to obtain sexual harmony. Your acupuncturist will be able to work with your body to restore that healthy homeostatic balance.

Benefits of acupuncture

• Low risk of adverse reaction or side effect
• It works synergistically to treat the whole person
• Improves and balances sexual hormones
• Improves libido and sexual functions
• Treats sexual disorders naturally

Five Stages of Addiction

• Early exposure. Most girls and boys who get addicted to porn start early. They see the stuff when they are very young, and they get their foot in the door.
• Addiction. Later it becomes addiction. It becomes a regular part of your life. You’re hooked. You can’t quit.
• Escalation. After a while, escalation begins. You start to look for more and more graphic porn. You start using porn that would have disgusted you when you started. Now it excites you.
• Desensitization. Eventually, you start to become numb. Even the most graphic, degrading porn doesn’t excite you anymore. You become desperate to feel the same thrill again but can’t find it.
• Acting out sexually. At this point, many men make a dangerous jump and start acting out sexually. They move from the paper and plastic images of porn to the real world.

How to break the cycle

Some excellent options include:

• Staying busy with friends and family
• Scheduling other gratifying activities such as vacations or fun outings
• Regular Exercise can produces the same endorphins as pornography and can help the post-porn crash feel less overwhelming.
• Enlisting the assistance of a friend, family member or partner to maintain accountability

Treatment options

There are several excellent treatment options available for people struggling with both compulsive use of pornography and its aftereffects. These include therapy, medication, 12-step programs and sexual education. Many people find that they are simply unable to quit porn and the consequences of porn to their intimate lives, relationships and sexual performance are too high to manage on their own. So, don’t waste time suffering in silence. Seek help immediately.

Some are:

• Counseling
• Psychotherapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Constitutional homeopathy
• Acupuncture, acupressure and reflexology

The excessive and repeated sexual fantasies and behaviors will have left the addict’s life in a downward spiral. It can wrecks ­marriages, ­destroys ­careers, and saps self-worth.In addition, the problem of sex addiction often leads to feelings of guilt and shame. A sex addict also feels a lack of control over the behavior, despite negative consequences (financial, health, social, and emotional).For some people, the sex addiction progresses to involve illegal activities, such as exposing oneself in public, making obscene phone calls, or molestation.

Signs of sexual addiction include:

• Compulsive masturbation (self-stimulation)
• Inability to have self control
• Sex becoming more important than any other thing in life
• Inclination towards One Night Stand and Multiple affairs (extra-marital affairs)
• Multiple or anonymous sexual partners and/or one-night stands
• Consistent use of pornography
• Constantly seeking sexual material
• Unsafe and high risk sexual behavior
• Phone or computer sex (cybersex)
• Exhibitionism, Voyeurism or fetishes
• Obsessive dating through personal ads
• Sexual harassment
• Prostitution or use of prostitutes
• Molestation/rape

Problems that people face with sex addiction are:

• Job performance will be severely affected
• Spend excessive money on pornography, phone sex and other sexual activities and devices.
• The risk of contracting a Sexually Transmitted Disease is greater with the addict.
• Suffer from a wide range of emotions, including anxiety, stress, shame, guilt, fatigue etc.
• Sex addiction cause job and social relationships to suffer

Cause:

Possible causes are:

• Learned behavior
• Family discords
• Childhood abuse especially sexual abuse
• Failures in life and excessive stress like financial problem

Diagnosis:
Patrick Carnes, Executive Director of the Gentle Path program at Pine Grove Behavioral Center in Hattiesburg, Mississippi, and a leading expert on sexual addiction in the USA, proposed the following as diagnostic criteria for sexual addiction:

• Recurrent failure (pattern) to resist impulses to engage in extreme acts of lewd sex.
• Frequently engaging in those behaviors to a greater extent or over a longer period of time than intended.
• Persistent desire or unsuccessful efforts to stop, reduce, or control those behaviors.
• Inordinate amount of time spent in obtaining sex, being sexual, or recovering from sexual experience.
• Preoccupation with the behavior or preparatory activities.
• Frequently engaging in violent sexual behavior when expected to fulfill occupational, academic, domestic, or social obligations.
• Continuation of the behavior despite knowledge of having a persistent or recurrent social, academic, financial, psychological, or physical problem that is caused or exacerbated by the behavior.
• Need to increase the intensity, frequency, number, or risk of behaviors to achieve the desired effect, or diminished effect with continued behaviors at the same level of intensity, frequency, number, or risk.
• Giving up or limiting social, occupational, or recreational activities because of the behavior.
• Resorting to distress, anxiety, restlessness, or violence if unable to engage in the behavior at times relating to SRD (Sexual Rage Disorder).

Treatment of sexual addiction

It focuses on controlling the addictive behavior and helping the person develop a healthy sexual life. It includes the following treatments:

• Education about healthy sexuality
• Individual counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex Therapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Constitutional Homeopathy
• Acupuncture , Acupressure and Reflexology
• Marital and/or family therapy
• Support groups like Sexoholic Anonymous SA and 12 step recovery programs for people with sexual addiction
• Medications used to treat obsessive-compulsive disorder may be used to curb the compulsive nature of the sex addiction.

Aversion of sex is a condition where people try to avoid sexual activity. It is found to be more common among women than men. The aversion may take a number of different forms; it may be related to specific aspects of sexual intercourse, such as the sight of the partner’s genitals or the smell of his or her body secretions, but it may include kissing, hugging, and petting as well as intercourse itself. In some cases the person with sexual aversion disorder avoids any form of sexual contact; others, however, are not upset by kissing and caressing, and are able to proceed normally until genital contact occurs. The most common causes of sexual aversion are interpersonal problems and traumatic experiences. Traumatic experiences include rape, incest, molestation, or other forms of sexual abuse. Interpersonal problems include major disagreements over children, money, and family roles; domestic violence; lack of personal hygiene on the partner’s side; or similar problems.

There are four main sub-classifications of sexual aversion disorder.

• Generalized – This is aversion to sex with any partner and in every situation.
• Situational – This is aversion to sex with a specific partner or aversion to sex in a specific set of circumstances.
• Acquired – This is an aversion to sex that happened after a traumatic experience.
• Lifelong – This aversion is similar to generalized, but the biggest difference between the two is that the generalized sub-classification means the woman’s aversion has been present for only a certain amount of time. Lifelong aversion, as the name suggests, means that the woman has always had a significantly negative reaction to sex.

What is sexual aversion caused by?

Causes include:

• Lack of interest in sex
• Dislike or disgust of sexual organs
• Negative views told by others
• Bad previous experience
• Bad relationship with sexual partner

Symptoms of sexual aversion

• Dislike sexual activity even kissing and touching
• Dislike or disgust of sexual organs
• Quick or Rushing sex
• Excuses or feign sickness like headache to avoid sex
• Avoiding discussion on sex or expressing negative opinion

Treatment:

Treatment of sexual aversion requires address to feelings of fear and disgust, attitude of partner.

• Treatment of underlying cause.
• Relaxation
• Sexual Fantasy
• Better environment
• Better communication and cooperation
• Gradual progress
• Counseling and Psychotherapy
• Marriage Counseling, or CouplesCounseling
• Sex Therapy
• Acupuncture, Acupressure or Reflexology
• Hypnotherapy
• Constitutional Homeopathy

Almost everyone has sex related queries and issues. These can cause sexual anxiety, lack of confidence, lack of satisfaction and even discord in relationships. Counseling is the process through which one can easily sort out such queries and issues.

Some of the common examples:

• Queries about ‘what’ and ‘how to’ in sex
• Lack of sexual confidence
• Anxiety about sex
• Lack of sexual satisfaction
• ‘Abnormal’ or unwanted sexual impulses
• Sexual thoughts and fantasies
• Queries related to sexual quantity
• Lack of sexual desire
• Safe and unsafe sex
• Homosexuality and other Sexual orientation
• Sexual discord
• Sexual abuse
• Sexual loneliness
• Masturbation
The list is endless.

Why chose counseling?

Sex and sexuality play a big role in everyone’s life. Unsolved queries and issues can cause major frustration which can even affect all other aspects of life including work and relationships. Counseling provides a safe place to talk about any such difficulty or issue. Counselor is trained to help you in understanding and solving the issues in appropriate manner.

Is it safe and confidential?

Absolutely. It is completely safe and confidential.

Benefits of Sexual Counseling

• Better understanding of sexual issues
• Dispelling sexual myths
• Becoming guilt free in sexual experience
• Removal of barriers in sex experience
• Better sexual confidence and ability
• Better sexual satisfaction

– Spoiling relationship. Getting into sexual relationship in relationships where it will not be appropriate to do so. Includes at one extreme are incest and also included are other relationships like doctor patient relationship, teacher student relationship.
– Spoiling trust. Common example is adultery. One may also include having sex with friends boyfriend or girlfriend.
– Paid sex. Most common error. Paid sex can never give you satisfaction. In fact this will always lead to enhanced sexual frustration.
– Forced sex. Very common in society. It is not limited to actual rape. Use of any kind of force. In office boss may use subtle force to have sex with staff. Fear of losing job leads to sexual harassment.
– Sex as favor. Sometimes sex is used to buy favors. Students use to get good grades, staff use it to get hike, in business it is used to get clients or business deals.
– Group sex or multiple partners. Sex which is not based on mutual commitment and love will never give satisfaction. Some people think that we are only concerned with sex, not love. But this is shortsightedness. There will not be inner contentment. In the long run this leads to discontentment, frustration and addiction to sex just like drug addiction.
All this and more such where only motive is self gratification without any respect to norms and values leads to sexual indiscipline and ultimately sexual frustration.
Cross check your sexual behavior, does it satisfy criteria of
– Mutual consent
– Mutual commitment
– Mutual satisfaction
– Social norms and values
If yes than you have high Sexual Quotient. Congratulations ! If no then its time to be sexually responsible.

• Ginkgo biloba – it improves blood circulation in the body, especially to the genital area. It helps in better libido, prolonged erections and improved orgasms.
• Catuba bark – It improves memory and nervousness and helps to treat sexual weakness. It enhances sexual desire, generally be decreasing stress.
• Ashwagandha – it is very effective in controlling impotence. It is very much male friendly herb that enhances the productivity and quality of sperms.
• Epimedium – it is an unusual herb in that it has testosterone like effects and stimulates sexual desire in both men and women.
• Stinging nettles – it help in free circulation of testosterone in the body. This would make men sexually potent.
• Bejbandh – it is good for sex related problems. It controls bad dream and unloading of sperms during sleep.
• Hawthorn – It improves blood circulation in the body, and the increased blood flow to genitals helps in treating sexual problems.
• Black cohosh – it contains at least three classes of compounds that act to balances hormone levels in both men and women.
• Damiana – It is used primarily as an aphrodisiac for both sexes, and helps to regulate hormonal activity and calm nerves.

Nature has many herbs that can increase the the power of people and bring their happiness. For both men and women, Herbal remedies not only improve your sex life but nourish your overall health and enhance your sense of well-being.

Holistic medicine and therapies means assessment and treatment of the complete person, physically, psychologically, socially and spiritually. The holistic approach of medicine or treatment looks beyond just sickness. It considers inter relation of different body function and the factors causing or affecting sickness like physical, psychological, emotional, environmental factors etc. It works to improve the ‘health’ in addition to curing sickness.

The same concept when applied to sexual problems and disorders works with huge success since sexual disorders arise due to involvement of many factors. They involve psycho-emotional, neurological, cardiovascular, endocrine along with environmental factors. For example impotence or erectile dysfunction can be due to single or combination of psychological, neurological, endocrine or blood circulation factor. When managed holistically, all these factors can be assessed and treated to create balance of good health and better sexual function.

Benefits of holistic therapies

• Safe
• Natural
• Effective
• Treats various disorder causing factors simultaneously

Some of the commonly used holistic therapies are:

• Acupressure
• Acupuncture
• Aromatherapy
• Counseling
• Hypnotherapy
• Lifestyle
• Massage
• Meditation
• Naturopathy
• Nutrition
• Psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Yoga

Constitutional Homeopathy is the real homeopathy which assesses the complete details of mind and body. This is a single medicine therapy. Real Homeopathy is based on principal of Similar (the correct matching remedy) Singular (Single medicine) and Smallest (minimum dosage).

Homeopathic remedies are often useful for treating a variety of sexual problems. They are safe to use even if you are on other medications or have heath problems. Because they contain very small amounts of the active ingredients that it will not cause any problems. And yet, they are often very effective. Homoeopathic medicines act by increasing blood supply and exciting the nerves. It is also helpful in sexual disorders associated with psychological disturbances. The homoeopathic treatment gives a feeling of wellness and thus regains the vigor. Some of the homeopathic remedies and their uses are discussed below:

• Agnus castus – If you feel a cold sensation in the genitals Agnus castus is indicated.
• Argentum nitricum – This remedy is useful for men whose erection fails when sexual intercourse is attempted, particularly if thinking about the problem makes it worse.
• Argentum Nitricum – Useful remedy in nervous and anxious men with Complete loss of libido or in whom erection fails when coition is attempted.
• Asian ginseng – It will help increase libido and maintain an erection.
• Catuba bark – It increases erectile function while working also as an aphrodisiac to promote overall sexual health.
• Iodium – A useful remedy in men with loss of sexual power, with atrophied testes.
• Plumbum Metallicum – Valuable remedy for men with loss of sexual and loss of sexual desire with progressive muscular atrophy.
• Others like Selenium, Caladium, Acid Phos, Lycopodium, Nux Vomica, Nuphar, Phosphorus, Graphites, Onosmodium, Sulphur etc.

Homeopathy, being a mind-and-body medicine, treats the patients at the level of the body as well as the mind, which is primarily essential for sexual dysfunction cases. Do not try self medication as that not only fails but makes the case more difficult to treat. See a qualified doctor and regain your sex power.

Hypnotherapy helps with sexual problems by removing any mental pressure around intercourse and performance anxiety, so you begin to trust your body and feel relaxed before and during your sexual experience. Hypnotherapy managed to break through the blockage of the unconscious mind to eradicate a sexual problem.

Under hypnosis you can learn to relax ourselves very quickly. You can turn your negative feelings into more positive ones through positive autosuggestion which, while being in the deeply relaxed state of hypnosis, can go deep into our subconscious. While being relaxed we can then learn to be in contact with our instinctive self, allowing the things we want to happen. We can then start to believe that things will happen as we want them to as what we believe will happen generally does and so we can start overcoming the sexual problem.

Benefits of hypnotherapy

• Enables open and honest communication
• Improves body image
• Acceptance of any past events
• Remove negative emotions e.g guilt, fear, performance anxiety, pressure
• Isolate root cause Improving balance of relationship
• Shifts patterns of past behaviour
• Improve self belief, self confidence and self esteem
• Improves libido and sexual confidence
• Treats erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, vaginismus, loss of libido etc.

Sexual problems and issues by their very nature often have their root causes within our subconscious mind. Hypnotherapy is a unique therapy that uses the subconscious part of our mind to find the root cause of the problem, resulting in a lasting and permanent release from the symptoms.

Most people confuse lust with love; the difference is that while lust is self-serving love is unlimited and unselfish. A few ways to tell if it is lust or love is to consider what you thoughts go through your mind once you see your significant other.

LUST

Lust is the sexual feeling we find arising within ourselves when we meet a person who triggers our sexual responses. Our sexual responses were imprinted into us at an early age probably before age 20 and perhaps most importantly during adolescence.

Signs of Lust

• You’re totally focused on a person’s looks and body.
• You don’t care about anything she has to say
• You’re interested in having sex, but not in having conversations.
• You’d rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings.
• You want to leave soon after sex rather than cuddling or breakfast the next morning.
• You are lovers, but not friends.
• Avoiding the topic of relationship

LOVE

One of the most common alternatives to lust is love.  It is the sacrificial placing of someone else ahead of your own needs, wants, and desires. When you can lay down your life, so to speak, for someone else, you’ll understand love.

Signs of love

• You want to spend quality time together other than sex.
• You get lost in conversations and forget about the hours passing.
• You want to honestly listen to each other’s feelings, make each other happy.
• He or she motivates you to be a better person.
• Whether you’re going out with your male friends or taking your dog for a walk, you want her there with you.
• You want to get to meet his or her family and friends.
• You experience the strange feeling that your life would be totally empty without her.

The choice

Both have their own place. It is for you to make a choice. Sex based on love satisfies and gives contentment whereas lust alone will create further desire for lust and will never get satisfied which in long run will create frustration, disappointment and an unsatisfied life. Choice is yours!!

There are many different kinds of massage which helps in treating various forms of sexual problems and disorders. Some massages are gently and mild while others may be strong and intense.The various movements in massage therapy stretch the muscles, tendons, ligaments and fascia to improve blood circulation, stall muscular spasms and stimulate the nervous system while other massage help in treating various forms of sexual diseases.

Massage may be beneficial in reducing the effects of stress and increasing overall sense of well-being. Massage improves the strength of your sex power and helps you to long last in your bed with your partner.  It reduces stress, anxiety and depression.

Massage oils are available for massaging the male organ to increase the blood circulation. This helps to cure erectile dysfunction and sexual weakness. The oil needs to be massaged above the prostate gland gently. The massage oils help in rejuvenation and aid in longer lasting erections. These oils are made of natural ingredients and they aid in heightening the sexual power and pleasure. The oil has to be massaged for few minutes to achieve a strong erection. It enhances the erection length and size therefore it prolongs the performance giving pleasure to both partners. It increases the blood flow to the male organ and helps in regeneration of the blood vessels in the male organ.

Benefits of massage

• Improve your testosterone production.
• Increase your sperm count and ejaculation volume
• Increase blood flow to the testicles
• Improve blood flow to the penis.
• Helps in maintaining an erection
• Increases fertility

Psychotherapy refers to deep psychological intervention by trained therapist with a person or group to remedy psychological issues. Sexual psychotherapy is the therapeutic management of sexual issues.

Some commonly used Psychotherapies

• Adlerian Psychotherapy
• Behavior Therapy
• Cognitive Therapy
• Cognitive Behavior Therapy
• Emotional Freedom Therapy
• Existential Therapy
• Gestalt Therapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Integrative Therapy
• Interpersonal Psychotherapy
• Mind Body Therapy
• Neuro Linguistic Program Therapy
• Person Centred Therapy
• Primal Therapy
• Psychoanalysis
• Rational Emotive Therapy
• Spiritual Therapy
• Transactional Analysis
• Expressive therapy
• Narrative therapy
• Emotionally focused therapy

Common Sexual issues dealt by psychotherapist

• Sexual abuse
• Sexual crimes
• Psychosexual disorders
• Impotence
• Frigidity
• Vaginismus
• Sex addiction
• Pornography addiction
• Sex aversion
• Disorders of libido
• Homosexuality and gender identity disorder
• Sexual perversion like voyeurism, exhibitionism, fetishism
• Inappropriate sexual behavior

Benefits of Psychotherapy

• Safe and confidential
• Removes sexual difficulties, conflicts and disorders
• Improves sexual behavior
• Improves sexual ability and experience
• Helps in harmonizing sex in personality and life

How can you stay safe?

• Always be protected by using a lubricated, latex condom to reduce the risk of infection.
• Always use condoms if you have vaginal or anal sex.
• Use of condoms is the only method of contraception that protects against both STIs and pregnancy. Even if you’re using other methods of contraception (like the pill or a diaphragm), always use condoms as well.
• Be sure that lubricants are water based. Do not use Vaseline, hand lotion, mineral oil or anything without a petroleum base because these will damage the condom
• If you are having unprotected sex, talk to your partner about the risks involved. Remember your decision about safe sex is important, as some STIs can be cured but some can’t, including HIV (Human Immunodeficiency Virus).
• Do not have sexual intercourse without a condom and do not touch the vagina during a woman’s menstrual period. Blood can contain large amount of HIV.
• Never have sex (even with a condom) if your partner has a visible sore, ulcer or lump on their genitals or anal area. Suggest they see their doctor, family planning clinic or sexual health clinic.
• STIs can be passed from one person to another by oral sex. If you put your month in contact with your partner’s penis, you need to use a condom to avoid STIs. If you put your mouth in contact with your partner’s anus or vulva (outside of vagina) while having sex, you need to use a dental dam (whether you are a guy or girl). This is especially important if you’ve got a cut or sore around your mouth or lips or bleeding gums.
• STIs can also be transmitted if you use sex toys, so you need to be safe. Use condoms and change the condom for each person. Wash the toys carefully after use and wash your hands after removing the condom.

For sexual orientation like homosexuality / lesbianism see – Types of Sexuality in section Sex Infopedia.

Vaginismus

Vaginismus is condition in which any kind of vaginal penetration is painful and almost impossible. This is due to reflex contraction of vaginal muscles and is seen during sexual intercourse, vaginal examination or insertion of tampons. This is not done by the woman voluntarily.

Common causes:

• Infection of vagina
• Urinary tract infections
• Sexual trauma sexual abuse, rape or other sexual assault
• Fear of sex, fear of pain during sex, sexual trauma or sexual abuse
• Hatred towards sex
• Psychological stress like traumatic relationship, domestic violence
• History of trauma near genitals
• Strict conservative moral education

Treatment:

• Treatment of underlying cause
• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Lubrication
• Progressive dilatation
• Hypnotherapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy, yoga

Vulval Pain

Vulval pain or Vulvodynia is persistent, unexplained pain of the vulva, the skin surrounding the vagina.  It is usually burning or needle like pain. It can be associated with discomfort, itching and inflammation. It can be unprovoked which is spontaneous or provoked which comes on due to touch.

Common causes:

• Nerve irritation or injury
• Vaginal infection and inflammation
• Allergy and irritation due to local medication, soap or chemical use
• Vaginal dryness
• Post surgery or childbirth

Treatment

• Local anesthetic gel or Cortico steroid
• Treatment of of underlying cause
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture or homeopathy

Dyspareunia or Painful Sex

In this condition the sexual intercourse is painful, the cause may be physical or psychological. There is complaint of recurrent or persistent genital pain before, during, or after sexual intercourse that is not caused exclusively by lack of lubrication or by vaginismus. It can be generalized or situational.

Common causes:

• Insufficient lubrication
• Irritation, injury or trauma
• Inflammation or infection
• Surgery or medical treatment
• Stress, anxiety or depression
• History of sexual abuse
• Congenital like vaginal septa, thickened hymen
• Ovarian cysts
• Endometriosis
• Tumor like fibroids
• Xerosis
• Uterine prolapsed
• Retroverted uterus
• Post episiotomy
• Post menopause
• With vaginismus

Treatment

• Treatment of underlying cause
• Hormonal therapy
• Pelvic floor muscle therapy
• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Lubrication
• Hypnotherapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy, yoga

Low sex desire or low libido

Low sex desire or low libido is a common condition. This can affect sexual satisfaction and relationship. In addition this can result in low self esteem and depression.

Common causes:

• Diseases like diabetes, anemia
• Post delivery and other conditions with prolactin level
• Hormonal disorders
• Medication like tranquilizers
• Alcoholism and drug abuse
• Stress, anxiety and depression
• Sex abuse
• Negativity related to sex
• Poor relationship or sexual conditions
• Disorder of sexual centre in brain
• Sexual anxiety or guilt

Treatment:

• Counseling and psychotherapy of underlying cause
• Sex therapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy, yoga

Absent or difficult Orgasm

It is not uncommon for females to struggle for orgasm. This creates self doubt, frustration, lack of sexual satisfaction, discord in relationship and depression. It is said that almost ten percent never experience orgasm. A large number experience occasionally or develop secondarily.

Common causes

• Medical conditions like diabetes
• Hormonal imbalance
• Genital trauma or surgery
• Neurological defect
• Drug addiction
• Psychiatric disorder as well as medication
• Relationship problems
• Sexual fears and myths
• Strict conservative moral education
• Disorder of sexual centre in brain
• Sexual anxiety or guilt

Treatment:

• Treatment of underlying cause
• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy, yoga

Lack of enjoyment during sex

Also called Female sexual arousal disorder or Candace syndrome, it is a disorder characterized by inability to attain sexual excitement or to maintain arousal until the completion of a sexual activity. There is inadequate lubrication-swelling normally present during sexual activity. These are of many types: Lifelong or for short period, all situation or situation specific, with cause or without cause.

Common causes:

• Early sexual experience
• Stress, fatigue and general health status
• Psychological disorders and poor self esteem
• Sexual beliefs and cultural impact
• Relationship problems
• Disorder of sexual centre in brain
• Sexual anxiety or guilt
• Addictions like alcoholism or drugs

Treatment

• Treatment of underlying cause
• Hormone therapy
• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy, yoga

Dryness of vagina

Vaginal dryness is due to inadequate lubrication. It can be with or without atrophy. Commonly seen symptoms are itching, stinging, burning with soreness, Pain and slight bleeding during intercourse, frequent urination,  urinary tract infections.

Common causes

• Decreased estrogen as seen in ovarian disorders, childbirth and breast feeding, excess smoking, immune disorders, after menopause.
• Medication like some anti allergic or anti cold
• Douching
• Sjogren and sicca syndrome
• Poor blood or nerve supply to vagina
• Disorder of sexual centre in brain

Treatment

• Treatment of underlying cause
• Hormone therapy
• Lubricants
• Sex therapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy, yoga

Small or loose Breast

Small or loose breast is due to under developed breast tissue. This can be one sided or both. It usually results in low self esteem, poor self image, relationship problems and depression.

Common causes:

• Idiopathic or no cause
• Poor diet and deficiencies
• Connective tissue disorder
• Hormonal imbalance
• Drugs, Trauma or surgery

Treatment

• Treatment of underlying cause
• Hormone therapy
• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy, yoga

Pain in breast

Breast pain is any discomfort or pain in the breast. It is a common complaint among women. The pain may be constant or it may occur only occasionally. Breast pain can be described as chronic tenderness, sharp burning or tightness in breast tissue. There can be swelling, soreness, increased sensitivity to touch and pressure and discomfort with movement. This can be benign or due to some serious causes. Diagnosis is through physical examination, mammography and biopsy.

Causes of Breast Pain 

• Fatty acid imbalance
• Breast feeding
• Estrogen therapy
• Injury to breast
• Infection to breast
• Breast cancer
• Pregnancy or Menopause

Treatment

• Decrease the fat consumption in diet
• Limit or eliminate caffeine
• Wear a sports bra during exercise and while sleeping
• Try stress-relieving measures such as regular physical exercise, relaxation techniques and massage
• Treatment of underlying cause
• Hormone therapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy, yoga.

For sexual orientation like homosexuality / lesbianism see – Types of Sexuality in section Sex Infopedia.

Small or thin Penis

The average penis size when erect is about 5 – 6 inches. Anything between 3 – 5 inches is not considered as small and those with this size can have good sex and satisfy their partner well. Less than 3 inches in erect state can be called as small penis or micropenis. Size of penis can vary in terms of length and thickness. Small size is usually associated with diminished sexual confidence, embarrassment, relationship problems and depression.

Common causes:

• Idiopathic
• Endocrine and Hormonal Disorder
• Result of some medicines or surgery
• Excess fatty body can make penis appear small

Treatment:

• Counseling to remove sexual anxiety
• Hormonal treatment
• Treatment of underlying cause
• Surgery in some cases
• Holistic treatment like acupuncture, homeopathy

Low sex desire or low libido

Low sex desire or low libido is a common condition. This can affect sexual satisfaction and relationship. In addition this can result in low self esteem and depression.

Common causes:

• Diseases like diabetes, anemia
• Hormonal disorders, low testosterone
• Obesity
• Hyperprolactinaemia
• Medication like tranquilizers
• Alcoholism and drug abuse
• Stress, anxiety and depression
• Low self esteem
• Sex abuse
• Negativity related to sex
• Poor relationship or sexual conditions
• Disorder of sexual centre in brain
• Sexual anxiety or guilt

Treatment:

• Treatment of underlying cause
• Counseling and psychotherapy of underlying cause
• Sex therapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy, yoga

Absent, difficult or delayed ejaculation and orgasm

It is not uncommon. The ejaculation may be delayed or completely absent. In retrograde ejaculation it occurs in reverse flow. This creates self doubt, frustration, lack of sexual satisfaction, discord in relationship and depression. A large number experience occasionally or develop secondarily.

Common causes

• Medical conditions like diabetes
• Hormonal imbalance
• Genital trauma or surgery
• Neurological defect
• Drug addiction
• Psychiatric disorder as well as medication
• Relationship problems
• Sexual fears and myths
• Strict conservative moral education
• Disorder of sexual centre in brain
• Sexual anxiety or guilt

Treatment:

• Treatment of underlying cause
• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy, yoga

Lack of enjoyment during sex

Also called male sexual arousal disorder. It is a disorder characterized by inability to attain sexual excitement or to maintain arousal until the completion of a sexual activity. There is inadequate lubrication normally present during sexual activity. These are of many types: Lifelong or for short period, all situation or situation specific, with cause or without cause.

Common causes:

• Poor early sexual experience
• Stress, fatigue and general health status
• Psychological disorders and poor self esteem
• Sexual beliefs and cultural impact
• Relationship problems
• Disorder of sexual centre in brain
• Sexual anxiety or guilt
• Addictions like alcoholism or drugs
• Hormonal disorders
• Hyperprolactenaemia
• Hypoactive sexual desire disorder
• Neurological complaints
• Reaction to certain psychiatric drugs

Treatment

• Treatment of underlying cause
• Hormone therapy
• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy, yoga

Erectile Dysfunction or impotence

Erectile dysfunction ED or impotence is a condition in which men find it difficult to attain or sustain erection of penis for satisfactory sexual intercourse. It is said that more than half of men between 20 – 60 years of age suffer from this at least once in their life time. This may be alone or coupled with early ejaculation. Needless to say it is the major cause of anxiety and depression in males.

Common causes:

• Diseases like diabetes, high blood pressure and their medication
• Drugs like anti depressants
• Hormonal disorders
• Addictions like smoking and alcoholism
• Neurological causes
• Blood flow causes
• Psychological causes stress and other disorders
• Sexual anxiety
• Post surgery
• Due to Aging
• Kidney failure
• Obesity
• Disorder of sexual centre in brain

Treatment

• Treatment of underlying cause
• Quit smoking and alcohol
• Improve diet, reduce stress and exercise regularly
• Hormone therapy
• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy, yoga

Premature Ejaculation PE or Early Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation is the condition when a man ejaculates and reaches orgasm mostly within one minute of sexual penetration and with minimal penile stimulation. It has also been called early ejaculation, rapid ejaculation, rapid climax or premature climax. It is estimated that about 30% of men suffer this problem at least some point during their sexual life.

Common causes:

• Excessive masturbation
• Sexual anxiety
• Poor early sexual experience
• Disorder of sexual centre in brain
• Alcoholism
• High nerve stimulation
• Prostatitis
• Relationship problems
• Low self esteem

Treatment

• Treatment of underlying cause
• Quit alcohol
• Hormone therapy
• Local anesthetic agents
• Medication like short acting SSRI or Tramadol
• Use of thick condoms
• Apply light pressure on perineum before ejaculation
• Pull down testes a bit before ejaculation
• Slow down sex pace
• Shift mind to non sexual thoughts
• Control ejaculation using stop start technique
• Squeeze gently part of penis where glans meets shaft just when about to ejaculate
• Develop PC muscle contraction as one do in holding urine
• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy, yoga

Peyronie’s Disease

Peyronie’s disease is a connective tissue disorder of penis with growth of fibrous plaques causing  pain, abnormal curvature, erectile dysfunction, indentation, loss of girth and shortening of penis.

Common causes:

• Idiopathic or unknown cause
• Injury
• Anti hypertension drugs
• Aging

Treatment

• Vitamin E
• Medication like colchicines
• Surgery
• Physical therapy
• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy, yoga

Dyspareunia or Painful Sex

In this condition the sexual intercourse is painful, the cause may be physical or psychological. There is complaint of recurrent or persistent genital pain before, during, or after sexual intercourse that is not caused exclusively by lack of lubrication or by vaginismus. It can be generalized or situational.

Common causes:

• Insufficient lubrication
• Irritation, injury or trauma
• Inflammation or infection
• Surgery or medical treatment
• Stress, anxiety or depression
• History of sexual abuse

Treatment

• Treatment of underlying cause
• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy, yoga

Priapism or Painful Erection

Priapism is a persistent and usually painful erection for more than four hours and occurs without sexual stimulation. In this condition erect penis does not return to its flaccid state due to trapped blood in penis which does not drain. This is emergency and can cause ischemia, gangrene, disfigured penis and erectile dysfunction.

Common Causes

• Blood disorders like sickle cell anemia, leukemia
• Side effect of certain medication like those used in treatment of erectile dysfunction, anti depressant, blood thinner
• Drug addiction and alcohol
• Injury
• Blood clot
• Poisonous venom like scorpion or black widow spider
• Idiopathic or unknown cause

Treatment

• Treatment of underlying cause
• Ice packs
• Surgical ligation
• Intracavernous injection
• Surgical shunt
• Aspiration
• Holistic treatment like acupuncture, homeopathy

Unusual Sexual Preferences

See – Sexual Perversions

Examples

• Voyeurism
• Sadomasochism
• Exhibitionism
• Fetishism etc

Treatment

• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Holistic medicine like homeopathy

Bored of Sex

See – Sexual Aversion

Treatment

• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Holistic medicine like homeopathy

Sexual anxiety and low sexual confidence

It is the status of having high performance anxiety and low self confidence in terms of sexual abilities. The person is always worried, shuns company and suffers from depression. Person may move towards sexual fantasy or sexual perversions.

Common causes:

• Media hype
• Pornography
• Poor self image
• Sexual abuse
• Relationship breakup
• Other failures of life

Treatment

• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Holistic medicine like homeopathy

Night Falls / Nocturnal Emission

Night fall or nocturnal emission or wet dream is spontaneous orgasm, involving erection and ejaculation during sleep for a male or lubrication of the vagina for a female. It may be with or without sexual dreams. It is said that almost 80 % of population has this, the frequency may vary. It should not be considered as a disorder until and unless it occurs excessively. Excess masturbation is said to increase its occurrence.

Treatment

• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy

Spermatorhea

It is the condition in which there is excessive involuntary ejaculation. It may be associated with fatigue and sexual weakness.

Common causes:

• Excess sexual thinking and fantasizing
• Excess masturbation

Treatment

• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy

Dhat

Dhat is a condition in which male patient complaints of fatigue, weakness, anxiety, loss of appetite, guilt, sexual dysfunction, premature ejaculation or impotence. There is belief that there is passing of semen or whitish discharge in urine while urinating or defecating.

Some of the conditions that can cause this are

• Idiopathic or no cause
• Chylliuria
• Cowper’s gland infections
• Crystalluria
• Urethritis
• Prostatitis
• Pyuria
• Proteinuria

Treatment

• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy

 Failure to consummate after marriage

Inability to establish sexual intercourse after marriage occurs in many couples. The cause can be in man or woman. It can be physical or psychological.

• Erectile dysfunction
• Structural abnormality of sexual organs
• Vaginismus
• Fear or myths related to sex
• Lack of sexual knowledge and skills
• Problems of sexual orientation
• Sexual perversions

Treatment

• Treatment of underlying cause
• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy, yoga

Other Conditions

There can be a number of other conditions which may affect sexual functioning and relationship. Some are:

• Tight penis skin, Phimosis & paraphimosis
• Pain in testes
• Curvature of penis
• Prominent blue veins on penis
• Hidden testecles

Treatment

• Treatment of underlying cause
• Counseling and psychotherapy
• Sex therapy
• Holistic medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy, yoga

The Limbic System – Sex occurs in body or brain. It’s both. But in two the brain plays a very big role. Thoughts, feelings, sensations and especially orgasm it is all master controlled by brain. Now think how and why feeling of sex gets activated.  Sex is pleasure and this is why people want more of it. It is the limbic system in brain which causes this by avoiding pain and repeating the pleasurable. It is this limbic system which results in emotions and desires including love and lust.

The Neurochemicals – The neurochemical love and lust is dopamine. Dopamine is the neurochemical that activates demand of pleasure as reward of sexual activity. It is the same which gets activated when you engage in activities that are required for survival and continuation like sex, eating food, drinking water. The more it is released, more is pleasure and more is craving. Another neurochemical called Opioid are the endorphins that help in experiencing the real pleasure. It is said that watching porn increases dopamine and therefore causes craving or more and more. The excess or deficiency of it causes disorders of libido. Even a small change in dopamine level can cause change in mood, behavior and how we ‘see’ world.

Low Dopamine

No pleasure, lack of impulse or desire, low interest in partner, inability to create bond, erectile dysfunction, sexual anxiety.

High Dopamine

High sexual desire, sexual addiction, high risk sexual behavior, sexual mania.

Normal Dopamine

Normal sexual desire, healthy bonding, healthy sexual activities, sexual satisfaction.

The Cycle

Once satisfied it takes some time for it to rise again. It varies person to person. It can also be influenced by novelty of stimulus. That may be reason behind the boredom in sex and flare up in sexual desire by new sexual ideas or new partner. To maintain sexual happiness with one partner there must be some additional reward to keep the dopamine charging. This further explains why keeping yourself just a little less satisfied sexually in a relationship can keep the interest alive by keeping the cycle in equilibrium.

There is another neurochemical called Oxytocin that creates the bond of relationship.  Also called the “cuddle hormone” or “bonding hormone”it gives the typical lovy gushy heartwarming feeling. It is also responsible for other bonds like parent child, friendship etc. When both oxytocin and dopamine combine, the result can be friendship turning into a sexual relationship.

The ultimate truth of love and sex

Keeping Love high and coupled with low sexual satiety results in neurochemical level balance. This is probably the secret behind successful marriages and the sacred sexuality advocated by sages. In case of dopamine you need more and more of its release to get the same kick as the receptors become less reactive but in case of oxytocin the receptors increase in reaction with dose. And this is the ultimate secret. You get bored of sex but love increases with time.

The love neurochemical oxytocin can :

• Reduces cravings
• It calms mind.
• Increases longevity and survival
• Reduces depression and anxiety
• Improves sexual satisfaction

So if you want to avoid sexual frustration or addiction and have complete sexual satisfaction then GIVE LOVE A CHANCE.

A sex therapist will ask you questions to find out the reasons for your problem. A therapy session will mainly involve you talking about your problem to help you get a better understanding of it. After identifying the couple’s attitudes about sex and the sexual problem, the sex therapist recommends specific exercises to re-focus the couple’s attention and expectations.

Sex therapy sessions usually last for 50 minutes. The therapist may advise you to have weekly sessions or to see them less frequently such as every two or three weeks.

Sex therapy can help a range of sexual problems including erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, vaginismus, dyspareunia, and inability to achieve orgasm. It also helps couples where there is a loss of sexual desire or sex has ceased to be part of the relationship. A sex therapist can help people with various sexual problems, including:

In men

• lack of desire
• difficulty getting or keeping an erection (erectile dysfunction)
• premature ejaculation or other ejaculation problems

In sex therapy the patient is taught various exercises & how to use various body parts in particular way so that erection become good, sustained & patient does not have any fear. Sex therapy for low libido is offered in which the therapist teach the patient about the various techniques in such a way that it increase the enjoyment of body touch better hardness of penis & sustained penile erection & takes longer time in discharge.

In women

• lack of desire
• difficulty having an orgasm
• pain during sex or inability to have penetrative sex

One successful technique for women is the use of Kegel exercises. Kegel exercises involve voluntary contraction and relaxation of the muscles around the opening of the vagina. Women do this instinctively when they need to urinate at an inconvenient time.

Sex therapy is helpful for those who are experiencing sex problems and disorders. It helps in overcoming those problems and regaining an active sex life.

Sexual dysfunction refers to a problem during any phase of the sexual response cycle that prevents the individual or couple from experiencing satisfaction from the sexual activity. Sexual dysfunctions can be a result of a physical or psychological diseases.

Physical causes – Many physical and/or medical conditions can cause problems with sexual function. These conditions may include

• Diabetes
• Heart and vascular (blood vessel) disease
• Neurological disorders
• Hormonal imbalances,
• Menopause
• Pelvic surgery
• Kidney or liver failure
• Alcoholism
• Drug abuse
• Some antidepressant drugs

Psychological causes – These may include:

• Work-related stress and anxiety
• Concern about sexual functioning
• Body image and self-esteem problems
• Marital or relationship problems
• Depression
• Feelings of guilt

Common Problems related to sexual dysfunction in men

• Inhibited sexual desire (reduced libido)
• Erectile dysfunction ED or Impotence
• Premature Ejaculation PE
• Peyronie’s Disease
• Painful Sex
• Difficulty Ejaculating

Common Problems related to sexual dysfunction in women

• Lack of or inhibited sexual desire
• Inability to become aroused
• Lack of orgasm (anorgasmia)
• Painful intercourse (Vaginismus)
• Vulval Pain

Treatments of sexual dysfunction

• Treatment of underlying cause
• Men with low levels of testosterone may benefit from hormone injections.
• Education about sex, sexual functions, sexual behaviors and responses may help a man overcome his anxieties about sexual function.
  • A trained counselor can help a person address feelings of anxiety, fear or guilt that may have an impact on sexual function.
  • Erotic or non-erotic fantasies; exercises with intercourse; music, videos, or television can be used to increase relaxation and eliminate anxiety.
  • Using sexual positions that allow the woman to control the depth of penetration may help relieve some pain. Vaginal lubricants can help reduce pain caused by friction, and a warm bath before intercourse can help increase relaxation.
  • Sex Therapy
  • Holistic therapies like hypnotherapy, acupuncture, acupressure, homeopathy, psychotherapy, yoga etc helps in revitalizing and regaining healthy sexual abilities.

Factors of sexual fitness

• General physical fitness

State of general physical health can affect sexual fitness. Factors like body strength, stamina and flexibility makes the foundation of good sexual capacity. Presence or absence of diseases like diabetes, asthma, hypertension etc influences the sexual fitness.

• Psychological fitness

Is the person mentally ready? Self awareness, self esteem, attitude towards life, stress level, socialization ability all can affect readiness for satisfactory sexual relationship.

• State of sexual organs

Development of sexual organs is must for being sexually ready. Abnormality in this can seriously affect sexual fitness. In addition development of secondary sexual characteristics can also influence how a person perceives his or her sexual fitness.

• State of sexual hormones and sexual physiology

A normal level of sexual hormones like testosterone, prolactin, estrogen is required for good sexual functioning. The physiological functioning of sexual system right from brain to sexual organs must be in order. The sex centre in brain, nerves in spinal cord, the blood and nerve supply to sex organs all play crucial role

• Sexual knowledge and skills

Sound sexual knowledge and skills are necessary for good sexual fitness. Many sexual problems are due to insufficient or wrong knowledge, myths, sexual fears, poor sexual skills and techniques. It is like driving a car without knowing how to drive.

• Skills of relationship and intimacy

Good sex is both physical and psychological process between two human beings. Ability to make a good relationship provides the platform on which the game of sex is nicely played. Intimacy is the spark that ignites the fire of sex. Those who are good in this can claim to know how to make good sex.

How to develop sexual fitness

Following can help in developing the ‘art and science’ of good sex and sexual fitness

1. Physical fitness – Develop good lifestyle, eat nourishing food, exercise regularly. Undergo regular medical checkup and get treated if found to have any sickness.
2. Psychological fitness – Destress yourself, learn time management, improve on self esteem. Learn about intimacy and relationship skills.
3. Sex counseling and sex therapy – This can help you in learning about sexual skills, being sexually informed, remove sexual myths and fears.
4. Sexual checkup – This involves clinical examination and investigations to check hormonal status and functioning of sexual system.
5. Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy – Certain deep psychological issues can be rectified by psychotherapy and hypnotherapy. These can also enhance sexual performance.
6. Holistic treatment – Treatment like acupuncture, yoga and homeopathy can help in overcoming both physical and psychological sexual issues naturally and help in attaining high sexual fitness.

Sexual Mania is the state characterized by excessive sexual behavior. Following things underline the state:

• Excessive sexual desire and drive
• Sexual indiscretion
• Sexual dependency
• Sexual impulsiveness
• Sexual compulsiveness
• Sexual addiction

Causes:

• Damage in Central Nervous System
• Hyperactivity of brain’s sex center
• Part of other medical or psychiatric disorder
• Excessive sexual hormones
• Psychological learning

Diagnosis

• Recurrent and intense sexual desires
• Excessive sexual urges or sexual behaviors
• Excess time consumed with sexual fantasies
• Sex conflicts with other important goals
• Unsuccessful attempts to control such behavior
• Repetitively engaging in indiscrete sexual behaviors with disregard for physical or emotional harm to self or others.

Other similar conditions:

Persistent genital arousal disorder

Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder (PGAD), also called Persistent Sexual Arousal Syndrome (PSAS) and Restless Genital Syndrome (ReGS or RGS), results in a spontaneous, persistent, and uncontrollable genital arousal with or without orgasm unrelated to any sexual desire. It may lead to frustration and even depression.The exact cause is unknown.

Sexual obsessionsor Sexual OCD

Obsession with sex like OCD is involuntary, repetitive, and unwelcome. Attempts to suppress do not help on the contrary aggravates. There are obsessive thoughts about sexual violence, religious questions, and sexual experiences. Sexual obsessive thoughts may relate to self or partner. It may result from previous learning and experience, sexual abuse or deep psychosexual concerns. It may cause anxiety, guilt and avoidance behavior.

Erotophilia

It refers to a personality trait which assesses an individual’s disposition to respond to sexual cues. The response may be positive called erotophilia or negative called erotophobia. People with this trait engage in repeated acts related to genitals.

Treatment of sexual addiction

It focuses on controlling the addictive behavior and helping the person develop a healthy sexual life. It includes the following treatments:

• Education about healthy sexuality
• Individual counseling and psychotherapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Constitutional Homeopathy
• Acupuncture , Acupressure and Reflexology
• Marital and/or family therapy
• Support groups like Sexoholic Anonymous SA and 12 step recovery programs for people with sexual mania
• Medications used to treat obsessive-compulsive disorder may be used to curb the compulsive nature of the sexual mania. These drugs could include Prozac and Anafranil.

Some of them are very common like exhibitionism and voyeurism. Others are rarely encountered. They are said to lead to personal, social and career problems and to extreme may even lead to offences.

These generally involve

1. Non human objects
2. The suffering of oneself or others
3. Children
4. Non consenting persons
5. Conditions or situations

Cause

The causes of paraphilic sexual preferences are unclear. There are suggestions of developmental or neurochemical basis. Sexual abuse and excessive fantasizing can be associated factors.  These are more common among males.

Treatment

Treatment options are

• Counseling
• Psychotherapy
• Hypnotherapy
• Self Help Group
• Homeopathy
• Conventional Medication

There are more than 500 types. Common one’s are

Exhibitionism or Flashing
Exhibitionism is characterized by sexual pleasure from exposure of the individual’s genitals to an unsuspecting stranger. The ‘shock’ is said to give the thrill. The person may masturbate while exposing but actual sexual contact with the victim is rare.

Fetishism
People with fetishes have sexual urges associated with non living objects. The object could be clothing such as underwear or shoes.

Partialism

It involves becoming sexually aroused by a body part, such as the feet, breasts, or buttocks.

Frotteurism
In this the sexual urges is related to touching or rubbing genitals against the body of a non consenting usually unfamiliar person. Commonly seen in crowded places like buses.

Pedophilia
Pedophilia involve illegal sexual activity with a prepubescent child or children (generally age 13 years or younger).

Sexual Masochism
Sexual fantasies, urges, or behaviors involving the act of being humiliated, beaten or to suffer to achieve sexual excitement and climax.

Sexual Sadism
Sexual excitement from inflicting psychological or physical suffering on a sexual partner.

Transvestitism
A practice by heterosexual males of dressing in female clothes to get sexual arousal.

Voyeurism
Sexual arousal by observing an unsuspecting, non consenting person who is undressing or engaged in sexual activity. This may be with or without masturbation.

Bondage or Vincilagnia

Sexual pleasure from being bound or restricted by a partner such as spanking or whipping.

BDSM

Combination of Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission and Sadomasochism.

Zoophilia or Bestiality

Sexualcontact between humans and animals.
Necrophilia

Sexually aroused by dead bodies

Coprophilia

Sexually aroused by fecal matter

Urophilia

Sexually aroused by urine

The list is getting longer:

Sexual frustration

Sexual frustration can also happen when there is a disparity between the sexual needs of both partners. For instance, one sexual partner may think that their sexual life is adequate, while the other may think that their sexual life is lacking.

Side effects of sexual frustration are:

• Depression
• Hypermania
• Stress
• Mood swings
• Low self esteem
• Weight gain
• Short attention span
• Discords in relationship
• Poor work performance
• Poor social performance

If you are sexually frustrated, there may be a solution within reach. Do not settle. Sexual enjoyment and fulfillment is your right and your responsibility.

Ways to get Sexual Satisfaction

Communication: Talk about What You Want

Sharing wants, needs and most torrid sexual desires can be intimidating. Talking about what you’d like to do and have done to you can help to increase your sexual satisfaction.

Foreplay

Foreplay is integral part of sexual activity, which should never be kept away during the pursuit. Your attempts will help in arousal of your partner and chances of better sex are decent.

Sexual skills

You need to learn sexual skills. No one is born with these and no one can expect satisfaction  without skills.

Be Adventurous: Take Sex out of the Bedroom

Try sex in the shower, in the back seat of your car, or against the kitchen counter. Go skinny dipping in a secluded spot outside. Sexual spontaneity and the excitement of sex in a new place can give you an adrenaline rush, intensifying the experience.

Look Sexy, Feel Sexy

A negative body image can distract you from having satisfying sexual experiences. Try practicing yoga, walking or swimming for 30 minutes every day to see positive effects on your body and on those negative thoughts.

STD’s are those diseases which are transmitted through sexual activity be it sexual intercourse, oral sex or anal sex. Fear of STD is common among sexually active people. In case both of you are committed to each other, you are obviously safe from STD. But those with multiple partners can never be sure. In this section you can learn about various sexually transmitted diseases.

Diagnosis

It is a good idea to get you tested. This is simple and can save you and your partner from various major problems.  You may consult Skin and VD Specialist. You need not be afraid as you can keep your complete privacy. The testing involves a urinary sample and the swab sample and blood test. On the basis of symptoms and investigations you will get the necessary treatment. In some cases counseling may be required. Inform the doctor if you are pregnant.

The Conditions

Thrush

Thrush is caused by a fungus called candida albicans, located in the skin, mouth and vagina. Both men and women may suffer from this. The transmission is through sexual activity or finger touch with sexual organs. Additional factors can contribute like tight clothes, excess use of cosmetics. Symptoms include irritation or burning, slight pain when urinating and a cream like secretion. Treatment is antifungal cream, pills or pessaries. Homeopathy is very effective in this.

Chlamydia

Chlamydia is bacterial infection particularly in young people and it spread through sexual intercourse, anal and oral sex. Symptoms include watery discharge and discomfort in urinating. Treatment involves antibiotics. Homeopathy is good complimentary treatment.

Genital Herpes

There are two types of genital herpes, HSV 1, and HSV 2. One can catch genital herpes by kissing and through sex. Once inside body it may remain dormant in your body for quite some time.  Initial symptoms are similar to cold or flu, irritation in the genital area, discomfort while urinating and sores. Treatment is antiviral medicine. One should wear loose clothing, use ice pack and drink lots of water. Homeopathy is good complimentary treatment.

Genital Warts

Genital warts are caused by the human papilloma virus (HPV.  It can cause warts on the hand or genital area and even condition such as cervical cancer. Therefore cervical screening tests must be done. It is contracted through sex skin contact. Warts usually develop between two weeks to few months. Typical wart looks like bump on the skin. They itch or become inflamed. Treatments include a special cream, surgery, heat or freezing treatment and an injection into warts. Homeopathy has proved highly successful in treating this.

Pubic lice

Pubic lice can be found in hair on the body. They can be contracted through sex and through contact of clothing. They feed on blood.  Symptoms include itching, pricks from bites and inflammation. Usually black powder substance is found in underwear. Treatment includes cream or shampoo or lotion. All clothing and bed sheets must be cleaned regularly and separate. Results of homeopathic treatment are very good.

Gonorrhoea

It is a bacterial infection. It is found in sperm and vaginal fluids. It spread through sexual intercourse, anal and oral sex, and by a pregnant mother to her baby. Symptoms include a white secretion, inflammation, discomfort when urinating and local pain.  It is known for complications like infertility. Antibiotics is the treatment. Homeopathy is very effective in treatment including

Scabies

This can pass through body contact. It is an infection of the skin caused by mites. The mites can be found in genital region, hands, breasts and buttocks. Symptoms include inflammation of the skin and itching which becomes worse after washing. Treatment is a cream or lotion. Response to homeopathy is very good. Regular and separate washing of clothes is required.

Syphilis

Syphilis is an infection bacteria known as treponema pallidum. It is transmitted through sexual intercourse, anal and oral sex, body contact and through blood transfusion. Initial symptoms include painless sores especially in the genital area, which are infectious. There can be flu like symptoms followed by rash and warts. Syphilis if untreated can cause harm to the brain, heart and eyes. Treatment is antibiotics, partners should also be treated. Homeopathy has shown very good results in treatment.

Trichomonas Vaginalis

Trichomonas vaginalis is an infection caused by parasites that is in the urethra and vagina. Symptoms include white secretion, irritation and discomfort when urinating. Antibiotics is the treatment. Homeopathy is good complimentary treatment.

Human Immunodeficiency Virus HIV and AIDS

HIV is an infection that damages the body’s immune system. There is no cure yet though can be treated by Anti Viral Medicines. The infection transmitted through contaminated blood, semen and vaginal fluid. Sexual intercourse, reuse of syringe and placenta are the main route of transmission. Symptoms are varied and range from no symptoms, flu like symptoms to various different conditions. Testing is crucial in HIV. Homeopathy has very good results and helps in living healthy.

Yoga for Pre-mature Ejaculation

Yoga therapy prescribes certain breathing exercises, accompanied by meditation and naturopathy. The Pranayamas (Breathing exercises) recommended are:

• Three step breathing (Dirga Pranayama) – 5 mins
• Alternate nostril breathing (Anuloma-Viloma) – 10 mins

Yoga poses Useful for Erectile Dysfunction are:

• Anal Lifts – 4 – 5 times.
• Abdominal Lifts – 4 – 5 times.
• Pawanmuktasana – Wind Relieving Pose.
• Bhujangasana – Cobra Pose

Yoga for Impotence:

• Yoga poses (Asanas) – Sun Salutation, Pawanmuktasana- Wind Relieving Pose, Abdominal lifts, and anal lifts, Bhujangasana- Cobra Pose, Sarvangasana- Shoulder stand, Halasana- Plough pose.
• Breathing exercises (Pranayama) – Alternate nostril breathing (Anuloma-Viloma) followed by Bellow breathing (Bhastrika).

Benefits of yoga

• Helps raise the vibration of sexual energy, so it can be used for healing and spiritual transformation.
• Helps develop sexual potency and improves sex drive.
• Helps cure sexual dysfunction and sexual phobias.
• Increases your overall level of energy and vitality.
• It eases pain for some women, especially sportswomen, hip and thigh tightness can make sex tough, but yoga can ease any pain by releasing that tension and relaxing your hips.
• Significantly develops lower body strength and flexibility.
• Tones legs and buttocks.
• Awakens, heals and balances the Sex Chakra.

Yoga makes you live a healthy life and helps you enjoy it as much as you can. If mind and body are not in optimum health, an individual cannot have fulfilling sexual life. Yoga asanas and breathing exercises provide help in obtaining the optimum health state.

The matter given below is meant only for information and should not replace medical diagnosis or treatment of any condition.

Your horoscope and hands on your palm can indicate a lot about your sexuality. Palmistry and astrology can tell about the kind of sexuality you have as well as the kind of sexual problems you may face. One must understand two things. One, that these are only indicative. And second there are many factors in both palmistry and astrology. It requires a careful study of inter relation of these factors before reaching some conclusion. Do not jump to any conclusion only on the basis of one point.

Palmistry

Lines on your palm and your hand overall can reveal a lot about your sexuality. Some of the important factors equally applicable to love and sex are:

1. Type of hand – A gross heavy hand reveals gross energies. A square hand is practical, matter of fact type. A thin long delicate hand is more philosophical in attitude. Thin pointed hand is more artistic type.
2. Texture – Rough coarse texture can either be towards gross or physical energies. On the other hand soft and smooth reflects refined and more mental energies.
3. Color – Shift towards red reflects warm loving or hot temperaments and good vitality. Shift towards white or pale reflects lack of warmth and vitality. Yellow shift may reflect negativity of temperament.
4. Fingers – Thick fingers reflects love for indulgence. Spread out fingers reflects out going nature.
5. Mounts – Mount of Venus (at base of thumb) is the seat of love. For healthy sexuality it should be prominent but not excessively. Any crisscross of lines on this indicates uncontrolled sexual behavior. Mount of Moon (at outer edge of palm opposite Mount of Venus) is the seat of imagination and emotions. This can reflect your romanticism. Mount of Mars on the both edges of palm determines the state of vigor and vitality. When disturbed it can lead to state of aggressiveness in love and sex. Mount of Jupiter at the base of first finger determines wisdom and sanctity in sexuality. Mount of Saturn at base of second finger if disturbed can lead to infidelity. Mount of Sun at the base of third finger reflects magnetism and ability to attract others. Mount of Mercury at the base of little finger tells about mental and verbal sexual engagements.
6. Lines – Life line tells about health and vitality. Heart line reflects the state of emotions. It can tell about persons inclination and affects in the matter of love and sex. Brain line tells about person’s intellectual development. There can be small and minor lines, symbols or cross at different places which indicates good or bad effect. One line alone can not tell but a comprehensive palm study is required to reach some conclusion.

Astrology

Like said before, in astrology many factors are important and must be studied comprehensively before reaching any conclusion. Various elements of sexuality like vitality, libido, development of physique and sexual system, mindset of sexuality etc these all depends on combination of various factors. Since the horoscope of every individual is unique so is his or her sexuality.

Sexuality of a person mainly depends on:

• State of first and seventh house
• State of lords of first and seventh house
• Strength and position of Venus, Mars, Saturn and Rahu

Possible combinations for sexual disorders

• Afflicted venus, seventh house or seventh house lord
• Malefic stars in ascendant or Libra
• Weak and afflicted Venus in 7th house
• Afflicted Mars in 7th house
• Saturn and Venus in 8^th or 10^th house
• Afflicted Saturn aspecting seventh house
• Moon in Libra aspected by Mars, Rahu, and Saturn
• Saturn in the 6th or 12th house in a watery sign
• Saturn as lord of Ascendant aspected by Mars or Ketu.
• Ascendant associated with Rahu and Saturn.
• Rahu / Ketu and Saturn combine with the Moon.

Attitude

It is all in mind. Learn good sex skills, remain sexually confident and go with positive attitude.

Sexual Skills

No one is born with sexual skills. Get correct information about sexuality, learn sexual skills and develop sexual confidence. Do not aim to be a sexual super hero. It is idiotic to use pills to be one such. Be natural and have good sex in right proportion.

Fitness

Keep your fitness level high. It includes both mental and physical fitness. A dull mind or dull body can never have great sex.

Lifestyle

The importance of healthy lifestyle for good sex life can never be exaggerated. Organize your life with healthy habits and see your sex power rising.

Diet

Good diet can do wonders for high sex power. It improves health in general. In addition there are many food items like melons which enhance the sexual vitality.

Hypnotherapy

Hypnotherapy is in itself very useful in rediscovering your instinctive ability to have great sex. You have an easy interaction between your left and right brain functions and your creative mind comes to the fore.  Your powers of imagination and visualization are enhanced. hypnotic suggestion are given to you to heighten your sensitivity and your expectations and this is very important as well when you are looking for fulfilling, enjoyable and erotic sex. It is also helpful in balancing your libido with your partner.

Yoga

Yoga treats sex as the tool for the continuation of the human race and has a broader view on sex. There are several asanas which help in better sex. A sound mind and body is the foremost criteria for fulfilling sexual life and this is what yoga aims to attain through its asanas and breathing exercises. Following are some of the yoga poses which helps in improving better orgasm, enhanced energy levels and improved sexual power:

• Lotus posture
• Uddiyana Bandha
• Halasana
• Matsyasana
• Supine Pelvic Posture
• Viprita Karani
• Sarvangasana
• Sirshasana

Herbs

There are many very good herbs to increase sexual power & health of men & women. Some of them are discussed below:

• Ginkgo Biloba – It stimulates blood flow to the capillaries right below the skin which means extra sensitivity, extra sensation
• Ashwagandha – This herb boosts energy, reduces stress and has been shown to increase sperm count and the production of sex hormones
• Maca – This herb is used to increase libido, strength, stamina, and energy

Massage

Massage improves the strength of your sex power and helps you to long last in your bed with your partner.  It reduces stress, anxiety and depression. The various movements in massage therapy stretch the muscles, tendons, ligaments and fascia to improve blood circulation, stall muscular spasms and stimulate the nervous system.

Celibacy and Brahmcharya – The real meaning
There are many myths associated with the word celibacy and brahmcharya. Often celibacy is referred to as complete abstinence from sex. No wonder it is left for those who have renunciated world and their entire life is dedicated to spiritual development. It is seen as something impossible for common worldly beings. It is wrongly associated with preservation of semen. One, it gives the entire concept a wrong & narrow meaning. Second, it then can be meant only for men.

Brahmcharya is neither impossible nor it is useless for common people. On the contrary it is very crucial, very much possible and extremely useful for a very happy and successful life. It is the path of righteousness & self discipline where one gains control over impulsiveness in gratification of senses. It is easy to understand that most of the problems of today’s world are due to uncontrollable gratification of senses. There are many problems of physical and mental health due to this. Those who do not have sufficient control over senses find it difficult to create a meaningful life. Those who develop good self discipline, not only remains saved from problems but also are able to create a higher mission in life. And that is what human life is meant for.

The meaning of Brahmcharya is Brahm Charya which means LIVING A LIFE IN WHICH THE THOUGHTS, WORDS AND DEEDS ARE IN HARMONY WITH BRAHM THE SUPREME TRUTH. The core essence of this is self discipline of desires & senses. Since the sexual desire is a strong desire, a lot of significance and focus was given to it.

The discipline of senses does not need complete absence. In fact complete absence may not be the perfect way. Brahmcharya or celibacy is the attitude, the inner disciplined state.  It is equally applicable to both men and women. Both men and women can easily follow the path of brahmcharya or celibacy even with normal physical relationship. Brahmcharya or celibacy, discipline of desires and senses will lead to true love between the two and eliminate lust. Nature has given freedom to all to judge for them self what is due and what undue gratification is. Self discipline is your choice, the more you do it the more control you gain over yourself for a better life.

How to maintain celibacy

• Whether you are entering the priesthood or doing it for personal reasons, remaining celibate can be a difficult thing to do.
• Get involved in different hobbies; better not to be around many people you may be sexually attracted to for a while if this can be avoided
• Avoid temptation, especially at the start of this lifestyle.
• Avoid listening to others’ feelings about your decision, if they do not agree with yours.
• Try to find people who you think will understand you and your choices
• If religion is a part of your decision to be celibate, read the Bible or other religious book for guidance and strength.

Benefits of celibacy

• Avoid getting HIV or Hepatitis C, which can lead to death
• Reduce risk of other STDs such as herpes, gonorrhea, chlamydia, genital warts
• Reduce risk of unwanted pregnancy
• Reduce risk of marrying someone solely because of an unwanted pregnancy
• Reduce risk of abortion due to unwanted pregnancy, or giving up the baby for adoption due to lack of financial means
• Reduce risk of dropping out of high school or college due to an unwanted pregnancy; achieving one’s educational goals before getting pregnant

Harmful effects of celibacy

Although celibacy is not physically harmful, it may be destructive to a relationship if one partner makes a unilateral decision to stop sexual relations – whether due to illness, physical disability, interpersonal problems or sexual difficulties – thus imposing celibacy on the other partner. Celibacy may lead to psychological problems. They develop symptoms such as irritability, insomnia, somatization, or clinical depression.

Creating sexual conditions and situations

• Develop fit and supple body
• Cleanliness is must
• Create better conditions like soft music, dim or colored light, exciting clothing, comfortable room temperature, soothing room fragrance etc.
• Use new ideas, think something new. Not necessarily every time but at least to break the monotony.

Creating sexual mood

• Let there be no guilt in pleasure
• Give it due time in your busy schedule
• No distraction like TV internet games phones
• Connect with partner. Do not just think about your own satisfaction.
• Be comfortable. Sex is no barrier in your goodness as human being or your value system or spiritual growth.

Sexual communication and body language

• Be spontaneous
• Have rhythmic breathing and body motion
• Guide partner about what do you like but do not force
• Be affectionate
• Make inviting eye contact
• Frequently use touches, hugs, kisses

Learning about sexual and erotic zones

• Be aware of your body and sensations
• Explore own and partner’s body
• Massage each other
• Learn whole body sex not just genital sex

Sexual games and fun

• Enjoy and be playful
• Talk about sex, share jokes and lighter side of it
• Fantasize about sex and share with your partner
• You may try role play

Manage the challenges: Like all other aspects of life, it is necessary to work on challenges before you can have best of the experience. Common challenges to sexual satisfaction are :

• Failure in sex: There is no failure in sex. It is perfectly normal to not being able to enjoy or perform. Keep your mind calm and look for cause.
• Unrealistic expectations: The first challenge is to work on your expectations. Watching sex in media like movies, TV, Internet can flare up your expectations beyond reality. But when it does not happen in real life, one feels frustrated and may even look for ‘other’ options. Understand that sex in media is over glamorized and usually has no connect with real life. Once expectations are realistic, the experience is better.
• Conflicts: Psychological stress due to conflicts with your partner can never allow you to have good sex. Connect with your partner emotionally, resolve conflicts and have good sex.
• Boredom: Good sex demands novelty. And it is not necessary to change your partner for this. You may have new ideas, different place, different positions, different ways to add new feeling. Change your fixed mechanical routine.
• Different levels of sexual desire or libido: Not everyone can have same libido just like we have different hunger. Accept the difference. Work on the factors that might me affecting the desire like stress, poor health, hormonal changes, lack of sleep etc.
• Inhibitions and Fears: Inhibitions, fears, guilt, shame due to belief system or lack of awareness can prove a big hurdle.
• Pornography and Masturbation: If one is too much into pornography, his or her ideas of good sex may get motivated by that. This may not get fulfilled in real life. Masturbation may reduce the desire and need for sex leaving the partner unsatisfied.